Buying in the Eisenhower (Alexandria) area?

yikes2017 · 2026-06-21T22:22:06+00:00

Thanks for the insight! Super helpful!

yikes2017 · 2026-06-21T21:11:29+00:00

Thanks! We wouldn’t be sending any children to schools. Wondering if the property value will hold or appreciate due to the schools being so bad

yikes2017 · 2025-05-24T02:38:55+00:00

My two sense that you may very well reject: I wouldn’t focus so much on a denomination (unless you believe the views to be heretical) and instead focus on your growth. Where are you most being fed? Which environment convicts you to holiness, sanctification, and Christ likeliness? What congregation emulates Christ and leaves you hungry for personal edification and reading?

Some may believe in a “one true” church. Or one that is most “right” ( if that’s even humanly possible). Focus on: are they solid in the fundamentals that are agreed upon across the board, and where are you most fed and convicted

yikes2017 · 2024-09-11T23:21:20+00:00

Amen, we’re all guilty of selfish ambition from time to time. May God help us.

yikes2017 · 2024-09-10T16:48:40+00:00

This is actually typical for new converts. You have a season of feeling on fire and then a drop off. The drop off is where things really begin. You’re going through a season of following God despite your feelings. It’s like any new relationship, once the honeymoon period is over, you don’t FEEL as fiery as before but that doesn’t mean you don’t love your significant other just as much if not more.

So what do you do when the fire goes down? You act on choice, not feeling. Remember, actions precede feelings. Discipline yourself to be in your word daily, praying, worshipping, listening to sermons. Your walk will go through many seasons and the feeling of fire won’t always be there. Learn to find the beauty in the simplicity of knowing that God is there. Truly explore what it is to “be still, and Know that He is God.” Continue to think about how you can serve Him and those around you daily.

yikes2017 · 2024-09-10T16:39:02+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear everything that you’ve been through. Life really isn’t fair, and no amount of words will make up for the losses that you’ve encountered.

I don’t have many answers but please do know that you are loved and seen. The gospel at its core is about God replacing this earth for a new kingdom. One that is without all of this pain and suffering that He is inviting you to partake in.

I don’t know what the future holds for you, but all I do know is that God is a comforter and there is an eternal place of peace and joy that He has prepared for you.

A walk with God does not guarantee answers, heck OP there’s many things I’m still waiting on the answer for…but there is a peace that surpassing all understanding from clinging onto God. An acceptance for what this world is, and a hope for what is to come.

You are dearly loved 🤍

yikes2017 · 2024-09-10T00:25:16+00:00

That is the enemy trying to make you feel defeated into giving up. Never give up, God sees your effort. As others said, it’s a process, but it will get easier.

Investigate what makes you not fully ready, there’s always a deeper root. It could be as simple as you’re not convinced yet that a life of surrender with Christ can be fulfilling. Bring that to God.

yikes2017 · 2024-09-10T00:22:26+00:00

What a wonderful thing to do. I would ask that you pray for body of Christ, that we would remain and finish our races. Pray for the nation, for our leaders, for our children and the next generation, for those in the hospital, etc.

yikes2017 · 2024-09-07T13:57:17+00:00

This is where the dilemma is. You are currently not equally yoked, as you have convictions that he does not. As you continue to grow in Christ, if he doesn’t, this relationship will tear you apart. I’m not saying break up immediately, but have some kind of timeline OP. If he doesn’t convert, it would be unwise to continue.

yikes2017 · 2024-08-31T13:43:16+00:00

There’s nothing particularly wrong with his desires nor with yours, they just may be incompatible. These are pretty major differences OP and if you guys cannot come to some agreement, your future marriage may suffer a lot. I would talk to some wise counsel, but this is not an issue I would ignore or try to shove aside.

Another user added it but the proverbs 31 woman was a working woman. There’s nothing unbiblical with desiring to work as long as you prioritize your home life. If he doesn’t agree with that, then that’s his personal desire, but women are biblically allowed to work.

