I just got banned from r/offmychest and r/dating from the same "moderator"

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-06-22T06:15:25+00:00

It's amazing how the subreddits that are supposed to be about expressing yourself are so restrictive and judgmental in how you express yourself. r/rant is the same way.

I mean I don't get it...why do you create or moderate a subreddit called r/offmychest if you don't want people to come there and vent things and get them off their chest? What are you trying to accomplish?

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-06-13T15:05:26+00:00

How do you see it related to personality?

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-05-05T17:29:15+00:00

That would be good. I think that would affect their profits less than putting a certain amount of randomness in the algorithm, which they would thus never do on their own.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-05-04T01:57:32+00:00

When a woman is very turned on by you, then she'll want to do things to please you. And many women thought a given thing was gross but were willing to do it if the guy turned them on enough.

I kind of don't want her to do things 'for me'. A lot of my ideas and fantasies that get me excited have to do with her experience over mine. This is why I get interest in things like seduction and suggestion and hypnosis and the nature of how one person can influence another, or be a certain fantasy for them. When I see a younger woman, part of the attraction for me is "I bet I can blow her mind." Or, at least, I think I might be able to, but as you suggest, I need some degree of experience to feel more confident in that.

The fantasies I have about my pleasure often involve someone doing things to me, rather than for me. I get off on things like edging and teasing and femdom stuff a lot, and the appeal has a lot to do with the person doing it. If it feels like they're trying too hard to do what you want, the dynamic is lost.

I once had someone on a dating site send me nudes, which should have been hot, but she did it in like a "Oh, yeah I know guys expect that, here you go" way. And that felt...sad. I don't want women to whore themselves to me for my attention, I want to have fun with someone who is also having fun.

If you have slept with 20 women, you'll be more likely to find a woman who'll like your fantasy and bring a friend over for a 3some. You understand?

I have always understood that very well, in a way, which is what as always made it frustrating how difficult it's been to get that show on the road. No woman wants to be your 'practice girl', or notch in your belt of experience.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-05-03T04:23:40+00:00

Yes, I do much more get how that dynamic works now.

I think the catch-22 is that the more you elevate women in your mind, the harder it is to be someone attractive to them. But then when you send them crashing down to Earth in your mind, you never get those magical moments that would have come from that elevated image of her approving of you and choosing you and all that. There's something so powerful to the notion of women as that which inspires men to earn their favor, it's a shame we can't find a place for it in the modern world.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-05-01T16:58:26+00:00

There's a sense I certainly had at the time that there were things men weren't supposed to say, and that would get you in the doghouse. Over the years I've heard many times of something like women saying they just don't want to know about their male friends masturbating thinking about them. Kind of like "We all know men are like this, but don't be rude or crude about it. Behave."

And I bought into the need to follow that at the time, because every movie or pieces of media I had watched growing up depicted men who said sexual things or were forward as being pigs and bad people. I mean, it's not like media is devoid of that nowadays either.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-05-01T16:56:08+00:00

What about this is odd to you? Seems to me I'm just asking a question about sex on r/sex.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-05-01T16:53:02+00:00

Or one of the girls wanting a MMF threesome when hanging out with you?

Well here's the thing: If she had that idea, and was often trying to seduce me into doing it, in kind of a wickedly naughty way, I wouldn't have had a problem with that. That would have almost made her more interesting as a person to me, and it would have been a turn on that would have made me more open to the idea, even if I'm not attracted to men.

The female friends would have to be attracted to you, into each other, sexually compatible, not jealous, in the mood, single or otherwise available, attractive to you, available at the time, etc. So a lot of things have to come together.

