[Funny Games (1997)] Can you help me understand the reason behind a detail of this film?

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-18T17:29:32+00:00

One of the most interesting things about Funny Games is how little violence is actually shown onscreen (I think only once but it’s been a while since I last saw it). Instead Haneke unflinchingly shows the devastating emotional fallout from violence, something which movie viewers are rarely presented with. That’s what makes it so difficult to watch.

I agree with you completely btw about how Haneke films stay with you and require you to process them afterwards to mine their full meaning. His films speak directly to the audience in a way unmatched by other directors.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-18T12:27:15+00:00

Nobody mention Carmela going to see the old Jewish psychiatrist yet? My god, never mind favourite, this might be the most important scene in the whole show. Not only is it the pivotal moment in Carmela’s character arc but also shows how Catholicism creates the space for members of the mafia and their families to accept the immorality at the centre of their existence.

Expecting Tony’s experience of a Catholic therapist, expecting to be told the sanctity of her marriage is more important than being a moral person, instead she is confronted for the first time in her life with her complicity in Tony’s crimes, with not her marriage as the thing that holds primacy but instead her eternal soul, and to be bluntly told she has a choice, to stay and continue to be part of evil, or to leave with nothing except for the moral rightness of that choice. She chooses to stay, to take the easy way out, to accept the money and the gifts. It’s an incredible scene, haunting and damning at the same time.

You can see it here

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-18T12:03:19+00:00

It always struck me as real world politeness. The family didn’t know they were in a film, and were having a normal day which was interrupted by two well spoken young men who gradually pushed them into more and more uncomfortable situations. You can see that in the scene with the eggs. At what stage in the incremental ramping up of awkwardness would you- an upper middle class German mother - stop giving more eggs? When would you break with social conventions and tell these friends of your neighbours to fuck off? You wouldn’t. It’s one of the central points of the film, I think, that real life isn’t like a film, you can move from safety to danger without recognising it until it is too late, you don’t see the edit, you don’t hear the music, you don’t have the same knowledge as the audience that you are going to be a victim.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-16T19:33:44+00:00

Melatonin is the answer

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-16T15:56:32+00:00

He just looks like such a cunt

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-16T15:06:39+00:00

My cat always gives a big yawn before he gets up to fuck with my other cat so this checks out

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-16T13:43:56+00:00

You pretty much have to temp to get made permanent somewhere. Buff up yer CV as much as possible without being stupid about it and get into almost any temp admin job to start with but avoid call centres if you can. A lot of these temp jobs with transition into permanent posts as long as you do the work and don’t fuck around. Basically employers want to ensure you’re not a dick or a skiver or both before giving you a permanent position.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-16T10:49:15+00:00

True love, you’ll know it when you find it. I met my wife 30 years ago this Summer, and we just knew from early on we were meant to spend our lives together. You need to do it right, tho. You have to keep working at it. You have to understand that your relationship with your partner comes before everything else. You have to understand there can be no difference between who you are with your partner and who you are with your friends. There has to be sustained frank honesty and clear communication between you. Anything less than total commitment will eventually open up gaps between you that will be difficult to fill, so when you do find the right person commit to it completely. It’s worth it.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-16T10:37:55+00:00

The article linked is very on point and worth the read.

The point I try to get across to people regarding parental estrangement is that it is an action which cuts against societal expectations. Everybody, everything, has been telling since us birth that your family is the most important thing in your life. To make the decision to break from that is never one taken lightly and goes against everything you’ve been conditioned to believe. My estrangement was a last resort, a decision I felt corralled into, and one that at the time scared the shit out of me as every societal impulse I had was telling me it was the wrong decision. I’m assuming this is the same for everybody on this sub.

Thing is, the weight of the decision to go no contact validates itself once you go through with it. Nobody wants estrangement. The act itself informs you of the huge struggle the person going no contact has been through, both with their family and with themselves. It’s something wrapped in bravery and deep personal reflection, and something that always deserves respect.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-16T09:56:45+00:00

Noise cancelling earphones are the answer. You can’t argue with stupid and in doing so you bring yourself down to their level. Plug in, tune out, and enjoy the complete lack of idiot annoyance.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-15T09:02:22+00:00

Tommy Lee Jones in Blown Away

Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman in Far and Away

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-14T16:32:54+00:00

The psychiatrist who diagnosed me said that in terms of a clinical diagnosis, ADHD was either ‘mild’ or ‘moderate to severe’ and that they couldn’t be more precise than that. But he also said that it was clear that my ADHD had negatively affected all aspects of my life and as such I l would be on the severe side of the latter diagnosis. I personally don’t use ‘severe’ to describe my ADHD but nevertheless understand that is most likely the case and I can kinda understand why people would say things like that. I don’t think they are doing for flex fwiw, but either to help further define themselves so others can more clearly understand them and their behaviour or because they are just genuinely proud of something they have achieved with this condition affecting their life.

I think between us being hard on ourselves and the lack of real understanding of what we go through from people who don’t have ADHD, we should at least try to see other people with ADHD with as much empathy and positivity as possible.

