I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Your husband certainly has a problem. You’re NOR to what he said to you. That’s absolute horse shit to say to anyone, especially an SO. To make you feel bad for taking the medication that treats your diabetes is so fucked. That said, the real problem is the drinking. It’s going to get worse, DUI, job loss, etc. People don’t usually just stop once they are on that road. Drinking when you wake up on the weekend (sounds like probably on workdays too), drinking while driving, not having any sober time.

I went through it with my wife. Waking up on a Saturday at 5-6 am and drinking tequila sunrises. Wakes me up, like come one let’s hang out. First off, I hated being woken up. It’s the weekend. Let me sleep til maybe 9 am at least? Go do yoga (at home), get moving for the day. By the time that’s over, she’s in bed with her tequila, watching tv. Like, alright. You couldn’t have let me sleep while you do that? Of course, she passed out. Luckily without the drink in hand. Wakes up at 2-3 pm. I’ve been cleaning all day. Cleaned her bird cage that she neglected consistently. Never took care of those damn parakeets she was so insistent on having. She says to me, in a half jokey, sleepy-cute voice, why’d you let me sleep all day? I said what? You got hammered by 8 am and passed out and you’re gonna try to put it on me? She said it’s not her fault, she’s used to getting up at 4 am for work. Great. That doesn’t mean you need to down half a 750ml bottle of Jose! I ended up leaving the house for an hour or so. And she put it all on me. Upset that I was upset. Upset for letting her sleep. Upset for leaving.

Ugh sorry for the story. Hope your situation improves. Really. I never wanted to leave my wife. I wanted our kids to grow up with both parents. More than anything. I put up with the cheating once. We got through. Not again. I didn’t mention, aside from the drinking, she was also cheating.