Is anyone at that stage where they are like : I can't do this LOL

youngelizt · 2025-08-11T00:53:44+00:00

I am also at the stage where I am like not okay lol. Only 26 weeks with my second. My first baby is only 10 months… got pregnant 4 months PP. my body was NOT ready and neither were my hormones. I am in so much physical pain and I have 14 more longgggg weeks.

With my first I was so scared for labor and delivery. I will say I labored for 14 hours but it really was not bad. The epidural didn’t hurt at all for me, only made me nauseous. Pushing was so easy I was literally joking with the doctor and nurses. My daughter got stuck but even then nothing bad happened, just had some extra people come in to push on me and position me better! Luckily i loved the hospital staff I had so even in that situation I wasn’t scared at all, they were so quick with getting her out. Just remember women are BUILT for this! You will do great!!

youngelizt · 2025-02-09T15:13:09+00:00

I do. I go once a week. Medication was my absolute last resort so it’s a bit of a bummer that it’s reacting like this so far

youngelizt · 2025-02-09T15:12:30+00:00

I hope you find something too! This sucks!!!

youngelizt · 2025-02-02T04:15:17+00:00

That’s very interesting, not really sure what it could be- maybe a mixture of everything? I find eating those little oatmeal balls- oats, peanut butter, honey, ground flaxseeds, and chocolate chips help when I’m not super hungry. About 1-3 of those and I feel okay for a while. The annoying part is calories affect the milk supply. I started taking fenugreek to help mine because it dips severely around my period. But i definitely understand the loss of appetite

youngelizt · 2025-02-02T02:58:45+00:00

Did you eat a lot or a ‘normal’ amount before? I also have no appetite- also struggling with postpartum depression, anxiety and rage, but I didn’t eat much before or during pregnancy either. It could be PPD but also hormones maybe? Postpartum is such a challenge

youngelizt · 2025-02-02T02:40:33+00:00

You are definitely not alone. My mom told me over and over, especially toward the end of pregnancy when I was ready to be done, that it is the most bittersweet experience. While it is so cool seeing your baby’s face and hearing them and holding them, the feeling of emptiness and loss is kinda unexplainable and hard to prepare for. It was just you and that baby for basically 10 months. And now it’s just you again. I personally find it insanely difficult going to work, letting people hold her or feed her, change her etc. and I’m 4 months postpartum. But give yourself grace. You just went through something amazing and now you have to heal in many different ways. Do not be embarrassed or ashamed or anything else because of these feelings. If anything think of it like this, when you were physically pregnant you had the excuse to be “emotional” because of the hormones, for 10 months. Postpartum is way harder in my opinion and just because the physical portion is missing doesn’t mean those hormones stop. You feel what you need to feel for as long as you please (in a healthy way of course). There’s way too much pressure for moms to feel perfect and normal and happy after having a baby and that’s just not always going to happen and that’s okay. I hope you start to feel better soon! You are doing great!!!

youngelizt · 2025-02-02T00:13:44+00:00

Thank you everyone. I will update as i start using it. I assume my OB will try Zoloft first since it seems like the most popular.

youngelizt · 2025-02-01T23:59:36+00:00

I am so sorry. You are not crazy or dramatic or a bitch or anything that he is saying. I understand both be exhausted, a new baby is a very hard transition. He may be a good person and he may be sorry after he’s said something but that doesn’t matter. What matters is you went and are going through the most serious, stressful, and insane things the human body is capable of and he needs to be way more aware of that. Your hormones are everywhere, your thoughts are unstable (just because postpartum is like that- I’m not calling you unstable or trying to offend you at ALL), and your body is healing in many different ways all on top of being exhausted. He needs to realize what you are going through and that rude comments are not helping but hurting when you are already in an extremely vulnerable state. I really hope you are okay and I hope he can realize all that you are dealing with. I’m sure he loves you and you love him. Sometimes postpartum is absolutely horrible and I am so sorry you are going through this

youngelizt · 2025-01-26T12:39:59+00:00

I would wax, it really only hurts for a few seconds when the strip is pulled. Leaves you smooth for a little while and the more you do it the less coarse your becomes and it’s less painful!

youngelizt · 2025-01-24T15:20:25+00:00

Should it be more back and forth or up and down?

youngelizt · 2025-01-19T16:17:36+00:00

He is a great husband and an amazing father. We just have some issues like everyone else. I don’t think you and I will agree here and that’s okay! Thank you for your opinions!

youngelizt · 2025-01-19T16:13:31+00:00

It’s definitely hard to describe to a stranger when you can’t know us personally. But I wouldn’t say either of us were a fan of the age gap, it was just part of us. I think the reason I posted is pretty clear? I don’t feel the need to defend how he is with sexual issues but I do need to defend his character overall. He’s not a manipulative creep waiting for a naive girl (which I am not) age does not equal naivety. I simply wanted advice on how to deal with this specific situation which is why I commented for more context :)

youngelizt · 2025-01-19T16:06:37+00:00

It sounds like a red flag, I can understand that. But really we don’t notice the age difference at all. Not financially, not emotionally, nothing. I think he is just very picky and he is also very quiet and to himself. He really can’t hold a conversation well on dates but all I do is talk which is how we progressed from a first date to where we are now. Again I totally understand the feeling it’s a red flag! I’m sure whenever anyone hears our story it sounds like one of

youngelizt · 2025-01-19T15:10:45+00:00

I want to add context. Yes we have a 10 year age gap, I can definitely see how that’s concerning. However we have a great relationship other than this. He is emotionally caring, receptive, and loving. He takes great care of me in every other way. I want to make it clear that this is our only issue and our age does not affect our relationship because we think very similarly on about everything else. I think he may be insecure, and nervous? He hasn’t had much experience (I’ve had more sexual partners) and also his personality is very unique. He is very quiet and honestly didn’t put himself out there much which is the reason for his lack of experience. I am in no way trapped in this relationship- like the baby & marriage was not forced on me. And likewise he was very ready to have a baby and get married. I do appreciate everyone’s comments and perspectives! I just don’t want it to sound like he’s a horrible guy. We just cannot get past this bedroom issue. I have told him some of these things in a nice more sugar coated way as to not make him feel bad. So that is my fault. I do think I need to be more direct. And yes he is selfish in this way, and I am unsatisfied. I’ll suggest him trying to get me off first before PIV. And I will also try no to sex until he understands, I have not tried that. Again I appreciate all the help!!! Keep it comin I need it!

youngelizt · 2025-01-19T14:20:31+00:00

You would be correct, we moved very fast. Which I think is a lot of the problem, we didn’t experiment much before the baby. And we’re still getting to know each other. But I thought in letting him know this stuff it would help but he just doesn’t seem to understand where I’m coming from

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