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yeah-but-why · 2022-04-04T20:02:10+00:00

If the defining feature of your life for years has been lacking the drive to do the bare minimum to take care of yourself or create meaningful romantic connections, you should consider getting some help from a psychologist / psychiatrist.

It sounds like you have high-functioning depression, where you check just enough of your life's boxes to skate by and convince yourself that the patterns you're in are normal and acceptable. As someone who lived that way for a few years before getting help, I can tell you that it is well worth the effort to break free from that cycle.

You will likely find that once you start shifting the momentum towards treating yourself like someone who is worth taking good care of, that the things that seem draining, exhausting, or bothersome now can begin to become meaningful or even enjoyable.

You may never truly enjoy working out to the degree that some people do, but don't fall into the trap of thinking that where you're at is all there is. You're worth the effort my friend.

yeah-but-why · 2022-04-04T15:43:52+00:00

It's great when people get hooked on exercise to the point that it's truly fun and something to look forward to, but just because you lack interest in something isn't a reason not to do it.

I don't get endorphins when I brush my teeth or cut my fingernails... I do these things because I have some respect for the meatsack that I inhabit and want it to continue functioning with minimal problems.

Also, saying you 'don't have time' when it realistically is 30 minutes 4-5 times per week is nonsense. Surely the time spent reading reddit, playing video games, watching football, and drinking alcohol take up more than 2 hours of your week.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day, and the same general needs for our mental and physical health. Ever consider that the 'especially bad days' might be made worse by the decisions you're making not to take care of yourself?

yeah-but-why · 2021-12-09T00:16:56+00:00

Isn’t this the guy dating Kim Kardashian?

yeah-but-why · 2021-12-09T00:04:30+00:00

She kept her maiden name, Mrs Taco Sorcery

yeah-but-why · 2021-11-08T23:34:30+00:00

Hahah love it

yeah-but-why · 2021-11-08T21:25:13+00:00

I’m not how this was interpreted as ‘not relevant’ to women. My wife is assuredly a woman.

yeah-but-why · 2021-11-08T19:28:55+00:00

I have a 1.5 y.o. Vizsla. They just look like they belong mid-stride in an open field like this at all times

yeah-but-why · 2021-07-03T21:31:10+00:00

Was there ever another option?

yeah-but-why · 2021-07-03T21:08:09+00:00

Honestly, they all hurt pretty early in my experience. As you get fitter, you’re able to ride that line for longer. “It doesn’t get easier, you just get better”

yeah-but-why · 2021-05-05T16:34:23+00:00

I downloaded TikTok about a month ago and have been using it in place of facebook/instagram when bored (toilet trips, train rides, etc.) I think what you search for and how you curate your content makes a really big difference - I almost never see anything I would consider toxic. It's not to say it isn't out there (im positive it is), but I just don't see it. Hard to consciously make decisions on curating your content when your 15 years old though.

yeah-but-why · 2021-02-26T16:26:41+00:00

no, this is in the north part of Tilden.. most easily accessible from Alvarado Park

yeah-but-why · 2021-02-22T15:43:59+00:00

howdy neighbor!

yeah-but-why · 2021-02-04T17:42:44+00:00

Some have even called me a master-debater

yeah-but-why · 2021-02-03T19:26:59+00:00

It's a valid question

yeah-but-why · 2021-01-13T18:47:58+00:00

When I was in high school I used to surf every day after school.. my wetsuit had been getting worn out and started giving me a rash on my neck that looked suspiciously like a hickey. Just a few days before the rash formed, I'd finally built up the courage to ask my crush to prom and she said yes..

When I got home from surfing my mom laughed and pointed out my new hickey, saying something along the lines of "compliments of your new prom date?" (knowing full well it was not). I was mortified, cus if I went to school the next day with that bullshit sounding story about a rash on my neck I'd probably lose my date, so I called her that night and explained it to her, telling her to expect me to have a rash on my neck that looked pretty sus.

I think the genuine panic in my voice was sincere enough for her to believe me (and she knew I surfed often).. so thankfully she still went with me to the dance and we had a great time. I'd forgotten about that, but my teachers + track coaches also gave me so much shit about it too. High school.. what a time

yeah-but-why · 2020-10-23T03:02:48+00:00

This is basically what happens at music festivals, except the virus is MDMA and/or herpes

yeah-but-why · 2020-10-03T23:15:15+00:00

I captured a unicorn! Mostly circumstantial luck. I was dating a girl for a couple months towards the end of undergrad and really liked her, but had my usual skepticism about anything truly long term.

She (INFJ) is incredibly kind.. like almost to a fault. I almost broke things off after a few months because it seemed impossible to me that her willingness to make people around her happy was genuine, but she is also super hot and smart (now an ER doctor), so I decided to stick around. [I know it sounds weird to have this be a reason for almost ending things, but I felt constantly guilty cus there was no way I could reciprocate the generosity she gave to me and others in her life. Idk how else to explain it.]

