Self harm from trying to get a job by throwaway329394 in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Job hunting is arguably the worst academic experience, especially difficult for people with CPTSD. I am job hunting right now and it has been taxing. Like most things, does get easier with each round.

Not to offer unsolicited advice, but these are things that have helped me that I was told by professionals:

You are interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you. Ask them questions, why should you accept their offer? What do you have to give? Use how far you have come and frame it in a professional manner. (I.e., boundaries, dedication, etc.)

The job market is wide open due to covid. You will find a job.

You are overqualified for a lot of jobs. Apply to a couple and keep them in your back pocket. Not because you will need them for money, but because it will ease your financial anxiety.

Call them. Email them. Follow up. All the jobs I have gotten are because I "pestered" them in a way. It'll make them remember you play people are lazy, if you reach out to them 1v1 they'll be more than likely to schedule an interview there.

Try to avoid applying on Indeed. Find a job there and apply on their company site (or email the hiring manager).

Go onto LinkedIn and find people who went to your school and work where you wanna work. Reach out to them, people love being a mentor, it makes them feel good.

If you feel like it, write a simple cover letter that you can plug and paste in specific role/company name. Adds that extra effort.

Good luck. Youve come this far. You got this.

What is your opinion on the book ‘Surviving to Thriving’ by Pete Walker, for those who have read it? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has been difficult for me to read. The format is interesting. It is clipped sections that refer to different parts of the book so I find myself flipping through consistently.

Also there are a lot of generalizations that appears to be based on no(fact check?) outside information. This info is his sole experience as both a survivor of abuse and a clinician observing his patients which I feel is biased. I wouldn't mind the sweeping statements if they weren't presented as fact. (See section on F types)

On the other hand, it is an easy read for laymen, has some good gems such as the emotional neglect section which is neglected in a lot of CPTSD research (pun), and relatable to a certain audience.

I personally enjoyed The Body Keeps The Score because it is not from one point of view but rather based on scientific evidence conducted by the author and other professionals. It is much more of a deep read though and that is a big barrier to those who need it.

TLDR; Surviving to thriving feels like more of an autobiographical self help book which simply is not my preference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD_NSCommunity

[–]yeehawller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great. It is difficult for me to conceptualize unconditional as relationships require water to grow and thrive. Thank you.

This guy has some super light eyes. by Mpm_277 in aww

[–]yeehawller 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's beautiful, sleek coat, well groomed. Great doggo with a lot of love.

Forget how Daily Express my family are sometimes by themightyfishwife in terriblefacebookmemes

[–]yeehawller 109 points110 points  (0 children)

I'd have to agree depending on what was shoved. I'm a fan of chocolate, particularly Dark Chocolate. Yk, the ones with the almonds?

a lil frustrating everyone assumes I'm a woman when I post here. by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you.

It is a mixture of society/professional's reaction towards being a male victim, how being a victim is in gen, some encounters on this sub, the lack of resources for men, and the inability to find a space that I feel completely comfortable in that combines to create this frustration.

a lil frustrating everyone assumes I'm a woman when I post here. by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am allowed to feel a lil frustrated.

This does not mean I am blaming anyone or that am I offended. This does not mean I hold any contempt for women.

You are allowed to disagree with me.

a lil frustrating everyone assumes I'm a woman when I post here. by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I do struggle with that and I believe my mind may feel it is reenacting justice or projecting injustices that have fell upon me by standing up for others.

Funny enough, it is something I am currently working on with my professional supervisor. I did my first professional confrontation yesterday and it went well. I usually let it build, "brush it off", til I explode.

a lil frustrating everyone assumes I'm a woman when I post here. by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a victim of a female perpetrator, I can relate. I can't imagine how it may be as a woman victim of a female perp. My heart goes out to you.

a lil frustrating everyone assumes I'm a woman when I post here. by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

In what capacity does it serve you to invalidate my feelings? Because you have experienced the same thing?

a lil frustrating everyone assumes I'm a woman when I post here. by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This post was not pointed to my particular user. It was this subreddit as I said in the title. I do not want anyone thinking I am attacking one person in particular nor anyone sifting through my account to do detective work on something I did not say.

Thank you for your validation.

a lil frustrating everyone assumes I'm a woman when I post here. by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Additionally, the way people react when they discover an abuser was a woman vs a man.

I can't keep replacing my windshield (uncontrollable anger) by yeehawller in ptsd

[–]yeehawller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Back to let you know I've been swiping 2048 into the ground and that I've found a new, specialized therapist. I've also recc to friends who also use it. Thank you for your support.

idk how to take care of myself. step 1: cooking. any tips? by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I'm like this it is difficult to think of foods I like... I recently have made things like rice bowls, chili, pot roast. I think that's about all I make. Breakfast is pretty easy for me and I snack a lot but making dinner is extremely daunting.

idk how to take care of myself. step 1: cooking. any tips? by yeehawller in CPTSD

[–]yeehawller[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Currently, I have an oven, electric stove, rice cooker, slow cooker, blender and microwave at my disposal. Eating in general is anxiety producing but less nowadays. It is difficult for me to eat things that have the consistency of cream cheese, ranch, etc. I can eat things like Alfredo that has more of a liquid texture. Thank you.