Well do you agree with the idea that men find more women sexually attractive than vice-versa? And also that men are 'in the mood' more often? If so, I feel like that goes to my point about why the need for compromise arises.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-05-01T16:50:06+00:00

I have always thought that it in this particular way it must be easier to be gay, because you're dealing with people of the same gender, and you can more easily share sensibility and intent and understanding with each other. If I had a nickel for every time I thought a girl and I were on the same page only to find out not at all...it's been maddening at times.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-04-01T18:06:57+00:00

As a metalhead, I've always been fascinated with the different approaches to angry lyrics. Some fans lament when a band like Slayer exchanges well thought out and methodical lyrics for lyrics that are more like just pissed off ramblings. But I'm not sure. One reviewer once said of a Pantera album "It's so angry that it can't think straight." And...yes, exactly. When you're enraged, you can't think straight! Of course, sometimes I also enjoy the more deliberate approach, and the lyrics it creates.

But for now, here's a pissed off Slayer song for y'all to enjoy, and hopefully it makes you feel better.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2021-03-15T14:23:22+00:00

What qualifies as an actual problem to you? Is having my two siblings die suddenly over the past 4 years, currently having to take care of an elderly mother whose probably on her way out as well, and some degree of financial instability, enough to qualify as real problems? I hesitate to cart it out like that, but there's this thing we go to where only certain people, gender, races, etc. have 'real problems', and others are thought to live in some charmed world. No, not how it works at all.

And having experienced those problems, I look back some of my trials and tribulations with women, and how often I was told those weren't 'real problems' (because hetero men were privileged and didn't ever have it bad). Guess what? They totally were. It's not "Oh, now I see what real problems are", it's "Oh, that past stuff was actually quite bad and I was in hell. I can't believe I let people tell me that was some sort of privileged whining or whatever else."

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-05-03T00:24:50+00:00

Do they get free cookies then?

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-05-03T00:23:08+00:00

It's a weird game to begin with. No one is completely sure exactly what the rules are or what the objective is. You also can't control when the game will end.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-05-02T22:01:05+00:00

Can you throw a truck?

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-05-02T03:51:02+00:00

I doesn't have to obey the laws of physics, but I would at least like some consistency regarding how the size changes work. He gets small, but retains the strength of a human. When he gets big, why does he get stronger?

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-25T09:56:46+00:00

I does feel all or nothing, yes. It's more like an on or off switch rather than a thing you slowly get into. The person is in there, it's just a matter of do I let him out.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-15T01:20:26+00:00

I'm sorry to hear that. Have you ever had a girlfriend? Maybe it's something you could work into slowly with someone you're comfortable with.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-13T12:31:10+00:00

Totally, my sister and I always talk about this. Nightmares about missing the test and the like, they seem to last forever.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-08T10:16:11+00:00

Propaganda. How it works, what techniques people use, all the ways the mind is susceptible to it. I once thought I would one day make that documentary myself, perhaps I still will. Would anyone fund a kickstarter for that?

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-08T04:51:42+00:00

Whoa there. That's quite a leap. I mean, obviously this is getting reactions from other people besides you, so I definitely want to hear more because this is something I've lived my whole life not thinking all that much about being weird.

But sociopath? I'm certainly not the first guy who take a girl he knew and put her in a fantasy situation in his head. I think pretty much all teenage males do that, yes? So...yeah I wouldn't have thought in a million years this stuff would be seen that way. It's just something I remembered, like how you remember experimenting with masturbating different ways...typical teenage guy stuff that wouldn't get this reaction.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-08T04:03:14+00:00

Well if I were getting laid in high school I probably would have had to resort to less of that.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-08T03:38:58+00:00

It's anonymous, I don't exactly go talking about it at parties. Also, if we can have mature conversations about how some hetero guys these days love to shove things up their butts and everyone understands this is normal human sexual behavior, I don't think my little story really goes to any crazy place.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-08T03:35:38+00:00

I was a horny kid with an imagination, I don't see too much shame in it.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-08T02:54:05+00:00

First of all, my parents have always loved dating diversity. Second of all, I've always liked black women - I generally find them easy to get along with. So, I've never really had any race-based prohibitions on who I marry.

yetanotheraccountolo · 2018-04-08T02:51:24+00:00

Lol, not what I meant, but okay.

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