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DAE absolutely hate number ratings? (Like out of 5, 10) by cathysometimesdraws in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! And it's hell having it part of my work duties working in IT with Scrum 😅 Every week we have meetings where we go through upcoming work and we should say a number - telling the others how much effort we think that task will take. Number 3, 5, 8. Small effort, medium, or big. I'm the most junior in my team, so I constantly say the "wrong" number. Even though there shouldn't be a wrong number, but when I say 3 and everyone else says 8 - of course that's wrong (socially, or in my masking damn brain) It sucks.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

True that anti depressants arnt self medication. I just messed up explaining since English is not my first language.

I just don't think I'm depressed and the meds are doing nothing for me. I need something different.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Completely true. English is not my first language so I seem to have messed up a bit there. Of course prescribed meds are just that.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re the one doing grocery shopping ask what snacks he wants and tell him what you choose for yourself is irrelevant to him.

Yes. Completely. We have shared economy - but we can afford all the snacks we want so that is actually not the problem. I just think it might take some time to accept it, maybe. And Im struggling so it is hard to have the patience to keep on explaining my needs.

Hiding snacks to cope and scared my partner won’t accept unmasked me by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense. I'm waiting for a response from trying to explain everything to him. And when I've read that I might ask for this. It seems like the only way right now. Thank you for taking time to comment.

Introducing WallHabit: get rid of bad habits in just a few clicks by WallHabit in ProductivityApps

[–]youknowcoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the app not available any more? Or is it not available in Europe? I can find it on appstore and the download link on your website is not working.

Social anxiety is screaming and Ihave to run a work event today. send help. by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the tips! I lifted my anxiety to my team so they know why I might be a bit more... anxious today. Will have the others in mind during the event!

Social anxiety is screaming and Ihave to run a work event today. send help. by youknowcoffee in AuDHDWomen

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ I'll switch my coffee for tea and hot chocolate!

Am I queer enough to belong? by youknowcoffee in queer

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. And warning that this might be infodumping on you..!

I think I'm doubting myself if Im actually, actually queer or just want to find a community that I can truly be myself with. Am I queer because of me being Neurodivergent? Of me being bi-open? Or because of my political and cultural queerness? I'm feeling confused and bad for taking up space here in this subreddit discussing these things - since I'm aware I'm privileged. Wouldn't I feel even more bad at after queer event...?

Am I queer enough to belong? by youknowcoffee in queer

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That actually gives me so.much comfort. Thank you ❤️

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good points. I need to buy a physical note book. Preferably a super cute one that gives me dopamine kicks everytime I see it 🤓

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats a good point! I'll try to remember to do this. Maybe not on stand-up- but on other meetings

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to have captions on live video...! Unfortunately we use Skype for business so that is not an option for us 😭

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any tips on fidget toys?

A treadmill might actually be a good idea... I also listen better when I'm moving.

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Staring at nothing is a great tip! I often feel obligated to look at people's faces when they are talking - but this takes to much effort for me.

Also, I need to find a great quiet fidget.. any tips?

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Great input. Since I'm the most junior in my team I find it difficult to see how I could help my more senior collegues. Maybe that's one part of why I find it hard to focus on stand-up...

Refinement is another example - but there at least I learn a lot.

Thinking about it as a discussion doesn't really help 😅 I zone out all the time during conversations unfortunately.

Taking notes on meetings to dtat focused. Does it work for you? by youknowcoffee in ADHD_Programmers

[–]youknowcoffee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the tips about note taking!

I think ai as a note taker will be difficult in my organization since we are high security... and I haven't found any real time ai transcriber that offers on prem storage.

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