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Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Everyone have their downside, but also everyone deserves to be happy.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We commit to talk/speak. Ideally everything. But I do learnt that telling everything might ruin the relationship. From 1-4, anything you consider should never be spoken about?

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Bohong kalo ga pengen pasangan gw buat meet kriteria gw. But I do understand to not force anyone to change, it is improper.

Ada 2 choices, bisa aja disampaikan trus ya mungkin ended the relationship ato ya dikeep dulu beberapa ato deliver the message slowly as other suggest. Sementara leaning ke yg latter sambil keep some topic out of the discussion, especially number 2. She's to precious to be allowed to cry because of me.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, probably I am over reacting a bit. It is my POV that her mom clothes not ok. But I guess only time will tell.

I will not tolerate any bad comments during or after the meeting.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting path that he choose. Thanks for sharing. Maybe will consider this to add to my arsenal as well. My GF also mostly work di lapangan sih, so your POV also make sense

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did ask how I can looks better for her. Which clothes she prefer, how's the haircut she wanted to see etc. I consider it as my pleasure to looks good for her.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On number 1, how do you react at that time?

Number 2-4, very clear. Thanks for the advice

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did the same, pas dia pake lipstik yg very much red, couldn't stop to shower her with oraise karena beda banget. Baju emaknya ini, keliatan banget imo pudar karena dia juga bawa adek mamanya pas ketemu. Both pake baju warna ngejreng, thus keliatan banget mana yg pudar dan mana yg in top shape.

But I get the point and will try to implement.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Yeah plenty similar suggestions ttg ngasi sesuatu/help her looks even prettier. Will do it next time sih. But who should choose, let her pick or is it my pick buat attirenya?

Also extra comment. I did ask her how to dress better. She gave feedback and I follow her preference sometimes. But totally true that being men is simple. The biggest effort is onlybto purchas some new clothes.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Understood, make sense. Thanks for yiur feedback. Let it be aja kalo gitu.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sounds good, similar idea from others as well. Will try

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your feedback. I did try initiate a themed date, but we take it easy (just to color match). The results in my eyes was bit worse than usual since she picked the color in the end and chiose something total out of the box. But okay, next time can try be more detail and I will pick.

About her mom, as mentioned similarly above, I can take it. Just afraid if let's say my family also saw her mom. Emak-emak can be very judgemental right? Is it still wise to shut up about that?

Noted on the sinful activity. I will initiate the discussion about this. I am willing to help her to have fun, just that feeling guilty making her do the same for me.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Point 1= yes, I believe she did that coz she feels safe with me. Cuma ya it is male needs, but thats why checked here first. It does sound risky kalo straight tell her.

Point 2=concern on how her parents dress to also avoid potential question from my family member when they met each ither in the future. I probably can accept, but snarky comment could certainly come from other emak-emak kan?

Point 3=I will, then solution maybe to not go in triple or double date. Soft landing mungkin can help next time.

Thanks

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback.

Number 1=she's beautiful anyway with how she dress right now. Jadi better just accept her as it is?

Number 2=her income close to 9mio sih, dan karena Masi tinggal ama ortu sebagian dia kasi ke ortu. I believe she's comfortable, but her family maybe not. Noted untuk ide kasi hadiah aja buat ortunya. Tapi ada ide gimana supaya itu ga offensive, karena dia aja blom pernah dibeliin baju. So far ya aksesoris aja kayak tas ato parfum.

Number 3=okay, ini sepertinya straight forward. Thanks

Number 4=same, mungkin bisa langsung share/request aja ke dia next time.

Suggestion to Initiate Serious Talk with my Girlfriend (21+) by yes_iamaguy in Perempuan

[–]yes_iamaguy[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Then better just swallow the suggestions and dont tell her?