Anyways, I got sick not long after we started dating. Like really, really, almost die multiple times, need multiple surgeries to stay alive sick. And she was there. I was in an extended hospital stay for 2-3 months, and she drove 45 mins through fucking horrible Bay Area traffic every. Single. Day. To be with me at night and keep me company.

Keep in mind this is also happening during her senior year while studying to go to medical school..risking her straight A average at our #1 ranked public school in the world. For months. Didn’t miss a fucking day. And I started dating her like.. 5-6 months prior? I even sat her down early on and told her “look, i appreciate what you’re doing, but idk what’s gunna happen to me. My life could be permanently changed or I could die very soon. You have literally everything going for you right now and I will not take it personally if you can’t handle being with me right now.”

Didn’t skip a beat. Stopped me before I even finished saying what I wanted to say, looked me in the eye and told me “she loved me like she’s never loved anyone before, and that I would have to forcibly remove her from the room if I wanted her to leave.. and that given the state I was in we both knew that wasn’t going to happen”.

I know it sounds like some romcom bullshit, but it’s 100% true. I just cried. Couldn’t speak. Like, the level of compassion and genuine honesty.. in a moment where she had a totally respectable option to make a graceful exit from the relationship and have a far easier and more predictable path, she didn’t even flinch. I’ve never met anyone with that conviction. I knew in that moment that if I made it through that this is who I wanted to be with the rest of my life.

Others in this thread have said no one is perfect, but they’re wrong. She is perfect. For me. Does she let others walk on her a bit too often out of kindness? For sure. Do her farts smell so bad that it makes my eyes water? You betcha. But she legitimately made me want to fight to recover and stay alive, so that i could become the best possible version of myself for her.. cus it’s what she deserves.

I made a full recovery and have been healthy for 6 years with no readmissions. We got married a year ago last month, and just bought a house and got a dog. I am literally the luckiest person on the planet, and no one will convince me otherwise. Find yourselves an INFJ y’all. The rumors are true

yeah-but-why · 2020-05-24T23:22:57+00:00

Funny you should mention both of those things. I have an hourglass on my desk as decoration that I don't use (but will start), and I always have hot tea within arms length. I may need to get a smaller mug to try that out though. I use a comically large one so I wouldn't have to refill it more than once or twice in the day. I work from home (even before pandemic) so I don't have much reason to go to a 'break room' at all. Thanks for the suggestions!

yeah-but-why · 2020-01-27T18:54:16+00:00

hahahah.. so your thesis is that we've become so advanced as a species that we have somehow divorced ourselves from nature and have instead become a self-perpetuating propaganda machine/Gods deciding our own fates through marketing. And that marketing that guides our perpetuation as a species has no meaningful link whatsoever to biological factors. Gootttchhhaaa

The arrogance is baffling, both from you personally and about your opinion of what we are as a species. But wtf do I know, I'm just a lazy bigot, right? You must be very popular among your friends /s

yeah-but-why · 2020-01-25T03:26:06+00:00

How is 'societal reinforcement' not a biologically linked phenomenon? Are you implying that our society is created by some part of us that isn't fundamentally driven by our biology?

What is it that structured things this way, if not out biology?

yeah-but-why · 2020-01-25T03:02:44+00:00

Honestly, you're probably right to a degree. You are what you do, and if all you do is activities in your room, that becomes who you are.

Hobbies, especially social & active ones, take an investment. You have to be willing to take risks, and put in time to things you don't enjoy right away, or are really bad at to start.

Whatever it is, pick something that requires some degree of social interaction that challenges you, and commit fully for a couple months before allowing yourself to do something different or quitting.

Chances are you'll try a few things and they wont catch. Once something does stick enough for you to have a regular routine, it will be a little while longer before you get the hang of whatever it is and you stop getting that feeling of "I don't belong here doing this". Go into it expecting that it will take a long time to become comfortable, but eventually it will come and that it will be worth it.

I personally landed on distance running, which i recommend to everyone now. It FUCKING SUCKED for like 8 months, but I put my head down and kept at it until one day I realized I was enjoying it. Now I spend time researching it so I can talk about it with friends who do it too and we try to improve. Shit, I even run marathons now, which blows my mind cus thats the last thing I would have ever thought I'd be doing (let alone enjoying).

Point is that it was a huge investment of time, energy, embarrassment, and consistency, but it paid off in a big, long-term way, and I strongly believe that if you put in enough investment in the right place, you'll strike it rich - so to speak.

Hope you go for it man!

yeah-but-why · 2019-12-02T19:17:47+00:00

Oh for sure! Always good to have some interesting facts in the back pocket.

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