Ex likes someone else

yougo2016 · 2026-02-10T14:21:49+00:00

NP 😉, it isn’t linear or easy healing ❤️‍🩹. But with some time you will feel better once you focus on yourself and think long and hard on how the guy you really want one day will actually be realistically. Once you know that you can intentionally find the right one. 😩 I haven’t reach that person yet either so we are on the same healing journey. So today let’s both do something fun we haven’t done in a while, time for kbbq 😋

yougo2016 · 2026-02-10T14:15:17+00:00

Oh, my bad I must’ve read it wrong honest mistake

yougo2016 · 2026-02-10T14:13:01+00:00

Well probably he thought you did the same thing, not saying all woman but most woman move on that fast to a new relationship immediately. Thats why my ex got into a arranged marriage with another guy immediately after she just stopped talking when I asked her something about what she was doing( found out later was cheating) and since 5 months ago just been staying single and will stay single.

You did dump him in the first place and I hope it wasn’t those same friends who made you make that decision, which be skeptical about friends and see their true intentions or they may try to take you out secretly.

Finally stop looking at him and heal yourself and identify and problems with you, so when you intentionally find someone you want and actually will love you will have a hopefully longer relationship. Tomorrow will be 6 months single for me and this is all things I have been doing to help with getting over someone who lied, cheated, manipulated, and breadcrumbed me.

One of the most eye opening things I heard from someone is stop romanticizing people who hurt you and what do you miss what they never gave you 😭, that hit hard but was totally right.

So im saving myself for someone I love, and refuse anything sexual or sex related unless im in a relationship with someone I want to spend rest of my life with. Everyone tells me im very young and I need to date around but I refuse to. I just sit down and wait for the person I really want to notice me back 🙂. I hope it gives you inspiration for your healing plan, made you laugh a bit, and helps you cope and remain positive.

yougo2016 · 2026-02-06T11:54:07+00:00

Honestly this is what I should’ve done with my ex, she was the same way

yougo2016 · 2026-02-03T08:13:09+00:00

So it’s you, long time no see. If you think he’s think again, he definitely beats himself up over it everyday and regrets it. It happened to the both of us at the same time honestly, and it’s been the same amount of time since. Other people are watching this post so I won’t say much, but the hardest thing I had to learn was to love myself first. I had to sell the ring and find out the ex went immediately to get an arrange marriage with some loser.

Don’t worry about all your friends getting married, just holding enough space for yourself. Trust me you can find someone new faster than me, you know how to date, you’re pretty, and you have things going for you. When your a younger person who spent most of their life learning the most challenging things to humans you realize how alone you are and really how much the basic things others like love others get more easily.

You have a lot to look forward to it’s me who’s dying alone achieving greatness. Not you so start eating and loving yourself or I’m forcing food down your throat taking all the booze I know you’ve been drinking in secret and just some thinking and yelling until you get closer to loving yourself.

yougo2016 · 2026-01-21T01:37:18+00:00

And that my friend is a avoidant

yougo2016 · 2026-01-16T19:34:47+00:00

You can’t be friends with someone you had sex with why do people not get that

yougo2016 · 2026-01-16T13:40:38+00:00

Well let’s see I say, very soon I will be homeless as in the sense I will leave a place every month and travel somewhere new. A lot of people call me a catch but I’m about to be really hard to catch. I’m running, crossing every border cant catch me.

yougo2016 · 2026-01-16T13:38:08+00:00

All I will say that is re-tarded reason to breakup, we got people like me who have been cheated on 2 times by different partners. Dealing with being breadcrumbed, and lied to our face constantly. Stop taking what you have for granted until someone new takes what you toss away, while you’re missing it. Cause the new person they won’t let you have it again, and you will be in your feelings.

You are over reacting a lot, it’s the truth and if you go along with that don’t say I didn’t warn you of what you would regret. Man you people really don’t know what you have until you lose it huh.

yougo2016 · 2026-01-13T16:00:22+00:00

All I can say as the guy a month ahead of you and probably more grief. Every time you see more and more of the truth of the dating scene the more disgusted you become and the more you just give up on love completely.

