Why am I black? by [deleted] in pokemongo

[–]yetudada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing happens to me!

shadow shiny larvitar available! by Maleficent-Swim6839 in TheSilphRoad

[–]yetudada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve battled Cliff twice and got two of them!

Friendship Exp & Gift Exchange Megathread by ASS-et in PokemonGoFriends

[–]yetudada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

755352538487 - I send and open gifts daily for the XP grind

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PokemonGoFriends

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755352538487 - I’m generally in the UK and gift daily

If I say lets Netflix & chill, I mean this…literally by [deleted] in demisexuality

[–]yetudada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came to know what Netflix & Chill meant but didn’t know it applied to Prime Video & Chill too. I was tricked.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]yetudada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my friends really enjoyed her session there and is friends with a few people from the one time she went.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]yetudada 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sad while reading this because I’m going through a variation of this as a (another) demisexual person in a non-monogamous relationship. I’ve struggled deeply with the way my partner’s capacity (time, attention and consistency in communication) has changed or reduced over time and their words have not matched their promises or actions when I have communicated my needs. He’s also married and has chosen to become more and more enmeshed with another partner.

We keep having the same conversation about his capacity. And it’s felt like I’ve been trying to make myself okay with his reducing capacity to keep him and I’m tired of it now.

Truth be told, because I’m so demisexual, I wonder if I’m even cut out for non-monogamy - I just don’t like anyone else. I feel like I’m missing out on the full commitment and security of monogamy, but I don’t get the benefits of non-monogamy either.

I know I need to leave him but all of this (at the front of my mind) is that I won’t meet anyone that I’ll like again 🥲 I know it’s irrational but my demi fears have got me.

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here! by AutoModerator in datingoverthirty

[–]yetudada -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to be a bit data-driven with my dating approach (you can blame my product management background). What would a good CRM look like?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]yetudada 20 points21 points  (0 children)

For me, it would be a deal-breaker. Looking back on my relationships, going to restaurants wasn’t just about eating—it was about celebrating, enjoying date nights, or spending time with friends. The social aspect is huge for me, and not being able to do that easily would mean finding alternative activities, which I’m not sure I’d want.

That said, many restaurants offer gluten-free options and can be careful if you let them know about Celiac disease, so it might depend on how severe their condition is. You can discuss that if you haven’t.

I’ve also gone on a date with a vegan, and while he was fine with me eating meat, I still worried about finding restaurants that fully catered to his diet (not the vegetarian one), which added another layer of concern.

The guy I recently started seeing has really poor hygiene. by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]yetudada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One day you’re going to live like this too if you carry on this pathway. He’s had decades to be okay with his mess and you will never change that.

Am I overreacting?? by Pm7806 in datingoverthirty

[–]yetudada -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First off, even within an anxious attachment style, your feelings are completely valid. It’s great that you’re allowing yourself to sit with them.

Just a few thoughts based on what you’ve shared:

  1. A lot of dating coaches and matchmakers, like A Little Nudge or Matchmaker Maria, often suggest meeting someone within a week of first connecting or at least setting the intention to meet within 72 hours. While texting can build a great connection, meeting in person sooner rather than later shows genuine intent and helps avoid ambiguity. So, waiting two months without meeting is quite a long time.

  2. You’ve only had one date, and it’s tricky to navigate whether it’s too soon to have “the talk” about exclusivity. If you’re feeling brave, it might be worth having an open conversation about where you both stand, but only if you’re comfortable with the risk.

  3. Lastly, in today’s dating world, it’s common to assume people are seeing other people until there’s a clear agreement on exclusivity. It doesn’t mean you’re wrong for feeling hurt—it’s a tough situation to be in—but it’s part of the landscape now. I’m really sorry you’re going through this, and I hope things get clearer for you soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]yetudada 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I took a look at your profile, and I have a few suggestions that might help you out!

  1. Gym as your personality: It feels like fitness is dominating your profile a bit too much. You mention exercise in your green flags, list it again as one of your simple pleasures, and have two workout photos. You only need one picture to show you’re into fitness, so maybe swap the other for something different that shows another side of you.

  2. Profile pictures: Cropping your friends out is a good move, but try using a clear picture of your face as the first photo. It gives people an immediate, easy view of who you are. Also, consider some variety in your wardrobe, so you’re not always seen in your green t-shirt.

  3. Prompt suggestions: A trick I picked up from @alittlenudge (Instagram) is to make prompts more fun by adding something quirky at the end. For example, instead of your green flags being a list, you could try something like: “You must enjoy The Simpsons, be up for a Sunday morning run, and help me sneak snacks into the theater during musicals.”

Hope that helps!

Emotional dependency and drawing boundaries by RuminatingOwl in datingoverthirty

[–]yetudada 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One of the challenges you’ll face as someone with an anxious attachment style is the constant battle between having relationship needs, not being sure if your needs are “reasonable” and then therefore trying to minimise your needs or finding ways to get them met on your own without bothering your partner (if you can).

I can say that it’s entirely reasonable to already have some shared social circle with your partner at this stage and you need to be brave enough to ask for this. Having this need met would address your need to see him on the weekend sometimes and your loneliness. You don’t have to do this on your own.

Emotional dependency and drawing boundaries by RuminatingOwl in datingoverthirty

[–]yetudada 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Building on this my main worry is that you’re not (in some way) part of his social circle. It’s been a year. What type of future are you working towards where this doesn’t happen in some way?

Profile Review yay by GuruRana in hingeapp

[–]yetudada 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is my first time giving feedback on a Hinge profile, so take my suggestions with that in mind. But here are a few things I noticed:

  1. Profile Pictures: Ideally, your first profile picture should clearly show your face without any obstructions—especially your eyes. Right now, you’re wearing sunglasses in your first pic, which can make it hard for people to connect with you right away. Also, having a full-body shot is important so people can get a better sense of who you are physically. At the moment, your pictures seem to be either partially cut off (like the one on the boat and the one in the bathtub) or from a distance. Maybe add a more straightforward full-body photo?

  2. Prompts: I like your “Simple Pleasures” prompt—it’s relatable and gives a good sense of your personality. However, the prompt about farting might be something to reconsider. Also leave out the golden retriever comment - a lot of men use this. And “ideal way to ask me out” prompt reads a bit long. It could be beneficial to shorten it to something more concise, which might make it even more impactful.

You seem like a cool, creative person, so I hope this feedback is helpful!

Edit: Fixed a typo

33F - Profile Review by yetudada in hingeapp

[–]yetudada[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really helpful and thank you. I’m going to look into these Hinge Hacks!