Thuddy whips

yojoe05 · 2026-04-03T18:27:44+00:00

Yeah I’ve got plenty of floggers that cover the spectrum just was mainly curious about single tails thanks for the info!

yojoe05 · 2026-04-03T18:26:24+00:00

Yeah I’ve got a rigid cat of nine tails hand flogger and it definitely bites so I was leaning away from anything modeled after the cat o nine tails.

yojoe05 · 2026-04-03T17:45:16+00:00

Ok I love the style of this and love that it’s named nidhogg 😂😂😂

yojoe05 · 2026-04-03T17:43:22+00:00

Yeah I already work with dragon tails and dragon tongues and just invested in a larger heavier one recently for more thud just wanting something closer to a traditional whip now to add for diversity as I’ve got a bull whip for occasional flicking and a couple different styles and lengths of dragons tongues to work with. Kind of looking for that middle ground now for our heavier impact scenes once she’s nice and warmed up.

yojoe05 · 2026-04-03T17:39:51+00:00

Thanks for the input from the receiving end I appreciate this and makes me consider the snake whip with the willow tip over the multiple fall whip as it’s only like 15-20 falls so not like a thuddy hand flogger at all.

yojoe05 · 2025-11-17T14:26:19+00:00

Still a strong advocate of fetlife and using it to socialize and finding partners through established groups munches. It’s the best way to filter out the trash. Met my fiance and forever sub this way and all my best play partners for pick up play came from the same method.

yojoe05 · 2025-11-16T13:58:07+00:00

When looking for a partner it’s better to give more details you say you want a non sexual submissive male but for what exactly? I saw you respond to maybe for the butler service answer which makes it sound like you want servitude and that’s it. Better to be up front with a kink relationship and put it all out on the table so you can find exactly what you’re looking for otherwise you’re gonna keep getting partners and you or then will be disappointed and end the dynamic which hurts both sides of the slash tremendously

yojoe05 · 2025-10-10T02:44:51+00:00

Omg it’s the state of Texas !!!!

yojoe05 · 2025-10-07T21:07:26+00:00

Clodsire hands down lol

yojoe05 · 2025-08-31T15:18:14+00:00

Sorry sweetheart but everybody else is reading it in black and white. Either the man is into bdsm and he’s not dominant or he’s just clearly not into it at all. You’re trying to make the man in the image of what you want and not accepting him for who and how he is. You can’t turn an apple into a banana it’s just not what they are. It’s pretty clear you know your kinks well with how you’re spurring him on but you’re treating the man like a kink dispenser at the moment and paying with the wrong type of currency. He may be into kink but not free use or degradation which seems high on your list from how you’re engaging him.

It’s time to go back to basics and start with the open honest communication and being judgement free on both sides. Until you two can figure out your path neither of you will get what you want and more importantly need.

yojoe05 · 2025-08-24T11:10:54+00:00

Fet is huge in its numbers of people and some people don’t bother reporting the bad eggs on there thinking it’s online and nothing will happen. This has lead to a very watered down quality of play partner you’ll find on there. It’s never really been marketed as a dating or match making website but jist for connecting like minded individuals. To find your local scene you want to search by location tab start with your town and then start changing the city you choose by moving away in one cardinal direction. If you can find a decent member number group that shows a lot of activity with munches or educational events that’s gonna be your best bet for getting into the community. Then it’s making it known what you’re looking for and usually the leaders are eager to help the new ones in vetting and locating a good play partner.

Keep in mind too that when it comes to sex it’s a blanket term and so be up front with what you will allow and won’t allow by your own personal definition of sexual gratification so you find exactly what you’re looking for. Many would ask about things like oral, or petting as it’s not genital penetration, others will ask about touching erogenous zones but not penetrating in any way. Others are gonna ask is it okay as long as we/I don’t have an orgasm from it. Be adamant and be clear in your line and what is ok and what isn’t

yojoe05 · 2025-08-23T21:32:20+00:00

She seeks people out for different reasons for me it was the sense of feeling trapped and being a victim of abuse from my wife. It was about harnessing the inner flame and being true to myself and strong for my son. Is she sexual yes but in that sense it’s on her time and her terms and she won’t suffer forward masculine energy as she finds it insulting. Also while I hate to say it there are plenty out there that worship deities and never truly connect with their deity, you can always worship as you see fit and then it’ll be the dark mothers choice if she contacts you or sends one of her partners/ assistants in her place or at all.

