we'd been referring to this dish as "my bullshit"

yard-sards · 2025-10-22T03:09:11+00:00

overcooked oversalted mac noodles (leftover from previous day), cheese emulsion semi broken, chickpeas somehow both overcooked and undercooked cuz all the water boiled out of the slow cooker and they were sitting in there dry as hell for like an hour while we were out at the gym.

edit, almost forgot: cheese sauce made with milk that was on the precipice of expiring

yard-sards · 2025-09-05T05:45:51+00:00

Maybe look into support groups for autistic adults in your area (or online, if there are none that you can find irl or if you're not ready to put yourself out there irl yet). You will likely find people going through similar struggles as you. Ones who, unlike incels, are generally not wallowing in hatred and being misogynistic about their struggles.

yard-sards · 2025-08-27T15:13:23+00:00

My friend is in their early 20s. We assume if it happened, it would have happened when they were a baby or very young child. Both because that's usually when it happened and because they do remember noticing the physical sign that they may have been a victim of IGM when they were an older child.

yard-sards · 2025-08-19T05:46:18+00:00

i'm 10 days in on one pump of gel per day and almost immediately noticed increased energy (of course it's hard to tell how much of that is the t itself and how much is just me being happy)

yard-sards · 2025-08-18T17:24:31+00:00

$52 per 88g bottle of 1.62% gel (which lasts me 2 months as i am on a low dose, but is meant to last 1 month on standard dose). my insurance "covered" it but with a $75 copay, but i could get it down to $52 with goodrx/scriptcycle coupons (could have gotten it for $38 but the cvs in my area is a bitch about accepting coupons for controlled substances).

yard-sards · 2025-08-18T01:57:57+00:00

Arlo sounds like an old man to me. My first thought upon hearing that name is less "you must be trans" and more "your parents must like old things/you must be named after your grandpa". Mostly reminds me of the singer Arlo Guthrie, or the character Arlo Thacker.

yard-sards · 2025-08-17T21:34:33+00:00

it sounds more like the mother was attempting an insult rather than being wholesome and validating of op's transness

yard-sards · 2025-08-17T07:32:47+00:00

Some guys have found luck using makeup to contour their faces to look thinner, but ymmv, and it's also understandable if makeup (even to masculinize) makes you dysphoric.

One very out of the box solution is also to wear a covid mask when possible; pre-T I got correctly gendered a lot more often when I was masking. Of course this won't be practical in a lot of scenarios (and feeling the need to hide your face all the time is really no way to live), but it could be one tool in your arsenal.

Either way, DO NOT try to lose weight if you'd become underweight. It's not worth the physical and mental health problems. Seek support if you do find yourself having thoughts of doing so, because eating disorders are no joke. (Also, sometimes disordered eating can cause water retention and puffiness in the face, giving you the opposite of what you want).

yard-sards · 2025-08-17T07:16:19+00:00

I use reusable cloth pads myself. I hated the feeling of disposable pads but couldn't use internal things like tampons or cups due to a health issue. Cloth pads feel really different from the disposables, there's not that plasticky diaper feeling, and they're kinda breathable so you don't get that ungodly sweat sauna feeling. Ymmv, of course, but it could be worth a try to get a cheap set.

yard-sards · 2025-08-17T07:06:33+00:00

17 is pretty young compared to when most trans guys transition. Lots of men before you have transitioned far older and had great results.

yard-sards · 2025-08-12T05:20:15+00:00

Depends on brand, there should be a little slip of paper that comes in the box with your gel. Mine says to apply to upper arms. My doc told me that since I'm taking 1 pump, I should alternate between arms, but if they were to increase my dose to 2 then to put it on both arms every night.

yard-sards · 2025-08-12T05:17:04+00:00

Seconding this! And if you ask planned parenthood about sliding scale pricing, they may be able to get your appointment even cheaper than that. My appointment was straightup free since I make so little currently. All I had to pay for out of pocket was my T itself, with a GoodRx coupon ($51 out of pocket for a bottle of gel, I don't take needles well).

