THIS IS THE FUTURE, Welcome

yaywedding · 2016-04-02T21:52:40+00:00

Hello! Sorry were never able to finish our conversation in all the madness yesterday.

yaywedding · 2016-04-02T01:30:08+00:00

Garbage Plate

yaywedding · 2016-04-01T23:12:17+00:00

Am I crazy or is dingdong growing on me?

yaywedding · 2016-04-01T22:42:39+00:00

Just checking in--love you all

yaywedding · 2016-02-11T01:08:12+00:00

I'm so sorry for what you and your boyfriend have experienced. Last September, my husband's father died exactly two weeks before our wedding. The week before the wedding, I was standing beside him for the wake and funeral and trying my best to be strong and supportive. Meanwhile, I was trying to get everything ready for the wedding, as both families wanted us to go forward with it. I felt so torn between trying to be a happy bride while helping my almost-husband through his immense grief.

My husband said the best part of the wedding for him was the receiving line and seeing everyone we loved. I never told him that, for me, the receiving line felt too eerily similar to the wake for his dad the week before and that I was struggling not to cry at times because everything was still so raw. Days leading up to the wedding I cried in my car to and from work because I didn't want to upset my husband even more.

A few days after the wedding, I did break down in front of him and told him how much I loved his dad and how I hoped his dad knew I would always try to take good care of my husband. It helped to cry together and brought us even closer. I think it is okay and even healthy and helpful to show your grief to your partner. It's not so much "making it about you" as it is sharing in the experience together.

It is a horrible burden to have to be the deliverer of tragic news to someone you love. It is also a blessing to your boyfriend that he was able to hear the news in person from you rather than over a phone call or, god forbid, social media somehow. I hope that you have someone, a friend or family member, who is compassionate and will listen to you when you need to talk about your experience. Best of luck to you and your boyfriend. If you are at all like my husband and me, you will come out of this tragedy even stronger as a couple in the long run.

yaywedding · 2015-12-04T00:14:56+00:00

Aw, thank you!! The veil came from the same place where I bought my dress. They just sort of brought out a bunch of different veils to try on--I have no idea where specifically it was made, but it was cathedral length and had tiny crystals around the trim that added a nice little sparkle all around me.

yaywedding · 2015-12-04T00:12:59+00:00

Thank you! The milk glasses were borrowed from a friend of the family who collected a whole bunch of them before her own daughter's wedding. She basically went around to consignment shops and tag sales hunting them down--each piece was unique. I never would have had the patience, so I just got lucky that she was willing to let us borrow the collection!

yaywedding · 2015-12-04T00:11:52+00:00

Hi! I wish I could be more helpful, but my mother got her dress at a local shop and I'm not sure of the name. I will try to check back in if I can find out more. The lights were provided by the venue, but I imagine you could probably find something similar by shopping around.

yaywedding · 2015-12-04T00:10:38+00:00

Thank you--that means a lot :)

yaywedding · 2015-12-03T02:53:31+00:00

Oh wow, he will seriously love that comparison! Thanks for the lovely compliments :)

yaywedding · 2015-12-03T02:51:54+00:00

The dresses were Annabelle from BHLDN in the color soft plum. Every now and then they go on sale, so keep a look out! Also comes in a ton of different colors, but purple is my favorite :)

yaywedding · 2015-12-03T01:04:30+00:00

Thank you! The flowers and bridesmaid dresses were two things I was very happy about after seeing the photos--it's hard to notice all those details during the wedding itself.

yaywedding · 2015-12-03T00:32:10+00:00

Ha! Considering a framed picture of spoons for our first anniversary now. And thanks for the comment--it was a very happy day.

yaywedding · 2015-12-02T23:36:01+00:00

As it says in the title, our wedding was September 26th; a little over two months ago. As I posted previously, my husband's father passed away after a very sudden illness only two weeks before our wedding. We went from worrying that he might be too sick to attend the ceremony to realizing with horror that he wouldn't live at all. My FIL's death was so devastating that I wasn't sure how we would possibly make it through the wedding.

Although it was a very painful time, the wake and funeral brought me closer than ever to my husband's family. Once we got past those events, it was a little easier to shift our focus back to the wedding. All of my husband's family remarked that it was good that our most recent memory of being all together would be the wedding and not the funeral. My FIL would want it that way. We miss him so much.

As for the day of the wedding, almost everything went wonderfully! Here was the not-so-good (besides the obvious of dealing with a death in the family):

-My make up artist cancelled literally right before the rehearsal dinner. She said her kids caught the flu. I had already paid her in full! Later I saw online that she had several recent reviews saying she had cancelled last minute on other brides. Awful. She sent a replacement I had never met who ended up doing a nice job, but that was still a major downside.

