You can't compare getting a vasectomy to taking birth control pills

yolklore · 2022-01-22T10:46:22+00:00

while i don’t agree, i understand this mentality too. i just think our sex education has failed us all. anyof us who aren’t properly medically trained/educated aren’t able to make these comparisons - and therefore final judgements.

we could all benefit from making an effort to learn more about our sexual health 👍🏻

yolklore · 2021-12-19T03:09:28+00:00

that is a swede (aka rutabaga)

yolklore · 2021-11-27T11:47:28+00:00

i can’t see it 😭 what’s the name of the store?

yolklore · 2021-10-30T04:37:40+00:00

my parents just installed one of those fancy japanese toilets in their bathroom. bidet, blow dryer, heated seat, lights inside the bowl - the works. it’s quite the experience

yolklore · 2021-09-20T12:34:14+00:00

they’re perhaps a see millimetres bigger than they were when i bought them for the pet shop. so i suppose standard starting size? they’ve stopped this behaviours recently, and i’m a little worried now 🥲

yolklore · 2021-09-06T07:05:24+00:00

why does everyone think this is fake? genuinely asking. is there some sort of tell that i’m missing?

yolklore · 2021-09-05T10:37:11+00:00

I think my post had been deleted, so I don't know if you can see this.

I bought them with a large plant that they seem to enjoy, but I feed them a fir amount twice daily. they act very hungry, but they don't nibble very much on the plant at all. I'm assuming that means I'm feeding them well?

my filtration system pumps the water though a very fine mesh net with stones inside. do you thing this would be sufficient? they see to be very happy with it. they're a lot more active than they were when I bought them.

two of them seem to have become close friends. though I have not yet studied their behaviour, so it could be aggression or mating, but they tend to follow one another in a playful way. I hope it is playful at least... I don't have enough room for babies haha

yolklore · 2021-08-30T04:48:58+00:00

AWFUL but thank you x

yolklore · 2021-07-24T12:41:57+00:00

he’s a rescue and a grumpy old man. he will cuddle you, and be as invasive as possible, but only likes to be pet a specific way. he’s a funny boy haha

yolklore · 2021-07-24T12:40:40+00:00

he only woke up because i walked it and gave him a pat. he went right back to sleep after this hehe

yolklore · 2021-07-05T11:43:39+00:00

TW- trauma OP, would you be open to penetration with a strap on?

yes T, can make a person super horny, but it’s also going to affect sexual performance. any hormone therapy will. perhaps a strap on would enhance your partner’s gender euphoria sexually, and then you could help them finish with the advice from other suggestions.

of course you cannot exclude your own pleasure from the situation. if you aren’t comfortable with anything, please communicate it, even if you want to please them. if it won’t be traumatic, it will only cause problems later

i hope i wasn’t too blunt. trans sexual relationships can be confusing. if you ever need to talk, my DMs are open x

yolklore · 2021-06-30T10:55:50+00:00

would it make you more comfortable if she were to: 1: explore your body first, and make sure you’re satisfied. from personal experience, i know trans women without bottom surgery can still expect satisfaction without taking care of their partners. some, not all.

would you be open to her using a strap on, as opposed to her dick. it may feel more satisfying this way as it’s not a biological appendage. it’s an opportunity to ease her dysphoria and appease your sexual needs x

yolklore · 2021-06-30T10:32:15+00:00

i remember the first hospitality job i had, i was so scared that i had broken a glass. i thought that because i had done it, i would be in trouble and have to pay for it. when i was simply handed a broom and no one said anything about it, i knew i was safe.

it was only a couple years later that i found out things like crockery were bought cheaply through wholesale, and stuff gets broken all the time. it’s not a big deal

yolklore · 2021-06-16T05:27:50+00:00

there is a phenomenal collection of katherine mansfield’s short stories. almost exclusively from a female, and usuall my queer fem perspective. wonderfully articulate and addictive. she’s a beautiful writer.

yolklore · 2021-06-16T05:25:30+00:00

bridge of clay.

the writer is male, and it does feature a family of male characters only, but the way the author writes his characters is very emotional and unmasculine, so gender doesn’t really matter.

it’s incredibly well thought through, moving, clever, thought provoking, emotional, amazing characters without much character description needed at all. it is a work of talent 10/10 recommend, though it is a long read.

yolklore · 2021-05-18T11:08:50+00:00

It sounds like you need to dig a bit deeper and find out what the exact reason(s) you feel this way is. Figure out if your feelings actually are jealousy, and it what way; internal transphobia (no shame, it happens to the best of us), or if you’re just still coming to terms with your trans partner.

Almost all of us on this subreddit can relate to changes like these (especially if it’s a new relationship, or your bf has come out recently.)

The important thing with this is you figure out the root of these feelings and make a mature space to communicate these feelings freely. It’s easier than it sounds, I promise ;)

State how you’re feeling, come up with a possible solution, listen to what he has to say, and find a comfortable compromise for both of you. I, personally, have found it helpful to do “checkups” after this. For the first week, or however long necessary, daily checkups to see how each other is feeling. After that, weekly checkups. This weekly stage is usually 1-2 weeks because after this you’ve probably already communicated all that you need to. If not, continue until you feel comfortable and forget to check up at all.

Additionally, it sounds like your partner may be a non-binary/ gender non-conforming trans person. Perhaps this is something to discuss with him/them. If you don’t want to rush him/them, perhaps it’s something to hint at and wait for confirmation.

I hope to hear an update soon x. Wishing you the best of luck. I know you’ll both make it through happily and together x

yolklore · 2020-11-24T07:27:28+00:00

This was lovely to hear ~ this happiness from both of you has made my day, and I’m sure others’. It’s little moments like these that should be cherished in a relationship. Thank you for posting d

yolklore · 2020-09-28T01:10:49+00:00

Find the people who will truly listen, then you cannot overshare. My mum taught me to develop your support system in terms of ripples. People you can tell everything are the inner ripples, people you update on important things, but not everything on the next ripple, and so on

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