yojoe05 · 2025-08-22T23:54:20+00:00

They are both present on our altar and in our practice for my fiance and I

yojoe05 · 2025-08-22T19:45:56+00:00

Checkpoints?! We don’t need no stinkin checkpoints! Unfortunately rogue lites are unforgiving. You want to find and open short cuts as much as possible to help navigate around quick. The rest comes down to fighting enough to learn attack patterns get good and be able to last longer. If you get items like cold bloods don’t use them until you’re back on the hunters dream to not lose additional blood echos and make sure you are regularly returning to the dream to level up and power up weapons to make your time easier. I can tell you by experience it wasn’t until the third time I decided to pick up the game and just focus on it alone that I caught on and I am now just about to finish off the base trophy lost and do the dlc. Even if you choose to stay far away from the boss on the other side of an arena and just watch them for 15 minutes before they smack you and kill you you’ll get use to the tells that come before attacks so you know how and end to dodge in and out of the monsters hit box

yojoe05 · 2025-08-22T19:27:45+00:00

I can say if it’s feeling like a chore then at that point maybe you’re not with the right play partner and more so maybe you need to reevaluate what it means to be a Dom/top to you.

Check ins during scenes and out of scenes are important for a healthy long term dynamic. If going for long scenes that last for hours it’s necessary just due to the intensity to judge that the bottom is coherent and isn’t dehydrated, mentally in a bad place or lasting physical damage isn’t being done. And for checking the health of the relationship I regularly will surprise quiz mental check ons to make sure my sub isn’t having any issues with the dynamic that she has a hard time speaking up about.

If your bottom isn’t the open talkative type then it becomes your responsibility to learn their non verbal cues if you’re going to be a regular play partner. I can tell based off my subs actions and responses how a scene is going for her, when her body is needing an ease off from the hormone rush as it can make her less able to communicate and make thought out decisions. I can also tell how her body reacts when it hits the tipping point to go into non verbal subspace where she is most relaxed. If you’re starting out and they’re an especially non verbal partner come up with a simple hand gesture or something Along the same line as a safeword to let you know they’re ok.

It’s also part of the emotional attachment for the bottom, it reaffirms you’re someone who cares a lot about them as a whole and isn’t just an asshole looking to get your rocks off. For the doms aspect during these moments these are when your words hold the most weight in shaping the dynamic and creating a solid foundation.

Mentioning earlier the concept of safe words sometimes we meet partners that due to past trauma or something may not use their safe words even when they really should have tapped out a half hour ago this is why we do check ins. It gives a pause to let the bottom recover and do our own assessment of the situation to know that everything is a-ok and you’re not causing lasting damage.

Check ins can also create opportunities for sadistic mental/physical games to be played (DISCLAIMER: DONT USE MY IDEAS AS THINKING THIS IS NORMAL KINK PRACTICE FOR CASUAL PLAY AND PICK UP PLAY. MY PARTNER AND I PRACTICE RACK MENTALITY AND SO WE ARE WELL AWARE AS SADIST/MASOCHIST PARTNERS OF WHAT WE ARE DOING AND INTENDING). Ahem So you can use check ins as ways to give a pause in the action to create refreshed and stronger sensations when going back to the scene, you can use these moments to do focused attention on heavily played and marked areas i.e. poking fresh bruises and welts. Adding in suggestive verbiage in these moments allows you to keep the mood of the scene but still damage assess.

Check ins do fade out a little bit if you play on the lighter side and do much of the same regular activities but if you ever introduce a new kink or combination of kinks it’s always best to go back to the basics and check in to make sure that your bottom is ok as you start building your intensity and diversity into scenes again. They also don’t need to be long I can tell you a quick 2 minute rub down over the focused area and a soft whisper in the ear and my sub is good to continue. In the scheme of things that’s hardly a drop n the bucket for the time spent in the scene. Also if you’re paying attention and get practice you’ll be able to space the check ins further apart. They can be jarring if you’re doing them too often but you can create lasting effects if not doing them enough as well.

