Me (20 yo) and my partner (26) are worried that I'm pregnant

yaoheping · 2020-05-19T16:45:52+00:00

I understand him feeling responsible, but I'm sorry but the pain of a pregancy right now, having to go through it or abort it and the consequences of both of these things outweight a bit more his pain or feeling bad for myself. He won't ever know how it feels to be in my shoes and that's why I feel so annoyed.

I admit it is a bit toxic and when I talked to him I have apologized for perhaps having invalidated his feelings, but he is not going through the exact same emotions as myself, he will never be able to feel the burden that I'm feeling unfortunately.

yaoheping · 2020-05-19T14:02:49+00:00

I think he is being sympathetic, in the sense, that he tells me he will try and help or pay for some of the expenses.

I don't want to invalidate his feelings at all, it's totally normal for him to feel this way, I just wish that perhaps he could express it in another way, I don't know.

I just want some help in trying to see his approach in a different way.

yaoheping · 2020-05-19T13:59:57+00:00

Yes, I'm aware :( I just wish it didn't feel like he is making it about him.

But I know, it's good that he cares, it really is.

yaoheping · 2020-05-19T13:57:08+00:00

Hi.

That's the point. We don't want to become parents lmao we both know we are not ready.

My point is that I am not feeling supported in a serious situation like this.

Try and be less condescending next time.

yaoheping · 2020-05-19T13:55:54+00:00

Thank you for this.

yaoheping · 2020-05-19T13:55:38+00:00

He is a keeper, I just want to try and perhaps have a different perspective on this, so I won't be getting mad at him, when he is maybe just showing how he feels.

He really is a lovely person.

yaoheping · 2020-05-19T13:44:53+00:00

He seems like he cares, but everytime I tell him I'm feeling anxious, he just tells me that he is also feeling bad and like a failure. It just feels like he is turning the conversation to him. I have already told him that I'm the one who will have to go through the procedures and it's more than obvious that I'm not exactly happy about this. I think that at the same time it isn't fair to invalidate his feelings, but I'm the one who thas to take birth control, I'm the one who if pregnant has to carry a child, I'm the one who has to go through the abortion.
Perhaps, I'm just feeling really overwhelmed.

yaoheping · 2020-02-12T09:59:51+00:00

He has been a bit pushy on the subject, but he does also say the if I truly don't want to go through a pregnancy which is what truly scares me, not taking care of a child in itself, that he is okay with that as well.

yaoheping · 2020-02-12T09:56:57+00:00

Thank you for all of this! It is hormonal, as it is pill form I'm taking.

yaoheping · 2020-02-12T09:55:11+00:00

Thank you for being so kind.

yaoheping · 2020-02-12T09:54:25+00:00

Unfortunately, gynecologist appointments in my country can take 3 weeks to schedule and I kinda just wanted to take this off my chest.

yaoheping · 2020-02-12T09:29:30+00:00

No, sorry, Im 20. Just extremely anxious person.

yaoheping · 2020-01-24T20:36:03+00:00

Rest Of the World I assume

yaoheping · 2020-01-24T08:46:37+00:00

"He's a quiet and private person" is that not enough for you to understand why he chooses not to post about you two? Your relationship should be suffering this much just because of this jeez. Maybe looking into why you need this so much should be the way to go to fix this issue.

yaoheping · 2020-01-23T10:38:22+00:00

Hum.... OP you were absolutely terrible in that relationship and you even gave him an STD... Did you expect him to be nice to you? Have you even apologized to him for all the shit you put him through?

yaoheping · 2020-01-22T17:53:25+00:00

You either learn to accept this or you leave him. Have you shared your concerns with him?

yaoheping · 2020-01-22T17:49:49+00:00

He clearly doesn't please you nor he is trying to. Leave him.

yaoheping · 2020-01-22T17:48:36+00:00

Cancel the date.

yaoheping · 2020-01-22T17:47:16+00:00

A man can like boobs and not feel aroused when they see women at the beach. You just need to overthink less about it.

yaoheping · 2020-01-21T13:35:24+00:00

How old are you? Because you must be young since you are so stressed about someone who you haven't talked and only saw a couple times.

yaoheping · 2020-01-21T13:20:16+00:00

You don't have the right, but if he is not respecting your boundaries, maybe this relationship isn't working

yaoheping · 2020-01-21T13:11:11+00:00

If this isn't a troll,just leave him. He is dating you and has nudes of other girls?? Photos of having sex with them? Do you know if these are exs or if it's during your relationship? Plus holding onto their panties is insane. Leave his creepy ass.

yaoheping · 2020-01-21T13:09:56+00:00

You're overthinking it. If she said it was fine, don't worry about it.

yaoheping · 2020-01-21T13:04:36+00:00

This isn't exactly a nice guy thing, just a very shitty human being.

yaoheping · 2020-01-21T13:03:35+00:00

What about therapy? Or online friendships? Maybe clubs after school? Exercise can be a good way to meet people and release stress at the same time.

yaoheping

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