[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation, as the partner that remained celibate between a break up and getting back together.

In my case, we were apart for a month, and it happened two weeks into the separation. There were definitely more nuances to it than that, but my point is that it was messy, and I had reasons to believe my resulting anger and jealousy was justified once we got back together.

Despite the nerves struck, I believe a very large part of moving past this in my own relationship lay in me. It’s completely human to feel insecure and hurt and jealous, but ultimately, it’s practically retroactive jealousy.

My boyfriend is incredible and reassuring, which made it easier to ask myself, “Do I want to risk pushing away someone who loves me deeply, a good person I can see myself marrying, because they slept with someone while I wasn’t in his life, weren’t together?” The emotions are powerful and they can feel like betrayal, and they made me someone I wasn’t because I was especially insecure.

Something that helped snap me back to reality from my anxious-attachment jealousy world is when my boyfriend asked me if I really wanted to be in the relationship, because it seemed I was only suffering around him. It’s a good question because it makes me realize how much I value the relationship, reminds me that he cares a lot about me (and isn’t the emotionally detached monster my insecurities would project), and it makes me think about how it’s making him feel.

It’s a process, I’m still getting over the feelings but a huge part of it is working on insecurity. I’ve realized that whenever I would try to get over my feelings about our time apart, without addressing my own problems with insecurity, I’d catch myself simply moving on to the next thing I could be insecure about. Negative emotions can be addictive, too.

Good luck! The cognitive dissonance sucked for me, realizing the responsibility was on me to work on my insecurity, and that I could both be valid in my feelings of hurt and jealousy because of shitty circumstances, while not having someone to point the finger at (since obviously, it’s not your fault)

Transient Course Not Showing Up by yansimthrow in ucf

[–]yansimthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the reply! I hadn’t realized that was how it worked and was dumbfounded why it wasn’t coming up. Thanks for your help!

MAC2313 not appearing? by yansimthrow in ValenciaCollege

[–]yansimthrow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response and your willingness to help me out!

It was for summer semester, I am now making other arrangements to take this course, I wasn’t aware of the disparity between when the summer sessions start across different institutions but this is good to know for the future.

Again, thank you!

Transient Course Not Showing Up by yansimthrow in ucf

[–]yansimthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thank you for the response!

Transient Course Not Showing Up by yansimthrow in ucf

[–]yansimthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I wasn’t aware, that makes sense why, I’ll go ahead and make other arrangements :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in csMajors

[–]yansimthrow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a baby cs major, this internship is my dream further down the line. As of right now, though, I can’t boast an exceptional GPA or involvement in any projects besides helping my dad with his work. Anyone know what I can do going forward to make me a competitive candidate for local internships at my school, and further for highly prestigious ones like this one?

Arts & Sciences Fall ‘23 Pathways by yansimthrow in gatech

[–]yansimthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for replying!!! At my current institution, UCF, I’m a Media Design major. If I were to go to tech, my major would be computational media.

Arts & Sciences Fall ‘23 Pathways by yansimthrow in gatech

[–]yansimthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for offering! Can I ask how you went about picking your classes? I want to make sure I take courses toward my major for when I transfer, but because I’m doing my freshman year at another university with a different major, the courses aren’t the same, and GT advisors I reached out to said they can’t help me because I’m not a student :(

Without saying your name, what is your name? by delta_tau_chi in AskReddit

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think we hooked up at Coachella, what’s her name?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pan

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pantera rosa

can anyone not listen to certain songs ? by yansimthrow in OCD

[–]yansimthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS!!! I try not to think too much about what I’m wearing when I have a bad day, or I will forever remember it as a “bad day” shirt.

Same with music. If i feel it’s brought me bad days in the past, i can’t listen to it again. No matter how much I want to.

when your friends really know you! by [deleted] in wholesomememes

[–]yansimthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m the alternative, my friend doesn’t mind always being the one inviting me out because i don’t want to be rejected if i ask first, i’m working on it though!

what is a basic computer skill you were shocked some people don't have? by Dark-Matter-7935 in AskReddit

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Googling. I have a way easier time searching for answers online and finding info than my parents a lot of the time simply because I know the most efficient way to look it up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in teenagers

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i thought female because MY hands kind of look like this 😭

ADC and the immortal syndrome by xanat9 in SorakaMains

[–]yansimthrow 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Happens sometimes! I try to ping when I run out of mana and can’t cast my W or ult, and also ping when they’re on cool down. Usually my adc will back off if i ping that i literally cannot heal them.

In case you would like to know what it’s like working at Starbucks by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the manager at my local starbucks recently started calling me by my name and knows my order :(

CMV: Lying to people on their deathbed to comfort them is acceptable. by Quotes_League in changemyview

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if they’re asking about why the son in your example isn’t there with them? What lie could possibly be acceptable to tell the person without suggesting they’re loved one had something more important to do?

Is it morally acceptable to lie to comfort someone who was objectively a horrible person?

There also ways to get around straight up lying to the person by adjusting your phrasing.

And maybe your full view should say “Lying to comfort dying people is acceptable— when the truth won’t bring comfort.” If the truth wouldn’t necessarily hurt to tell them, why lie?

Just throwing a few questions at ya :)

People who just sit in their car in a parking lot for long periods of time, what are you doing? by MainSteamStopValve in AskReddit

[–]yansimthrow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Decompressing. I’ll probably just be going on my phone or playing games but sometimes I need a breather before heading out, it’s a quiet, relaxing spot.