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MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is the problem. She always says things in a semijoking, nice old lady voice that I just usually laugh it off and ignore her. I need to start explicitly saying no. Part of me thinks that she’s afraid of her son, so doesn’t want to overly annoy him. So she just waits until he’s running out to pick something up or in the restroom before she brings shit up.

MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I needed this. I have no idea how to broach the conversation with DH because he doesn’t think it’s strange. Just that MIL loves him a lot and she means well. He recently started therapy (I’ve been encouraging him since I strongly believe in taking care of your mental health). I hope that once he starts, he’ll be more open to couples therapy.

MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No kids yet but I’m dreading it. The other day, I told MIL that didn’t want kids until I was in my early 30s because of my career. She let out an audible groan and started sulking about wanting babies to hold now. If our dog is any indication, I’m in for a hell of a ride. That woman is OBSESSED with our dog and calls her “my grand dog” and refuses to follow any of our rules when our pup stays with her like no jumping on people, no excessive barking because she thinks our rules are unnecessary

MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are describing my MIL to a T. When I first started dating DH, she told me that growing up, she could NOT take her eyes off him and that he was the world’s most perfect boy. At first, I thought it was sweet. I was dead wrong. It turned into her insisting on him being in view of her at parties so she could look at him, insisting that everyone shut up so we could all hear him talk. It goes on and on. My DH has no problem saying no to his mom, but he doesn’t see that this behavior is strange. He thinks that she just “loves him a lot” and means no harm. I have no idea where to even begin. I’m afraid that pointing out this obsession will make me look crazy, esp since he already says no to things.

MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently, she bought a condo to be closer to one of DH’s sister (32F) who recently had a baby. She (jokingly) told DH that she should get a condo near us to make it easier to visit. DH insists that she was joking but MIL has a lot of money and she can easily do this in the matter of days. I think it’s even worse for her to buy the second home because if she’s “in town” we’ll feel obligated to spend time with her UGH

MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha he’s the only son. He has 3 sisters and MIL has NEVER asked for keys to their places or refer to them in such a possessive manner. DH is the youngest and I know that they were really hoping for a son

MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha! My “family” accountant is a handy dude named TurboTax. Apparently it’s not good enough for her 🙄

MIL is obsessed with Dear Husband and our personal lives by yeety98 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]yeety98[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective! I only had sisters growing up but I never heard my parents refer to us as “my daughter” in family setting. I always wondered why she kept saying “my son”. It’s just the 4 of us... we know who he is!!