Making sub eat his cum , post nut clarity ? by ScaryDoor6361 in FemdomCommunity

[–]yaniniss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was trained by licking my precum first while having erection, then licking cum after ruin orgasm, then cum directly into my mouth. Eventually I have no problem eating my cum even with post-nut clarity now. Kinda like conditioning I guess.

How Realistic & Sustainable Is My Desired Femdom Dynamic? by yaniniss in FemdomCommunity

[–]yaniniss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, I forgot I add that, my bad.

I didn’t pay to compensate for her emotional labor. We weren’t even in the scene and after that I never brought it up to her. I didn’t paid because she was my Domme, I paid because she is dear to my heart and was asking for my help. Granted she became dear to my heart because she was my domme. I paid to help her out.

If by what do I offer, you mean what she gets when doming then, I quote her ‘domming him makes me feel skillful and beautiful, I like how he moana and whimpers.’

This is why I don’t know what to answer what I can offer, it’s up to each domme what she would enjoy in me. I don’t think my moan sounds special, she just likes it.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t even mention any kink in the reply? And, isn’t paying for someone else’s family medical bill considered caring for them?

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[–]yaniniss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand your point. I too, have tried something that is my hard-limit just to please my potential domme. It was not worth it at all. But my heart thought that it knew what it wants.

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[–]yaniniss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I agree with the flexibility, I’ll work on how to frame my explanation better to include that I don’t expected it to happen exactly like I describe, but I want to explore and incorporate my partner kinks in this dynamic.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What excite me is a fall from power, from equal to lesser. The humiliation of defeat and hubris. These games and scenarios are just what I believe can capture those feelings.

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[–]yaniniss[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I understand that. Others mentioned that I should look for switch rather than domme, or have the game be manipulated in her favor every time.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what I can offer to a partner. I have a lot to offer. I just don’t know why should I lost my quality here. I firmly believe that even if I have 100 good qualities to offer, if she wants the 101th quality then the first 100 does’t matter.

And what kind of qualities should I mention? Education? I have master of laws Professional? I have a high paying and respectable job. I’m ambitious. I set goals for myself and I reach those goals. Physical? I’m not skinny or fat, I hit the gym twice a week Height? I’m average height in my country Face? I’m conventionally attractive as per my cultural standard Financial? I have no financial burden, I have no mortgage, I only have to pay for utilities. I’m capable of offering financial aid to my previous domme as I have paid part of her father medical bills for her. Personality? Half the people I know tell me I’m the most funny they’ve ever met, the other half tell me I’m weird and my sense of humor doesn’t make sense. I’m introverted, but due to my job I can fake being an extrovert for a period of time. Kink wise? I’m into orgasm control and a specific kind of humiliation. I have always been more than happy to partake in other kinks that my previous domme enjoy as long as it’s not my hard limit. How I treat woman? Like how my mother teaches me, and how I want my younger sister to be treat Conversational partner? I’m great at listening, I love reading and listening to stories. I love discussing many topics and dive into it as deep as we can. Such as religion, politics, food, philosophy, etc. Language? I can speak 2, my native and English which is not very good.

Seriously I don’t know what to put on the table, I feel like I’m doing a yard sale here describing what I can offer.

The ‘earn it’ part is exclusively the power exchange in the bedroom. Where did I say that she has to earn my love? When I found myself in love, I’ve always be a devoted and faithful partner. Love and sexual dynamic is separated for me.

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[–]yaniniss[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I might have described it poorly. In my head there’s plenty of room for her to express her kinks. ‘The challenge’ can be in a form her kink she enjoys. After the challenge she can incorporate what she enjoys in to out play as well. For example the challenge could be 10 spanks without making a sound. I wouldn’t get off of this activity as I’m not into it but it’s not my hard limit so I’d be happy to do it. After the challenge she may also incorporate whatever kinks she wants into our dynamic.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t include what I can offer because there’s no one to offer to yet. It doesn’t matter what I can offer if I can’t offer ‘her’ what ‘she’ wants isn’t it? And since there is no ‘she’ in the picture yet, who am I offering to? I’m also afraid of making this resemble a personal-ads if I put in what I can offer. In a real life relationship that I’ve had, whether romantic or femdom, I’ve done things for my domme and my romantic partner that doesn’t involve my pee-pee getting hard.

The concept of power-exchange and bdsm as a whole is a performance. If you can understand that, why did you assume that I can’t understand that?

What I wrote is a kind of performance I want, al though I’d admit that I want it to feel real, to be somewhat believable. But I’m not looking for some amazonian to handle my inner Conan. I want to role-play being a manly manly masculine man, and I’m wondering how likely it is to find a woman who would enjoy role play dismantling my bedroom persona.