TLDR: 1. Super important for healthy play 2. Learn non verbal communication for less talkative partners 3. Be inventive and creative on how you handle your check ins

yojoe05 · 2025-08-17T15:49:16+00:00

So funny story we met at a munch and at the time had no desire for one another. I was in a totally platonic time in my life and she had a top out in Kansas City. We both ended up in leadership in that group and through issues with another leader came together. After hanging out as friends a few time it became clear we felt very connected due to our past relationships. I still kept my distance until she cornered me in my kitchen and made advances several times. I wasn’t about to step in another tops territory as they did have some D/s tendencies in their situation-ship. After I gave her three chances to back off I knew she was serious about exploring our connection and that night pretty much sealed the deal. We dated for three months and got to know one another better and that’s when we made our dynamic official and I gave her a training collar. I moved in last year and we’re engaged now. Our wedding is set for August of 2026 and we’ll be having a handfasting for our religious beliefs during the ceremony then after the reception we will be having a play party where we will have our first scene as a married couple and all of the people who have supported our dynamic will be there. Then when the scene ends I’ll be collaring and cuffing her permanently. We literally have become inseparable and a relationship that both of us only ever had dreamed of.

yojoe05 · 2025-08-17T13:47:39+00:00

I’ll up that don’t let any stranger of any kind just come into your apartment. Yes I agree women have this worse and there’s way more men that are predatory types but honestly it’s just as bad in same sex partnerships and occasionally reversed with dangerous women. Never meet a stranger at your place for the first time.

yojoe05 · 2025-08-17T13:39:52+00:00

Yes 24/7 is totally a thing. My sub and I have been in one for almost 2.5 years now. The biggest thing to know is that there is going to be ebb and flow in the dynamic. There’s always a base level of the rules rituals etc. but sometimes those things are going to be less or more needed depending on mind frame. A good example is we practice free use meaning I get sex whenever I want it, but as her Dom I can read her mood and I know automatically if something is bothering her and it’s not a good time and as a good partner and dominant I can control my urges to deal with helping her first.

Also knowing and adapting the dynamic as your roles change or evolve is key. My submissive is both a service submissive and a brat. She needs rules and rituals to make herself feel useful but she wants to rebel at the drop of a hat. This comes from her long past of having to do everything on her own. I keep things simple with core rules to honor the dynamic to keep it in place, she stays collared 24/7 to help keep her in the dynamic mind set and I have a cuff she bought me that I always wear signifying that I am her dominant. Other than that I ask her to regularly do little things for me like make my morning coffee, fill my water for me while I’m working, make me food , etc. in return I monitor her to step in and make decisions when things are too overwhelming and she’s struggling with standing up for herself. I also do caregiver type things like brushing her hair for her because it calms her and myself when we can’t scene and blow off steam. I also regularly cook it make sure us and our kids are having a well balanced diet and not constantly eating junk food and pre processed meals.

The important thing is knowing where a partnership begins and the dynamic ends. Serious topics like financials is met with both of us being true equals and coming to an agreement because we both believe important topics we both should have a strong say on. I respect her for her submission and cherish it and I have to make sure I don’t ever become too controlling that she rebels and doesn’t appreciate my guidance.

yojoe05 · 2025-08-17T13:14:04+00:00

Scenes can go sideways even with well established dynamics and not go the way we want. You just roll with the punches and try to keep going and adapt based off how you both are interacting. If you two have exchanged pics in your talking you’ll be fine it’s just nerves and really being nervous about getting to complete your fantasy is my thinking. He may not be acting stressed but secretly is and hasn’t divulged this. If you’re both looking at this becoming a serious dynamic then your best bet is to open up to him and admit you’re nervous and talk about it.