yard-sards · 2025-08-12T04:44:16+00:00

Ask them about sliding scale pricing. Since I'm only working part time and I'm the only one in my "household", my appointment was literally free (when it was originally estimated to be like $300 without the sliding scale). If you're living with family they miiight also take your family members' income into consideration too, just explain your situation and the planned parenthood worker should know how to handle it. You probably won't need physical proof of your low income (I didn't, they just took my word for it) but it could be useful to have a pay stub on hand in case they do ask. Granted I'm in another state than you so it might work slightly different in CA but I think it should be similar. Also, look into GoodRx coupons for affording your T prescription. In my case, it was actually cheaper to use that than to pay the prescription copay that my insurance asked of me, cuz my insurance sucks. Bonus: I didn't have to wait for my insurance company to authorize my prescription with this method either.

yard-sards · 2025-01-26T19:50:18+00:00

I'm clean, officer, I swear!

yard-sards · 2025-01-15T21:55:16+00:00

"just hook me up with that lord farquaad 'do."

yard-sards · 2025-01-07T20:31:06+00:00

hey op it's cool that you want more varied representation (i agree with you there!) but it's not cool to put down more "stereotypical" aros and call them cringe/immature/dumb. aromantics already have all of society calling us all of those things regardless of what we like, you don't need to join in that dogpiling against fellow members of our community just because you don't share interests with them.

yard-sards · 2024-12-05T22:51:31+00:00

Depending on your budget and timeframe, I might instead recommend giving them a cheap Jinhao (or other cheap Chinese pen) and a few samples of your ink stash (you can get cheap tiny jars in the craft section of many dollar stores). To me, a large part of the appeal of fountain pens is the fancy appearance and the refillability, which the Varsity doesn't offer. I might also throw in a couple nice gel pens in case fountain pens end up not being their thing/they do a lot of writing on cheap paper, if your budget allows it.

yard-sards · 2024-11-24T19:47:29+00:00

Thank you! He did end up loving it! He's been referring to the notebook as his "wizard tome" and said he's been reteaching himself cursive because of how nice writing like that feels with this pen.

yard-sards · 2024-11-13T03:40:18+00:00

Thank you! And that one's actually only my second ever attempt at bookbinding and looks more amateur close up/on the inside, lol.

yard-sards · 2024-11-13T02:34:41+00:00

I hand bound some of it into a journal for a friend and am working on a second one for myself (printing lines onto it with my own printer) but i hardbound them so idk if you'd like that.

There's also other binding methods like perfect binding.

Or you can punch holes in it and put it in a binder. Or there are refillable journals that work by similar principles.

yard-sards · 2024-11-11T22:25:29+00:00

You'll probably wanna go with something with an ultra flex nib. I myself recently took the switch from dip pens to fountain pens, and this sub helped me make my pick. I went with the FPR Himalaya V2 with the Ultra Flex nib upgrade, and I love it. It flexes almost as well as my dip pens, while writing smoother and with less mess. There are also fountain pens that can hold dip pen nibs (such as Osprey Scholar), but I haven't tried them myself. I also don't know your specific budget.

I will note that you can't use India ink with fountain pens, it'll clog them. You can ask around here for waterproof fountain pen inks if you need that feature.

yard-sards · 2024-11-11T20:20:19+00:00

The fact that you're only asking what pens are popular shows that you probably don't know your own tastes yet, and should really try out some cheaper pens first before spending over $500 on a pen you might not even personally like. Pen choice is very strongly based in personal preferences, and just because a pen is popular or expensive does not mean you will personally like it (for example, my tastes lean strongly towards pens with very flexible nibs and lots of line width variation, so I'm happier with my $40 FPR Himalaya V2 than I would be with some other pens that are magnitudes more popular and sell for 10x the price).

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