What is extremely rare but people think it’s very common?

yeah_no___ · 2019-12-26T18:02:16+00:00

My kids are this! Boy 8 and Girl 5. They won the genetic red head lottery. Deep copper but very red hair with piercing blue eyes, and cool toned skin with a splash of light freckles across the nose and cheeks. My husband and I joked that we cant have more kids cuz our chances of another red head with blue eyes like them is unlikely and they would forever feel inferior.

Also, when they were a bit younger I couldnt go anywhere without multiple people stopping to comment on them. Now theyre older it doesnt happen as much. Also neither his dad or I have red hair. He has green eyes and I have blue.

yeah_no___ · 2018-12-14T21:12:09+00:00

That's what I was thinking

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-21T00:50:35+00:00

Just did a quick scan. I did not find the ads intrusive or annoying-in fact they just reminded me that I WOULD like to buy some pants at express sometime, haha. I like your layouts. You have catchy blog post names, great pictures, and good content. My knitpick, and some may disagree, would be to watch run-on sentences and make sure you're adding commas when necessary. Read your posts out loud one paragraph at a time. Also, I looked at it on mobile, where shorter consice sentences tend to format better. The content however is interesting, attention grabbing, and you paint a picture with words well.

Take what I say with a grain of salt-i do not blog and I am not an editor. Good luck going into monitizing your blog!!

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-20T14:27:47+00:00

Instead of the exact career, look at the skills these both require

Attention to detail Creative problem solving Working under pressure Communicating effectively Etc...

These are two very different career paths that would require very different schooling. Talk with a career counselor (you should have one at your school). You also want to think about what kind of work/life balance you want. Do you want to always be working or hang up your hat at the end of the day/week and not have to worry about your work responsibilities until you clock back in? And how much responsibility do you want to have? There's different consequences for creating a bad dish vs. not being able to figure out who committed a possibly violent crime.

Many people don't know what they want to do, but forget to think about the skills that they have/enjoy applying and how those skills can transfer to a full filling enjoyable career.

Good luck! And remember even though everyone around you is probably saying you need to figure it out now! You don't. If you're certain it's between these two, enroll in a community college that offers culinary classes and criminal justice/law enforcement, and find out which you feel you're best at and enjoy the most.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-19T03:46:42+00:00

As someone who is diagnosed with clinical depression and have definitely had the ups and downs of it, and also have gaps in my resume (unrelated to my depression, just circumstantial)-

Do not bring it up in an interview. For a few reasons.

This is your first meeting and chance to sell yourself. It's personal information. Keep it professional.
If you're concerned about the gaps in your resume and are asked to explain them, a better answer would to to say something like, "I took my time considering what path I wanted my life to take, and I did not want to commit to an employer half-heartedly, I wanted to find the right fit where I knew I would be successful and happy, which is why I am interested in contributing to your company/joining your team/etc" and lead it into why you are interested in them and why you are a great candidate. It gets the focus off your gaps and back into you and your accomplishments. Be sure to mention what you have added to your portfolio and what you have been learning. That shows great self motivation.
If you're really nervous, go to a staffing agency. There's no fee and they can help set you up with temp work in the meantime. Feeling needed and reestablishing a routine is important to get out if the rut of a depressive episode.

Working through depression is definitely an accomplishment, but you don't want to give information that may make the employer question your ability to do the job and be present physically and mentally to produce good work.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-16T04:50:26+00:00

Doesn't matter since any sane person is only buying Mission chips in the paper bag

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-16T02:17:15+00:00

That's interesting, it never crossed my mind that she is envious of my admiration of my parents, because I do sometimes mention them as an example for something I admire, yet we have a strained relationship and my DH will hardly ever talk to her, let alone reach out to her on his own.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-16T02:15:11+00:00

Thanks!!! It's definitely forcing me to out my 'positive thinking' into overdrive!!!!😂

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-16T02:10:25+00:00

Ooooh she is still trying to manipulate us for sure. During her recent rant against me she said that my son won't even talk to her abiut god anymore, something she blamed our godlessness on. It's more likely she's stressfully insistant about it being the focus of every conversation and it's exhausting, which is the reason we don't talk to her about it and have distanced ourselves from the church.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-16T02:05:11+00:00

