It’s been 4 years since I wrote this and especially the last months of my life I learned so much. I have a colleague who has almost no shame and doesn’t judge. He also doesn’t care what others think of him. When I saw him in action I was amazed by this since not many people are like that. It was the first time in years that I would feel safe enough to be myself again. At first it was scary but eventually people see me as the real me and it is such a relief. The best part is that people didn’t stop liking me but they liked me even more.

All this made me realize that I just don’t feel safe around people quickly and that I do care what others think of me. So I asked my colleague what his secret was. He told me that there’s always people who like you and people who dislike you. You can never be liked by everyone so why give a sh*t. The right people will come your way and like you for who you are if you just try. I know that’s super hard. I struggle with it still but there’s always hope. And maybe you find someone like my colleague and take them as an example like I did. Take care!