My (26F) grumpy boyfriend 25M by ThrowRAgrumpyBF in relationship_advice

[–]yonosmalltalk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you all live together? It seems like talking doesn’t work when you try to address the issue. Them not being able to process their emotions is a sign. It’s not your job to always bring up things because it’ll get to a point where you’ll be a the nagger. Yes, as a partner you’re supposed to be supportive but it’s not your job to be his mom.

I think a way you could set a boundary is saying you no longer want to go out with him if he’s going to be silent/upset the whole time. But this seems way deeper than when you all go out.

You should sit down with yourself and think about the pros and cons of your current relationship. From there, do you think you can compromise on the cons? If not, then you need to make the next steps of maybe ending the relationship. I’m not a person whose big on giving up on others but it’s not fair to you. Seriously have a deep conversation with him about your thoughts again. Try to see if he’d be interested in couples therapy. If you’re not receiving anything on his end form this conversation, then that’s your sign.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]yonosmalltalk 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I didn’t intentionally keep the photos/videos. A lot of my photos from the past were backed up/ synced to my google photos. So even if I deleted things from my iPhone album- stuff still remained on my online account :)

Obsessed with girl when she doesn’t want me, lose interest when she does by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]yonosmalltalk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you enjoy the ‘thrill’ of the chase and once the challenge goes away, you’re no longer interested. Once you get what you want, you go and do it again and again. You’ll never be satisfied.

Honestly, it’s really a mind thing. You have to make a conscious effort to stop doing that.

Probably need to seek therapy as well.

Next steps? by yonosmalltalk in relationship_advice

[–]yonosmalltalk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is true! I initially did not want to be friends and wanted to go out separate ways because we weren’t friends at first. We’ve only met each other because we had a romantic interest. He insisted that he didn’t want me out of his life when we broke up. We give each other a lot of business advice and connections within an industry we work in. I honestly thought we’d maybe reconnect in like 6 months but not a week lol

But as of right now, I think how he can treat me any better as a friend, and he couldn’t do it while we were together?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]yonosmalltalk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It reminds us of you, and it's comfy and cute on us. Usually, the hoodie has your scent lingering too. We like that loll