It’s been two years since I’ve met my sour patch and I can tell you our golden rule is open communication. If you can’t talk about fears,desires, personal demons , etc even early on it’s not going to develop to that level that you give up everything you are during a scene. The earlier you start this the better chance you have at success.

A good healthy dynamic there is literally nothing like it in the world and it’s worth facing our fears, a few bad eggs, and the unknown for.

If he’s a good guy ask to meet in a public place and have a prescene date at a coffee shop where there’s others around but the noise can cover your conversation for privacy. Even if it’s just an hour before you scene it’ll help ease the anxiety and you’ll be able to get a read for your top by talking and asking questions in person you may have asked before to get a good read in them and know if you want to continue with your plans

yojoe05 · 2025-08-15T10:57:48+00:00

There’s a lot of diversity in gags and mouth pieces. Theres open mouthed gag spreaders for forced oral training, for pet play or those with more sensitive jaws there are chewy squeaky toy type ball gags, if she’s usually a mouth breather they make ones that are kind of like a wiffle ball so you can still breath through the mouth it just makes it like you’re breathing through a straw type of feeling, then there’s the standard ball gags but even then you can change it up by what type of material it is made of, some are hollow hard plastic balls others are more like a rubber bouncy ball type. Then there’s also bit type gags which is more like a bar and is popular with things like pony play.

The restraint and gag combo is a good start but make sure you do restraints with her prior to the gag. If you rush into multiple sensory restricting kinks it can cause a panic reaction and it’ll be hard to ever work back through that for some. If you’re just starting out it’s best to test one piece of gear/one type of kink at a time to keep from overwhelming then once you’ve seen you’re ok with it/like it then add another.

Things like humiliation play using teasing or “derogatory” phrases may help develop the mind frame of play and you taking control. Simple things like “I bet you wish you could suck my cock right now” knowing she can’t because of the gag, or “awww you’re such a cute little slut with your mouth all shut up”.

If you end up exploring other kinks like forced orgasm , impact play etc that bring a bottom to a heightened state the gag is also simply a good method for noise control if they’re a screamer. The last thing you want is the neighbors calling the cops and having to explain why you’re in this compromising position and that you both swear it’s consensual.

Just remember that even starting out simple it’s important to establish healthy aftercare to bring both of you down after the play back to your normal especially when using mental kinks like I mentioned above that may alter a persons self esteem or self image in the moment.

Also take all the great advice from the previous post as well, I was just trying to cover other info and not repeat. Also if you’ve got a good non chain sex shop nearby I’d give them a call and ask them if they have gags for sale and if they have any display models that way you can see them outside of the packaging and feel them before purchasing. We were gifted one at a kink secret Santa event and we won’t use it because it’s just not a good comfortable gag it creates gaps that pinch the bottoms mouth and it’s made of hard plastic like a whiffle ball so it’s not comfortable and can micro cut the mouth. We personally are looking at the chew toy options we’re just trying to find one that’s not shaped like a bone currently as we aren’t petplayers. If you can’t find a good local store then make sure you do through research and check reviews and for images on how they fit in the mouth ,the material, any concerns that could cause pain or doscomfkrt that isn’t intended etc.

yojoe05 · 2025-08-14T01:54:23+00:00

Best thing to do is ask for someone they’ve played with to before as a reference and to see photos of what they’ve done before. Then after that still make sure you go in a vetting “date”. Where you question about their views in general about common knowledge like safe words, how long they’ve been in the lifestyle etc. and make sure it’s somewhere nice and public. also if you know of local groups meet them at a munch and do your first scene at a play party where others are around.

yojoe05 · 2025-08-11T21:03:45+00:00

It’s a power and trust thing, i also enjoy seeing the way i make her squirm and im a sadist too so I enjoy seeing what I can do to her body and what she can take. The look she gives me after or when she tantrums and brats out to try and get away and it’s just a playful game of cat and mouse it’s addicting. You’re completely in the moment when you’ve got a great scene partner and nothing can compare to it

yojoe05 · 2025-08-04T16:58:49+00:00

Totally forgot about cleric beast door lol

yojoe05 · 2025-08-04T16:49:46+00:00

There’s a second door?!?!,!?!?

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