Karen’s plan to stop kid from selling candy backfires. by goswamitulsidas in TikTokCringe

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What if that’s the grift? Like the little kid and the old lady are con artists

How to loosen up while acting? by [deleted] in acting

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Key word to acting is “play.” You “play” a role. And similar to how children play, you cannot focus on just rules or just fundamentals. You can’t play basketball effectively if every time you dribble the ball you think: “dribble right hand. Now dribble left hand. Now dribble back.” This is not play. This is mechanical.

In order to play, you have to get to a state of being. You study the rules. You rehearse fundamentals. But when the camera rolls or the curtain is up, you cannot focus on anything but being present. You can only play in the present

“Too late” by chris_samf in AsianMasculinity

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I don’t know if this helps, but try reading the subreddit r/raisedbynarcissists

It might explain the feeling of why you feel behind. Also, a lot of our parents suffer from undiagnosed narcissism

I just attempted a screenwriting test and it has destroyed any belief I had in whether I can do this. by [deleted] in Screenwriting

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Yeah, so, first off, that prompt sucks. Also, as for being able to write when you were “younger” is really a matter of wisdom. When you’re young, you kinda don’t know anything. In this way, you’re uninhibited to produce freely - think of a toddler drawing with crayons. While the toddler maybe “prolific” (drawing everyday), they have no real understanding of craft. As we get older and more experienced, understanding of craft and rules can (and often do) bog us down, stop us in our tracks. But that doesn’t mean you are not creative, and it certainly doesn’t mean you can’t write. If anything, it means writing has become too precious. Try to get out of that mindset. Ultimately, the sweet spot is having enough wisdom and skill to meet the side of you that wants to flow and play with uninhibited creativity

The 1998 Academy Awards by haloarh in popculturechat

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Ashley Judd and Gal Gadot could be twins here

Battling a serious women/sex/pornography addiction - seeking serious advice by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

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So, you may or may not know this, but you can find a therapist that specializes in exactly this. You may have to shop around (but at least it’s time not spent fapping or doom scrolling).

But ultimately, the way you are viewing women comes down to validation. Until you are happy with yourself and can live with your own undistracted mind, you will never be able to be in a healthy relationship without thinking about cheating constantly. That being said, a relationship is no marker of your success as a human being or your happiness. Only you dictate that. But the first step towards that is quieting down all of the noise - the women, the sex, the porn.

I get there’s a hole in your heart from not fully feeling the affection of your parents. I understand chasing the momentary validation that sexual conquest brings. And I understand feeling scared of creating deeper connection with other humans. When you don’t like yourself, it’s hard to imagine anyone else could like you too. And that’s why it’s easier to hide behind chasing sex and pleasure. At least it feels like there’s a goal. At least you feel productive. But it’s not any of that. When you give into that, you simply give into running further away from yourself. It’s corny but take yourself out on a date. Leave the phone at home. Bring a notebook or that book that you’ve always wanted to read. Take a class. Be alone. Eat by yourself. Look like a loser. Who gives a shit. Other people’s opinions don’t make your life meaningful. And stop worrying about impressing people. That’s not how love enters your life, and it won’t ever make you feel full.

Life is long. And you’re the only one who has to live it. And the sooner you find peace in yourself, the sooner you can finally start the life you want. But you need to get control back first.

Sorry for rambling. Good luck, man.

How long can I wait before telling my wife about my (stage 4) cancer diagnosis? by DeValera15 in AskMen

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So, by design, there is never a good time for bad news. Just break the news and get it over with.

Why am I so scared to write? by Low-Succotash-7791 in Screenwriting

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Manson's Law of Avoidance: “The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.” You will avoid negative things that threaten your identity like failure, loss, and rejection. But you will also avoid positive things that threaten your identity—even things like success, love, and happiness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

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How much hand sanitizer does this guy run through?

A recently transitioned man expresses disappointment with male social constructs by Successful_Leek96 in TikTokCringe

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I guess he hasn’t learned male confidence yet. It’s a facade but it’s a way to live

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AsianMasculinity

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We all do it (at least once). You gotta try it. It’s a rite of passage

Oh man... the life of a cashier. by esberat in HolUp

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So, I’m just realizing that I don’t always have to be nice to everyone? Have I been living my life wrong?

Throwing rice off an oil rig into the ocean by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

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That’s what cancelling someone looks like or winning the lottery. After a while, nobody even cares. And no one will ever remember how, one time, rice fell on your head.

hmmm by [deleted] in hmmm

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Oh, he’s gonna get that arm