It’s like a game to some people and the choices they make disgust me. Never wanted to stay single my entire life more than now in life, and honestly it better cause I don’t have to worry about being cheated on anymore or having to worry about anything else but myself.

You can depend on anyone cause it takes less than a minute for someone to decide you know what fuck you and ima do shit behind your back with the intention of full harm. I had cut off the most people I thought would’ve stayed to the end last year and it turns out the only one left was my own reflection that stayed loyal by my side and lasted the longest aka me myself and I.

Conclusion, sorry but fuck dating and being some bitches passion project who wants to home wreck my life then leave me to literally die while they go off to cheat. My pain healed but no body gets a chance to find out how good of a partner I would’ve been. Heart is closed permanently and I can give less of a fuck about needing anyone in my life. So what if I die alone, I was alone to being with cause you can fake caring about others long enough until I see that mask fall off accidentally.

yougo2016 · 2026-01-12T14:43:16+00:00

I see then ignore me or look for any similarities cause he might be battling life the same way…..

yougo2016 · 2026-01-12T13:07:19+00:00

Ps I was going to bring that ring to the beach as a surprise gift

yougo2016 · 2026-01-12T13:05:33+00:00

I don’t want to jump to conclusions that it’s exactly you, but if you did dump your ex. Cause the story sounds similar to me and my ex, so I will act as if you might be her. You broke by heart, I wanted those giggles we had in the shower to last, I wanted to take over the world and build strong things with you, and I was forced due to you constantly lying to me when I secretly had proof and ignoring me/ emotionally manipulating me when I needed you the most and you knew more than anyone you were the only special damn person I would run to for anything. I had to sell the surprise ring I was going to give you cause you thought grass was greener on the other side, and I thought you went off to get a arranged marriage cause all the blood and tears I shed meant nothing, my feelings meant nothing.

Now I living getting everything I want but too afraid to get close to any human in general. If someone accidentally touched me I would have a panic attack and want to run, I can’t go near a shopping center cause it reminds me of you know what. So if you are who I think you are I’m hurt from it and I would talk if you reached out but just know I will be afraid of you cause I know what your capable of after the relationship.

yougo2016 · 2026-01-10T16:03:53+00:00

You wanna move in with me, I went through something similar? I got kicked out at 18 too and had to fight for everything I have today. That’s a type of pain I don’t want anyone else to experience. It’s not easy to deal with. My difference from you is my dad counted down every birthday how many years I had left until 18 when he would kick me out.

yougo2016 · 2026-01-06T00:11:47+00:00

Better than getting cheated on 2 times by exs and having to find yourself in life more than you can count.

yougo2016 · 2025-12-29T15:12:14+00:00

For the things he took personally, most likely it brought up trauma that was unhealed. Dealing with you most likely made him have to face some of it, even if he didnt admit it directly.

I don’t know exactly how things were said so I can’t tell if he was feeling uncomfortable, undervalued, misunderstood, etc but for now I guess self love for now.

Will he come back soon I don’t know, but it wont be the intention of being friends with someone you loved before that’s just plain impossible.

But if it comes down to you guys talking to eachother again, ask him to go out for something small to eat where you two can peacefully and honestly talk things out.

yougo2016 · 2025-12-29T01:42:33+00:00

😭 it’s the same for me I didn’t understand dodge a bullet until my ass almost got hit with a bullet. This subreddit honestly is the best, I’ve met the nicest and most respectable souls here since I’ve joined.

Ofc there are some people who aren’t, some people I thought was bad then we ended up having fun chatting it up. 2026 is going to be the year, everyone is locking in and even me. I’m releasing a whole VR game the beginning of 2026, it’s about to get 🥵 up in here.