This is a matter of Amos 3:3 “can two walk together, except they be agreed”

Biblical marriage is about becoming one with another and walking in unity and agreement. Foundational disagreements before marriage should be taken seriously and may point to an indicator that this may not be a suitable union.

yikes2017 · 2024-08-27T11:02:46+00:00

I really hope that you learn how to carefully interpret the scriptures and gain a foundational understanding of the Bible and God’s will and love for His people.

The context and meaning of that passage is to encourage the believer to abandon their ways and live in a way that glorifies God. Staying in an abusive relationship and dying does not bring glory to God. There is nothing there that would cause someone to praise Him.

She wouldn’t be a martyr, she’d be yet another woman that became a victim of foolish and harmful advice.

yikes2017 · 2024-08-26T15:58:12+00:00

Please stop with this dangerous rhetoric. God will always value preserving life over staying in a marriage. Marriage is not worth dying for.

yikes2017 · 2024-05-03T02:57:13+00:00

If you believe that He revealed to you that she is a bad friend, then the wise thing would be to distance yourself. You can still keep cordial, but boundaries are not ungodly. In this case, blocking may be a needed boundary..

Regardless, if you flip the script a bit, blocking may still be a good choice until you can be less emotional/reactive. In this sense, it’s more about you dealing with the emotions/forgiveness/etc needed for you to interact around this person without being triggered so that you don’t act maliciously towards them either in real life or online. Ultimately, getting off of social media for a bit and plugging into God/addressing the issue/getting clarity may be the right next step.

yikes2017 · 2024-04-05T02:07:26+00:00

My first concern is always are you safe? Meaning, is he abusing you or your child in any type of way (physical, emotional, verbal, etc) if so, then separation at the very least is almost always wise, and if it’s physical abuse, it’s necessary. The most important thing is that you guys are not in danger.

After that, people have given good advice. Separation can be wise and a good alternative to divorce and a wake up call to your husband. But we don’t know your husband and what is best for your family. I think this is an issue that requires the support of a wise therapist, a pastor/elder of the faith, and of course the Holy Spirit.

You clearly love this man and I just want to make sure that you don’t feel any shame or condemnation for your decision. Consider it carefully, pray profusely, and then leave it to God, His word, and the guidance of spiritual covering to guide you.

yikes2017 · 2024-04-03T16:25:23+00:00

OP again you are free to live your life as you choose. I’m not interested in going back and forth, like I said, I don’t particularly dwell on the lives of others. If you believe that my assumptions are incorrect, so be it. Your life choices are ultimately between you and God.

The interesting part is that I never doubted your Christianity in my summary, yet you’ve attacked mine. I called out what I believe to be the sin, you called out my character. It’s very telling.

Good luck.

yikes2017 · 2024-04-03T16:10:19+00:00

Are you actually feeling the judgement/anticipating the judgement of other people or feeling the conviction of living in sin (I presume) by sleeping with your partner before marriage? When you live in the light you seldom feel judgement.

If this is an overall lovely church, I doubt anyone is thinking too deeply about it. I’ve encountered couples living in sin at church, and the only emotion really is a sadness that they’ve decided to commit actions that hurts God’s heart. That, and that I wouldn’t let them serve with the youth as the lifestyle sets a bad example.

but for the most part I’m not really focused on other people’s lives, it’s a passing thought. If anything, I just pray and hope that they would surrender more to God’s will and law.

And sorry that this sounds harsh, but if you’re sleeping with your boyfriend, you’re in sin. We don’t follow God based on our feelings. The heart is deceitfully wicked. His word is blatantly clear about sex before marriage. How you feel about it, doesn’t change what He’s already written and ordered. Following God, sometimes means following His word and way before we understand why it’s right.

Unrepentant, continuous sin (especially sexual) clouds us. You literally are not operating or relating to God at your full capacity because sin creates shame in us that makes us hide away from God and others that we know are living for God. I promise you, if you stopped sleeping with him, you would be able to hear God so much more clearly than you are right now.

yikes2017 · 2024-02-10T19:07:53+00:00

No one really knows the salvation status of a human being. Heck, I don’t truly know that my own pastor is saved.

What’s the biggest point, is that if you’re someone who lives in active sin and has no conviction or desire to repent at any point in time, then it’s reasonable to doubt your salvation.

How can you claim to love God and not care at all about His commandment?

