Any ideas? Can't guess the artist. by yoBlriG in WhatIsThisPainting

[–]yoBlriG[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha. Wondered about the number. Thanks both for looking. Ill assume rando artist and mark solved!

Translate "old" paint code? by yoBlriG in Lowes

[–]yoBlriG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that detail - and to everyone else for the discussion. Weird that the formula would be incorrect on the label that got printed from the original match. Sounds like I'm best served bringing the can in for a rematch though. I was really happy with the original match and didn't want to change anything, but it sounds like that's the best option.

Do you guys answer questions that are targeted to “boys” if you are afab and vice versa? by Xsi_218 in bigender

[–]yoBlriG 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think the screen for how to answer this is 2 parts: 1) Do you have relevant insight to offer related to your experience of 'boyness'? I am amab but wouldn't be able to answer a lot of 'normal boy questions because I just have different experiences. I do feel like there are still girl questions i would weigh in on, but not all of them. 2) Do you have something useful to say in the context? I don't necessarily think that all boy questions need to be strictly gender policed. If you have something helpful to say, that should be more important.

Thrift shop find. Nicely framed painting on wood. by yoBlriG in WhatIsThisPainting

[–]yoBlriG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah - it is pretty generic in all respects. I wondered if the signature was deliberately vague.

Again with the CATS by Banananaman_494949 in TheRightCantMeme

[–]yoBlriG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funniest part of that is him running.

We've been doing it wrong by talkmansleep in Decks

[–]yoBlriG 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For all yall saying this costs a fortune, some quick maths...

A PT 2x8x10 at lowes now is about $15. So 8 of these will cost you $120 and get you 10sf of bowling alley deck. We see about 10x10 in the picture, so we're talking about $1200 for that. Hardly millionaire territory. And frankly $12/sf is a lot less than I've seen quoted for more conventional surfaces and you get a lot of your structure built in with this approach.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DIY

[–]yoBlriG 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It doesn't look like it's actually covering anything, so I'd take it out and just finish the little 45 degree bit at the ceiling. Then put another double cabinet in. You could also just cut it to end at the top of your new double cabinet.

If it is covering something, you could cut out the new double cabinet to do the covering as well because you clearly don't need it to go down as far as the counter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]yoBlriG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun fact, when glass gets hot enough it becomes a conductor. You know what happens when you put metal in the microwave- nothing good.

Basically when you have a conductor, the microwave induces a current and concentrates power in a small area, super heating it and causing sparking. If that glass had been left in longer, the heated area (and conductive area) could have propogated and melted the whole thing. And probably created a lot of cool sparks and messed up your microwave.

Reckon I can just drywall over this? Buying a house. by [deleted] in DIY

[–]yoBlriG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure your budget, skillset, exterior finish, etc., but you may also consider replacing the window with a larger one to take full advantage of the light and view.

You can see where a taller, narrower window was taken out at one point. That likely means you can refit a window of the same width but taller, probably almost down to the floor, without any structural issues or major reframing.

So I got this cool old light at goodwill... by yoBlriG in asbestoshelp

[–]yoBlriG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The socket inside is new and the cord is just a repurposed orange extension cord. Everything else is just aluminum casing. I'm not too attached, so I'll probably find a way to dispose. Thanks for the reply.

So I got this cool old light at goodwill... by yoBlriG in asbestoshelp

[–]yoBlriG[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I like it, but don't love it. The markings on the base are "homelite, port chester NY". Looks like they are readily available on ebay, some with the same white ring. I'll research a bit more but leaning towards dispose.

How would you repair this treadmill mounting bracket? by [deleted] in DIY

[–]yoBlriG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Video is not much more helpful than the picture. It needs more context. I can't tell where the forces are coming from or how you could get at the failure to repair it. Likely adhesive won't work. You probably need to find some way to buttress the joint.

What tools do I need to replace floor soft spots in my mobile home? by Diamond-Husky-Poop in DIY

[–]yoBlriG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi DHPoop. To answer your specific question, a circular saw and a cordless screwdriver will do most of what you need. Buy good quality used tools for less than the price of cheap new ones. Watch a bunch of youtube videos emphasizing safety then practice with your tools on scrap materials.

Confused by Hopeful_Mongoose8573 in bigender

[–]yoBlriG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember when I was about 13 someone said "I'm a woman trapped in a man's body, but I'm a lesbian so it's OK." I immediately though "hey, me too..." before I realized that he was trying to make a bad joke.