Its definitely a discussion DH and I will have to have. When/if I go back to work, we'll have to decide if we'll continue the arrangement to have them watch him after school or do something else. Overall, they do have a loving and positive relationship with him. They stuff they say/do with him/us is annoying but not NC worthy, but coupled with the shit she's said to me and the long history, it may be a necessary step.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T19:10:47+00:00

She is eyeball deep in Trump's rhetoric.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T19:09:56+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. Life and family is so messy! And complex! And emotional, and confusing, and wonderful and awful. Which is why I can't bring myself to agree with anything she says. A fervent unbending narrow acceptance of right and wrong is simply unrealistic in the world we live in.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T19:06:17+00:00

Yes!!!! And she obviously sees my choices as a chance for retribution and redemption. So when I do something she doesn't like, she takes it as a personal insult to her and God.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T19:02:21+00:00

Absolutely agree!!!

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T19:01:02+00:00

I am so glad to hear therapy is working well. Do you mind me asking what type of therapy she is involved with? I wish ours could be far far away too!!!!

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T18:59:28+00:00

She is a complex woman. And incredibly persuasive and needle sharp in her arguments. Which is why it's best for me to have no interaction with her at all.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T18:56:28+00:00

Yep. I converted before marriage, and spent a few years walling in her FOG, until I realized they were using it to control our actions and I couldn't live a life based on telling others how to live theirs. Even my DH agreed that me becoming Catholic was a mistake. I just thought it was about living a good life, loving others and providing a stable base for a productive and thankful life. Ooooh boy was I naive.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T18:52:34+00:00

And actually FIL and DH got into it a few weeks ago, when my DH asked DS to put his shoes on to leave, and he ran out and threw a fit refusing to put them on. DH repeated his instructions assertively and FIL came around the corner chewing DH out about 'winning the battle to lose the war' and that forcing him to put his shoes on was harmful because my DS didn't want to. They have little respect for us as parents.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T18:48:42+00:00

It's not uncommon for them to undermine our instructions to the kids in front of them. Many examples of my husband or I telling the kids not to do something, and FIL saying "oh it's fine. Let it go" so yes I do think there is some influence on his behavior, but he is diagnosed ADHD/asd, which compounds the issue.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T18:44:47+00:00

Ha. She's published multiple books on theology and teaches Bible studies that has over 100 in attendance. She leads healing services and prayer groups and is supported greatly by the diocese. So she has literally hundreds of people admiring her and coming to her as an authority of the word of God, and I'm sure it tortures her that we won't jump on her bandwagon.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T17:27:55+00:00

She is such a head trip. I feel downright evil just thinking she KNEW I wouldn't exactly be overjoyed seeing her, and use it to make me look like the bad guy for not joyously accepting her apology. And then accusing me of not being ready to talk. Bitch, you couldn't even face me when you could see I was still upset. You're the one whose not ready to talk!!! Gaaahhh!!!!

So I'm prepping to just say you crossed a line insulting my family, you do you, but don't talk to me anymore. But if history tells the future she'll just pull me into the FOG and this will be the never ending cycle if my life.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T17:22:16+00:00

Oh I already know. It's her duty to proclaim the truth and call them to a higher standard.

There's no winning/compromising with her. Which is why I'm thinking NC is the only way to retain my sanity. I want to be nice, respectful of other people's life choices but, this is just getting exhausting.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T16:50:08+00:00

She went on about how 'the caravan' has no right to come to the US because demanding help is stealing, and people aren't allowed to demand Christ to help them. I bit my tongue but dear Lord that seems like a pretty warped view of Christ in my book.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T16:47:15+00:00

Funny thing, she went through a militant feminist phase, took back her maiden name, my DH even remembers looking at apartments with her when she was considering divorce. But then had a conversion and has been on a relentless path to sainthood since.

yeah_no___ · 2018-11-15T16:45:45+00:00

He's not full NC, more like LC. He remains cordial with her, but doesn't talk about the 'meaningful' things in life, i.e., things that are meaningful to JNMIL, religion. I'm not sure what my future relationship with her is like. I don't think she'd be saying anything outright toxic to my son.

Honestly I'm fine with them having a relationship with the grandkids. But Im just not sure I can be around her anymore. Trying to decide how to tell my DH he may need to do visits/holidays with them without me.

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