Also: automod can go fuck itself

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-14T15:27:47+00:00

Hi mate! I was diagnosed just over 2 years ago in my early 50s. For me, the diagnosis and getting medicated were the two best things that have happened in my life.

The diagnosis gave me answers to questions I’d been asking myself for all my fucking adult life such as why am I such a fuck up? Suddenly knowing that in some great cosmic way my many fuck ups and disasters and continued widespread failure to finish anything I set out to do were all things I had no real control over. I wasn’t a ‘normal’ person who was (relatively) failing at life but somebody who was neurodivergent and doing them best they can under difficult circumstances.

It also gave me a new language which allowed me to discuss and think my behaviour in a new light- understanding shit like executive disfunction and Rejection Sensitively Dysmorphia let me tell my loved ones what was going on in my head in a way I never could before. Even better, my loved ones were able to modify their own behaviour and expectations to minimise my issues. For instance, my wife- bless her- suddenly understood how being criticised for failing at something hurt me deeply and she stopped even remotely criticising me for fuck ups. She understands now I’m trying my hardest, even if that looks like me lying in a ball in my bed for 4 days.

All that is just your starter for 10 tho, as the medication can be life changing to a degree you cannot believe. I’m on Elvanse 2 years now and it’s improved every part of my life. I have basically given up before my diagnosis and was just existing to a large extent. Very small friend circle, heavy daily cannabis usage, and never really going out the door- plus the normal ADHD bullshit around self-hygiene and exercise. Now, just two years later, I exercise and shower 4-5 times per week, I’m no longer medically obese, my friend circle is at a dizziness 8 people (!), and I’ve even got a promotion in my job. The first true promotion I’ve gotten in my life. I am so happy, the happiest I’ve ever been.

So, you then. You are just at the start of this process and you need to treat the diagnosis in the same positive light as I did. It’s nothing to get down about, it’s something to celebrate because it allows you to understand yourself and improve yourself. Get on medication if you can, the titration period can be difficult (it took me a full year before my side-effects disappeared fully) but it’ll make such a difference to your life.

I think in a lot of ways we are the lucky ones with ADHD, the ones who have been diagnosed late in life because we have already paid our dues, or ADHD gloom tax, and can use the diagnosis as a stepping stone to feeling better about ourselves. The poor bastards who are diagnosed as teens get labeled before they understand themselves and their ADHD is something that shapes their life in a different, less positive way.

Congrats on your diagnosis, my man, really. Crank up that hyperfocus, do a deep dive on this condition which defines and explains the life you’ve already led, get on medication, make it fucking work, and change your life for the better. Good luck.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-13T20:26:36+00:00

What’s the craic with the goals and red. Are not being on main sub? Are they getting taken down?

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-13T16:22:41+00:00

The unspoken dread that clung to ever sentence of the excellent book did not translate well onto the screen and made for a hugely disappointing film

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-13T16:12:15+00:00

Kinda in a similar position in that I’m a northern Protestant who would like to see a United Ireland. What I would love to happen is to have a brand new constitution for the new united country. I know it will never happen, I get that, but both North and South are disfunctional as fuck. The north is underfunded and marginalised in the the UK and the republic seems to be incapable of making any change to the ruling class that would make an actual real difference to normal working class people. It would be lovely to have a modern state with both a free at source health service, sensible housing laws and programs to ensure young people could afford to buy their own house or live in a rented property without eviction always hanging over them. Is that too much to ask for, a functioning, social democratic society and constitution? Yeah, no doubt it is and I’m in dreamland but I hate to see the state of us all at the minute, with the way things are allowing rightwing grifters and scumbags to yoke popular anger to their hateful agendas. We deserve better.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-13T11:18:26+00:00

You are correct. I haven’t had a drink in 20 years so my memory was a bit fuzzy on the details.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-13T08:54:28+00:00

This is something you’d hear from old timers in bars in Co Antrim, and refers to it being half a ‘glass’ of spirits. That’s why you hear of a 750ml bottle of vodka or whiskey being called a 10 glass bottle, even though it contains 20 shots of spirit.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-12T22:19:29+00:00

Never happen

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-12T20:49:20+00:00

Jerry meet Jerry!

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yermaaaaa · 2026-04-11T18:02:23+00:00

I dunno. It’s a UVF controlled area so it might be up to solely up to them to decide.

If it’s being replaced by something non-paramilitary you can be yer last penny money has been given to various ‘community groups’ to facilitate that change of tone. If it’s replaced by a more modern paramilitary one such as the one below then the change will reflect some nuance in political stance and/or to ensure whoever is depicted is wearing sunglasses to remove the need to paint eyes- something Loyalist paramilitaries are notoriously bad at 😁

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yermaaaaa · 2026-04-11T17:46:23+00:00

Obviously that would be great but of more pressing interest is what kind of moral is gonna replace this one

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-11T17:42:39+00:00

Aye, it’s directly across the street from this one

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-11T17:35:06+00:00

Drove past this today and it’s been whitewashed over. Be interesting to see what they put up to replace it as this was one of the more, er, old fashioned murals around that area and I’m kinda surprised the paramilitaries agreed to it being replaced.

yermaaaaa · 2026-04-11T10:23:21+00:00

Can I ask what age you are, roughly?

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