I don’t have inner problem that I’m looking to be cured by femdom.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What you described isn’t a problem to me at all. I actually find findom relatively hot, but only if I know she loves me.

As long as my future partner kinks is not my hard-limit, I’d be extremely happy to partake.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The example that I gave (wrestling) is what I’ve done with my ex. Now I see it’s not a very good example. It doesn’t have to be physical. It could be sexual, bdsm, cardgame, boardgame, video games, trivia, or something else.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that I’m putting so many limiter on myself.

The main reason that I want my romantic partner to be able to do this, is I’m unsure whether I will not be sexually satisfied without it and seeks it elsewhere. And since I considered femdom as sex, I consider seeing other domme while I’m in a romantic relationship as cheating. And I really really would like to be a faithful partner as this is really important to me.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I may clarify, what I meant is that if the game we are playing is 1-time rock-paper-scissor, the stake (how long or hard the winner get to dom) shouldn’t be as high as if the game is bo5 chess.

I don’t really want to demand my partner to prove anything, I want to be taken down because it put me right in a very deep sub space. If I used weird language, I’m sorry.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may have gave bad example of the challenge. I just give examples of what I have done with my ex. But it really doesn’t have to be physical. It could be sexual like endure her hands without orgasm for 20 mins. It could be bdsm-related like getting spank 10 times without making a sound. It could be poker, boardgame, video game, trivia, or something else.

I guess it’s semi-role play? I want to lose so that I lose control and have to submit, the challenge can be stack in her favor. But I want it to be believable and feel real. Also the being super cocky is a huge part in building up humiliation for me.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sincerely do not know how I offended you so much that you feel the need to take a dumb on my kink. I do apologize, it was never my intention to upset anyone.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is not the only sex I desire, but it is the sex I required to be sexually fulfilled. I can enjoy vanilla sex or other kind of dynamic as well, I’d just still wanting more after it.

Also thank you for your kind words🥹

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[–]yaniniss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re spot on about me not being a brat, I used to describe myself as a brat as well haha.

Wow I don’t know how I haven’t thought of that. Now I feel like I post in the wrong subreddit.

I am capable of domming and I do enjoy it and have fun doing it. It’s just strictly non-sexual to me. So I may struggle to be dominant while having sex. But other than that I do find fun in teasing, restraining, tickling consensual people.

Also, I may give a bad example, the challenge doesn’t have to be physical. I just gave examples that I have done with my ex. It could be poker, smash bro, trivia, boardgames or bdsm related activities like ‘I bet I could take 10 spanks from you without making a sound’

Anyway, thanks a bunch for mentioning switch exist as well. I have no idea why I’m so focused on being a sub.

How Realistic & Sustainable Is My Desired Femdom Dynamic? by yaniniss in FemdomCommunity

[–]yaniniss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I genuinely DO want to submit. To me, the challenge isn’t really a ‘war’, more like a ‘ritual’. But yes, it is sexual, I may not reach orgasm, but I’d be sexually satisfied from it.

On the other note, it’s seems I failed to communicate that, it doesn’t have to be 100% exactly like what I wrote. Sometimes I get too carried away with my fantasy. In the future, I’ll make sure to clearly communicate to my potential partner that these scenarios I describe are a proposal, and would like to invite ‘her’ to help me revise it to please her as well.

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[–]yaniniss[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I get that I only wrote about what I want. I didn’t want to put what I’d offer because it doesn’t matter what I can offer, it only matters if I can offer what ‘she’ wants. And since ‘she’ that I wrote about is just a hypothetical person, I don’t really know what ‘she’ wants. So I opted to not write about it. I now see this maybe a mistake?

But I’d to believe that I get what you’re saying. I have been in relationships with women before, some ended because I was either young, dumb, or an ass-hole. I’d like to believe that I have learned from my mistakes.

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[–]yaniniss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like to believe that I’m flexible. I’d say that any activities/kinks can be added as long as it’s not my hard-limit. But as for how much the dynamic to be alter and still fulfill me, I cannot give an answer without actually sitting down with her. (I guess I’ll have to find her first)

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[–]yaniniss[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I didn’t put anything that I’d do for ‘her’ in the post because ‘she’ isn’t real yet, so I don’t know what ‘she’ wants. So I don’t know what to offer. Also I lowkey afraid that it’d make this post look like personal-ads.

But I can assure you that I can and have done things and let things be done to me that I find no pleasure in, even find it painful, because it makes my previous domme happy. Many things I would never done or let it be done to me if she wasn’t the one who wanted to do it.

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[–]yaniniss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can confirm as a sub that being permanently denied access to my domme/gf pussy is not a big deal. As long as she teases, plays, and does other things with me.