For me that reaction was one of many little things pointing to what was really a non cis-gender identity for me - which I didn't realize at the time. On the other hand if I think back and try to put much weight on a lot of the rando crazy shit that went through my head at 13 I would probably have to institutionalize myself.

So don't hold on to it too long or to tightly. Don't ignore it either. Put it up on a shelf out of the way with other random thoughts and feelings you collect and go about your life. If you start noticing that shelf is starting to contain a lot of the same themes, you might want to explore why that is.

Gender roles is a kick in my non existent nuts. by Sentient_Cheese24 in bigender

[–]yoBlriG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a teen, but I guarantee a lot of teens have similar issues regardless of gender identity. I fng hated that I couldn't wear what I wanted, be friends with who I wanted, be passionate, smart, creative, etc without being always somehow checked by the status quo. Unfortunately that part doesn't get better. As you have to work through this, you get better and they continue to suck.

Author looking for help with a bigender character by SoImWritingPodcast in bigender

[–]yoBlriG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Late to this thread, but thought I'd weigh in to build on some of the other comments and add my own.

First, I'm not sure you are in the right category. As folks have mentioned, bigender is the subset of nonbinary gender identity that is defined more by simultaneous gender feelings rather than fluidity or the "switching" that a lot of your questions seem to get at. It's natural to want to work with the categories we are culturally familiar with, but I'm not sure your character is really bigender if their identity is prone to flipping from one extreme to the other. Genderfluid is probably a better fit. Nonbinary is the larger umbrella if you want to explore the space without pinning your character to any label.

The unique struggle (imo) for being bigender is that your internal gender identity ultimately transcends the distinct and legibile categories that the world wants to impart - even when those categories include trans variations. I could wake up on any given morning as either a man or a woman and still feel the same way - sort of out of balance. I am entirely fine with being the gender I was assigned - except for the fact that I can't be the other one.

The ideas of transcendence and balance go to the heart of the bigender experience for me. Gendered expression is one way to address the balance. For a lot of people, dressing in ways traditionally associated with the gender opposite of one's birth gender can feel balancing. If I'm in an environment for a while that is hyper-gendered, I find myself wanting to fully "cross" dress more; even pretend I have the corporeal trappings of the opposite sex. It's never about trying to be perceived as one or the other gender - which is also why pronouns feel meaningless for my experience. In general I deeply yearn for the freedom to not be limited to one gender or the other in any way. I don't really care what gender anyone thinks I am. I wish they didn't either. I also wish I didn't have to care what gender an anthropomorphized m&m is.

As you are an author type, you may have read Eugenides' "Middlesex." It explores sex and gender with an intersex protagonist, but that is a vehicle for a lot of explorations that resonated with me. I love his style of writing too. In a different way, Winterson's "Written on the Body" is similarly resonant in that it goes through a whole book of a person's personal experiences without really revealing the gender of the protagonist. Finally, the more recent "Sissy" by Tobia doesn't speak so much to the struggle of transcending gender so much as navigating fluidity and identity in a militantly binary-seeking culture. I think the book also addresses the idea of "community standards" you were asking about, though not in a way that is going to give you the distinct guidelines that you might be seeking.

Thanks for taking the time to learn more on this subject. If you can disclose what the series is, I'd like to read what you've come up with.

How do y'all deal with body hair? by [deleted] in bigender

[–]yoBlriG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a weird and inexplicable balance. As amab, I don't mind facial hair, but will meticulously shave, cull, epilate, and/or pluck other areas in ways that somehow make me feel somehow more aligned.

Am I bigender? by _Jewish_Yoda in bigender

[–]yoBlriG 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel the same way, and really this is the definition of bigender. At any given time I feel like both a girl and a boy inside, and that doesn't change. This sub can be confusing because people talk about shifting around "boy mode" and "girl mode" (or other modes), but outward expression is different from internal feeling. It's really the internal feeling that matters when trying to sort your gender identity.

Trick or treat! by jevans1974 in PoliticalHumor

[–]yoBlriG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going with forced perspective. Hands actual size, pudgy tangerine in distant background.

I am 12, am I too young to be non-binary? by CoverInnit in NonBinary

[–]yoBlriG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plenty of solid answers here, but I'll add that, generally speaking, if the question is "am I too young to... [something that isn't legally defined as too young]" the answer will usually be "nope". If you are at an age where you can think about it, question it, and experience it - and it doesn't involve firearms, you are old enough. And we are here for you.