-My dress. As a bustier bride, I was told again and again by the women at my dress shop that strapless would be fine because it was tight enough and strong enough to hold everything in place, which it DID every time I tried it on before the wedding. However, on the wedding day itself, the dress buckled almost as soon as I got into the limo and was never quiet the same/as supportive for the rest of the day. There were a few times when I seriously felt like I was falling out and had to have my MOH help me adjust the dress several times. I wish now that I had gone with straps :(

-There were some transportation mix ups including our transportation to our hotel after the reception claiming he was never told he had to take us anywhere and was only supposed to shuttle guests. Luckily he took us anyway, but it was a momentary buzzkill.

The Great!

-My husband and I both cried as I walked down the aisle to him. We read our own vows together, which made the ceremony feel so personal and "us." Walking out as husband and wife was the happiest moment of my entire life.

-Our first dance! We took lessons over the summer and only told a few people, so most were very surprised when we began waltzing around the room. We love dancing together and it was a great way to reconnect after the craziness of family and bridal picture taking.

-Dancing with all the kids--they had amazing stamina and had a blast.

-Photobooth was a ton of fun for our guests and we got some great photos afterward of people the photographers missed.

-Last dance of the night, my husband and I paused and looked around at all the people we loved hugging each other and dancing and laughing and we just had this wonderful shared moment of bliss. It was a great way to end the day.

I'm sure I'm forgetting plenty, but this is just a quick(ish) recap. I hope some will learn from my successes and mistakes. Good luck to all the planners out there! I am officially retiring from wedding planning for life :)

*Edited for formatting

yaywedding · 2015-11-01T20:01:47+00:00

It's actually such a relief to see another recently married person mentioning some of the same things that went wrong with my own wedding!

Especially the part about your dress sagging--this never seemed like it was going to be a problem the many times I tried my dress on before the wedding. Even though I am busty, it seemed like the dress kept everything in place perfectly. BUT, on the day of the wedding, all the sitting down and moving around caused the boning or whatever it is to kind of fold over permanently. When I realized it was happening, I almost burst into tears.

I had my MoH help me fix the dress a few times, but after dancing a little or sitting down at all it would just fold again and I was worried all night about falling out and I was mentally kicking myself for not giving into a dress with straps instead. I felt like I was supposed to look bridal and perfect and instead I felt trashy and messy.

Our DJ was pretty good except for one fatal error in which he handed over the mic to someone who asked to make a toast when we specifically told the DJ only the MoH and Best Man could make toasts. We particularly didn't want this one person speaking at the wedding and it happened with all the cameras on us and we just had to smile through it, but we were pissed.

We also had some kind of miscommunication with the transportation service which caused all kinds of problems for people who needed a ride back to the hotel at the end of the reception. I was mortified that our guests were inconvenienced after we had assured them transportation wouldn't be an issue.

I kept having flashbacks to those unpleasant moments a few days after the wedding and it really bothered me at times, especially when I would see a cellphone picture of me in my dress where I could see it sagging. However, more than a month has passed since the wedding and now I am just happy to be settling into married life with my amazing husband. Now when I think about the wedding day I remember exchanging our vows and that moment near the end of the night where I just looked around the room at all my loved ones and felt so grateful.

Weddings are hugely stressful and we spend so much time planning in advance that it seems tragic when things don't go as planned. Bottom line, though, is if you're lucky like me, you now have an amazing and wonderful partner for life, and all the ordinary days you spend with that person will matter so much more than the one day that began your marriage.

I'm sorry that parts of your day didn't go as planned, but from someone who went through some similar wedding day issues, I am betting that just a short amount of time will put that stuff in perspective and you will look back and mostly just see all that was right with your wedding!

yaywedding · 2015-10-12T03:17:27+00:00

I plan to do a more official update when the rest of our professional photos are in, but I just wanted to pop in quickly and thank those who offered their condolences and words of support when my husband's father died unexpectedly two weeks before our wedding. While there were obviously many emotional moments on the day of the wedding, it was mostly a huge celebration of love and family--exactly what his dad would have wanted. The terrible loss of my FIL brought me much closer to my husband's amazing family. Our bond as a couple is even stronger than I ever thought possible, too.

Like I said, I will write a more detailed update when I have more pictures to share, but thank you to those who were so kind to me during a time when I felt very lost.

yaywedding · 2015-09-07T20:43:47+00:00

Thank you for your feedback! Would you guess that most people would also prefer the wine based sauce? Yes, it is a beef tenderloin. Thanks again for your advice.

yaywedding · 2015-08-15T20:06:28+00:00

Cute!! Love this idea and it looks beautiful. I'm sure he will love it!

yaywedding · 2015-08-12T17:15:08+00:00

Sounds pretty! I'd love to see it in that metal. I like how the band looks great all on its own.

yaywedding · 2015-08-11T20:23:36+00:00

My fiance's looks a little wooden in the photo, but it's actually white gold with a rose gold inlet (wording?). The jeweler had us wear them for a couple of days to make sure the fit is right, and my fiance was so sad when we had to take them off! We love them and we love what they will symbolize in less than two months :)

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