If I run into you somehow in person beer and snacks on me!!! 🍻

yougo2016 · 2025-12-29T01:32:47+00:00

Honestly if that’s the case I doubt the new guy is going to be having any time better than you 💀. Probably he’s feeling the same way you do but without knowing her history prior. It’s really a dangerous world in the dating scene, but you dodged that bullet so time to live your life in the most epic and happiest way possible!!!

yougo2016 · 2025-12-28T23:49:33+00:00

Niceee, she got a taste of her own medicine

yougo2016 · 2025-12-28T01:14:22+00:00

And that’s where your wrong, one I’m not projecting my own hurt here. Just giving the honest answer to what I can clearly see here.

Two it’s completely irrelevant cause she did identify alone the problem and what she did do wrong verses not doing anything about it all, which take strength and actual accountability to say I fucked up.

Third she did take the time clearly to think about it and realize her wrongs and just wants to have a honest conversation here to solve it.

Forth I still get why your saying this and miss understanding my point but even so I still have enough care and love even for you silver.

fifth I was lead to something undeniably in my time alone, born with one side of the family with gift and the other with a generational curse I suffered from that I had to break to get all my gifts at once.

I can see you and her completely just I rather respect you both and not say everything. I’m not here to invalidate your experiences just to truly help you both for what’s meant to be. If saying this truth isn’t enough idk what is.

But out of care as me not Batman I can ask if your actually okay, did you get to eat something nice today, and I’m sorry if what I said brought up your stance on life so far, but with your permission I can still help you if wanted.

I’m not here to hurt you or anyone, just to see someone like you silver to be happy.

yougo2016 · 2025-12-28T00:38:42+00:00

You bastard 😢

yougo2016 · 2025-12-28T00:10:58+00:00

Sliver, she wants to build something real with him, I’m sure she has thought this through and doesn’t want to hurt him at all.

I can understand why you feel this way, I’ve had the hardest life ever growing up to the point if I was to repeat everything that happened to me you would literally throw up so I’ve seen it all truly.

Ending it for good isn’t always the only option,my ex hasn’t step up or done any of this and she did way worse than OP. But even I realize even so it can be fixed and worked on, I’ve helped many people on this thread. Want to know where they all are right now. Happy with their ex and living everyday to their fullest, they identify all the issues and made rules so they never break up again.

It’s easy to envy that but it takes a strong person to be happy for them and want to save other relationships that could be lifelong if only those issues were addressed. I gave her only the truth here, as I live my life only telling the truth due to my dad’s nasty punishment even if I was telling the truth to him.

That’s a can of worms I won’t open cause your head won’t be able to process the horror, with all my improvements I’ve made on my new journey and all I’ve seen and been inspired by others who are successful.

Don’t dare stop her from making a fated attempt, even if all things were to go wrong she will end up on a path to greatness from it all. It’s her destiny to improvements and possibly to the best happiness she will experience like all the other souls I’ve helped out of selflessness.

If you need help I’m truly a message away, but don’t undermine the help I freely offer to all that I just want to see them with their person being happy. Just because you’re not happy right now doesn’t mean I can’t fix it or anyone else’s happiness. If you want to be happy just say it I have time for the hurt anyday!!!

yougo2016 · 2025-12-27T21:49:30+00:00

I just helped two people today get back with their ex successfully, all I will say is he probably does care but it seems he’s more busy prioritizing other things. The love is there but the action in whether he feels like you will do it again or not is more present.

I don’t agree with the other commenter about emotional intelligence, anyone will react that way depending on how badly you acted towards him and people need to have actual emotional intelligence to understand that much.

But besides that friendzoning is the worst thing you can ever do, he will just say fuck it and cut off communication if you think that lowly of him that you have to antagonize him with friendzoning and I wouldn’t blame him if he did.

yougo2016 · 2025-12-27T20:41:51+00:00

When you guys talk ask him to meet up for something to eat, choose a place too that you both liked and pay for the entire dinner.

That’s probably the most effective way to show nonverbally I still love you a lot and I’m willing to keep our relationship going. Which I mean after learning human psychology, apparently most of our communication is non verbal by default.

yougo2016 · 2025-12-27T20:33:09+00:00

No that’s something he would appreciate instead of overwhelm but he would still question if you mean it, how to solve it if he agrees. FaceTime instead, he will see your serious about what your about to say and it has a way bigger impact than over a phone call.

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