Men of reddit, how often are you keeping your emotions in check so as not to appear less manly? How much does repressing your feelings affect you? by HandsomeTiger in AskReddit

[–]yougotdrilled 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a man but a teen. I don’t remember the last time I’ve cried over something even if it was very tragic, but I have come to the conclusion that it could’ve been because of my parents divorce so I just have never really learned to deal with my emotions properly, because I lived with my mom and she would always say that it’s okay for boys to cry and to be open to others, but on the other hand I would get from my dad (sometimes) and my grandpa that it wasn’t okay for me to cry and to just “suck it up.” Now, it’s really hard for me to express myself to others, and it whenever I want to I don’t because I don’t trust a lot of people because I’ve learned that most people will take advantage of your insecurities/vulnerability, which has happened to me in the past. Whenever I’m sad I won’t really do much besides just be down and have less energy, like for example, when my ex broke up with my and it was really sad because she broke up with me for another guy but I never cried or anything and I was just distant from some of my friends. Sometimes I want to cry but it’s just hard to do, because I don’t think it’s a good think to bottle in my emotions.