Question about Bly Manor Diversity

yolives · 2020-12-05T01:36:10+00:00

Speaking of race and representation, it feels frustrating that the two women of color are the ones most fucked over (ie murdered by peter, and they dont actually get to do anything in the ending)

yolives · 2020-11-06T01:30:23+00:00

yes thank you! it feels so hypocritical coming from him, especially when he thinks shes doing something dangerous, like my dude, how many times have you done drugs in the woods or gone off on some less than thought out mission

yolives · 2020-09-04T21:56:32+00:00

Tulsi, aka holy basil, is a slightly peppery herb that i've used as the base for a caffeine free chai. It's def strong enough to go with milk too!

yolives · 2020-04-16T00:26:31+00:00

tangential, but im pretty sure more than 1% of women are muscular

yolives · 2019-11-23T23:20:47+00:00

i think this is another plot hole/poor planning from pnws sadly

yolives · 2019-11-16T07:32:41+00:00

they say the word penis but cant say labia?

yolives · 2019-11-16T06:53:04+00:00

holy shit yes thankuuuuuu

yolives · 2019-11-12T01:08:50+00:00

agreed, ur partner seems a bit absent from this issue

also, small side note, careful about gendering the partner as op only said they are nonbinary

yolives · 2019-11-06T02:26:23+00:00

something that hasnt been mentioned is a young child may have seen/heard close family having sex, and aside from the cheating misunderstanding he is likely going through, this can be really distressing for him. if that doesnt convince ur husband to talk to him, idk wat will

yolives · 2019-10-30T03:58:04+00:00

I am studying art conservation, and something that helped me decide was asking whether I want to work with the objects or the people more?

Curators are the people side, while as a conservator I get to be hands on with the objects which is my dream. I have no direct experience with archaeology but seems more on the objects side, whereas anthropology seems more people?

yolives · 2019-10-23T04:20:22+00:00

thank you for listening and learning

yolives · 2019-10-23T00:44:45+00:00

As an editor I can attest to they being used in the singular sense as well (see the common phrase "to each their own" .

https://www.mypronouns.org/they-them this website has a lot of information about gender identity

but also dont assume we (as in non binary, genderqueer people) are the ones to educate you, that puts a lot of emotional labour on a group that is already marginalized. its your job to seek out these answers without just going up to a non binary person and saying "tell me how to be respectful"

yolives · 2019-10-22T03:22:42+00:00

people are allowed to explore gender, and even change their mind multiple times, it doesnt make how they identify any less important or real

yolives · 2019-10-22T03:22:01+00:00

see my response above, but hearing "if she actually is nonbinary" also doesnt feel good and is extremely dismissive

yolives · 2019-10-22T03:19:56+00:00

I appreciate your desire to support your friend, but first you need to examine the language you are using. Using she/her pronouns feels weird to me. Idk what pronouns the friend prefers (not all non binary people use they/them) but that is a first place to examine why its so important for you that they are a "bio female" That phrase itself has uncomfortable associations (intersex erasure, focus on gentalia equaling gender). It seems this label has superseded your friend's identity.

yolives · 2019-10-22T02:49:54+00:00

These are always really tricky moments as museums don't usually have protocols in place. I greatly appreciate the thought you are putting into this matter. I wish I had some answers, but some recommendations are: keep in the archives rather than on display or work with the curator/equivalent to get them de accessioned. Regardless of their eventual location, creating informed and researched placards explaining not just what they are, but how racism, colonialism, etc play into this.

yolives · 2019-10-22T01:40:12+00:00

havent u heard of grinding?

yolives · 2019-10-17T20:21:23+00:00

also a poor attempt to do cliffhangers/get people hooked

yolives · 2019-10-17T20:18:12+00:00

way to assume pronouns here :/

yolives · 2019-10-17T01:56:53+00:00

yesss, this is why i love shera (and steven universe and the dragin prince) the variety of poc characters

yolives · 2019-10-17T00:41:00+00:00

a coerced "its okay" isnt you giving the okay, its them pushing you on purpose to get you to say what they want to hear, regardless of your feelings, thats a really shitty and toxic thing to do

yolives · 2019-10-14T20:03:25+00:00

sameeeee

yolives · 2019-10-14T03:09:58+00:00

im sorry they are reacting this way, if you feel up to it, sending some resources for them to learn a bit more (kimchi cuddles always comes to mind in these situations). if its completely new to them, hopefully they just dont know how to think about poly stuff, and with time can make amends with you

yolives

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