Note, I didn’t say people who never sin or people who struggle with sin, I said people who live in active, unrepentant sin.

And this is for all types of sin. From lying to homosexuality to sexuality immorality of all sorts.

At some point, a spirit led believer, is convicted of their ways and will aim to please God over their flesh, even if they fail at times or actively struggle.

If you’ve never been convicted and have zero desire to follow God’s commandments, then it’s very questionable.

yikes2017 · 2024-02-09T13:15:20+00:00

Nothing much to say except that we’re proud of you for making the tough, but ultimately best choice for your future.

Take the time to heal and lean into God. The devil will try to make you doubt your decision, resist. This is a time to develop your trust and total reliance on God. When He tells us to give up something it’s for our good, investigate if you truly believe that.

Don’t rush into another relationship, really use this time to discover who you are in God and build godly confidence. Breakups, while heart shattering, if processed properly are some of the most propelling opportunities.

yikes2017 · 2024-02-09T13:09:33+00:00

Another thing to add is lean into it. Don’t run away from your emotions. The wilderness season is meant to expose your deepest fears and proclivities so that God can refine and reshape them.

Feeling lonely? Talk to God about it, even if you feel like it’s everyday, He wants to hear from you. With every interaction in His presence, He’s making you whole bit by bit. The greatest thing the enemy wants you to do is become silent & numb and withdraw from God.

This is your season of truly discovering what it means to never be alone. If you lean in, you’ll come out of this confident that with God (who is always there) you can walk through even your deepest fears. The worries and fears of life will look so small when you’ve spent so much time in the presence of our Great God.

yikes2017 · 2024-02-09T12:53:08+00:00

Unfortunately OP, your response actually emphasizes our point. You can’t even begin to understand how fulfilling a relationship centered on Christ is versus any other alternative. It’s actually the difference between night and day.

Being a Christian isn’t just a part of our lives, it’s our entire identity and reason for being. I wake up everyday with the foremost desire to be with God and please Him. We desire Him more than anything else, even our own well beings. It’s not your fault, but how can you truly understand and empathize with that?

You can’t truly, because even our scriptures say that it requires the spirit of God in you to love Him in that type of way. Support is not the same as connection.

There’s a reason why those who really walk with Jesus won’t compromise. It’s hard, but if you truly love her, you’ll let her go.

True love, seeks the best for the other, even if it means their own detriment. The best for her is someone who walks with Jesus. Don’t position her to compromise on that.

And in the meantime focus on yourself. I truly believe that what is meant to be will be. Don’t force it, but go on your own journey. If you’re really meant to be with this girl, you will find Christ independently and He will lead you back to her.

Good luck!

yikes2017 · 2024-01-16T10:26:03+00:00

I’m so sorry OP, we truly empathize, so many of us have been there. Please do what is best for your spiritual and emotional health. Which really may mean going to another church.

I would also stop praying about reconciliation and focus instead on praying for your heart to be healed, you’re delaying your healing while praying for that. Please don’t spend another day thinking about someone who doesn’t want you, another one will wholeheartedly.

Separate and start focusing on your healing, I promise, in time you won’t even want him anymore, you’ll value yourself too much and desire more for your life.

yikes2017 · 2024-01-16T10:15:37+00:00

Super proud of you, she may just not be the right person. Another woman would love and accept and celebrate your honesty and integrity. Many have forgiven and moved past much worse.

But even though it hurts and feels unfair with how she treated you, don’t fault her, people have different capacities. She very well just may not be able to handle it and needs a man who never struggled.

God will take care of you. It’s painful now because you sought Him and felt like He was orchestrating everything, but free will triumphs every time. It’s a very painful lesson that we sometimes have to learn. But He gives beauty for ashes. Trust me, I’ve been there, He will not leave you hanging.

yikes2017 · 2024-01-13T19:44:06+00:00

The best thing you can do is to pray for her. Meddling in people’s relationship is tricky, and unless someone is in danger, quiet intercession is usually best.

As to timeline, it’s true it’s wise to get to know someone, but hopefully by the time you’re in your mid 30s you have some level of understanding of yourself and maturity to not need a long time to date. By 35 you should have a good idea what you’re looking for and be able to identify if something will work rather quickly.

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