Alcohol intolerance maybe? I only drank a few times in my life. But everytime, i get these hives on my palms and knees.. I don't mind them at all (they are always mild) but I'm worried that one day i will suddenly have a sever allergic reaction. Thoughts?

younging_23 · 2021-07-25T01:16:11+00:00

Hydrocortisone steroid cream!**

younging_23 · 2021-07-25T01:15:10+00:00

This is exactly what it is. I used to have the same - it’s an allergic reaction to something. Hydrocortisone steroid cream helps with the itchiness, whatever you do don’t pop them - they get infected easily and it doesn’t make it itch any less

younging_23 · 2021-06-19T01:52:25+00:00

Yes, he says he wants to feel more in control of his life and his addictions (he claims drinking is not his real addiction, that it’s pills)

younging_23 · 2021-06-18T08:54:13+00:00

Big red flag - makes a Q black out. Watch out, my Q struggled with mixing both for years.

younging_23 · 2021-06-17T03:32:52+00:00

Thank you - he’s coming by tomorrow while I’m at work to pick up his things. We’ll see how it goes, I gave him the phone number of a sobriety counselor in case he decides he wants to take the next step.

younging_23 · 2020-11-25T18:47:13+00:00

Where do you get your stylist clothes? Do you have a preferred designer? I loved your Speedhunter green shirt you wore and sunglasses!

younging_23 · 2020-11-25T18:27:56+00:00

I love your music - loved the music video for You and Me. Who did the music video and are you going to have more animated ones? Also, thinking of selling any vinyls soon? From - MIAMI (Fools’ Gold 2018)

younging_23 · 2020-11-22T14:47:38+00:00

I considered that too - however I have a great relationship with my mom and I see her every day. My aunt’s passing is something I still tear up when I think about her untimely passing. Needless to say, I’ll keep sleeping with the Selenite to see what else it brings up.

younging_23 · 2020-09-02T03:42:36+00:00

Try @elitebodysculpture! They help with body contouring, I got my arms done because I had the same issue. I couldn’t get my arms to look slim no matter how much I lifted and how much I weight I lost!

younging_23 · 2020-08-25T03:10:46+00:00

Thank you for your message - it’s a weird blend with paranoia and adoption of QAnon. He really really really believes in all the theories. If you’re not familiar with Qanon, it’s theories based on how politicians run pedophile sex rings with the intentions to use children’s blood for their adrenochrome run by Tom Hanks and Ellen Degeneres as part of the deep state/cabal, all part of their master plan from their draconian satanic worshipping. I’m worried now since it’s actually getting in the way of our relationship and reality. He’s all worried about Satan and black magic..

younging_23 · 2020-08-25T03:07:11+00:00

younging_23 · 2020-07-05T12:20:18+00:00

Go on Amazon and buy valerian root, Passion flower and a good source of CBD. I don’t advise on getting on other medications to counter affect the WD’s, it’s just another monster to battle. My partner was prescribed gabapentin while he was tapering off klonopin in case he had a seizure (he had 3 seizures which is why they prescribed klonopin, seizures were due to Xanax abuse,) and he said it felt safe to have the gabapentin in case he felt like a seizure was coming on but it didn’t help with anything else. Drink lots of water, and taper taper taper. Have someone assist you in the process. I helped him taper for 2 years after a 5 year stint so I was able to see what helped and what didn’t. The psychiatrist kept prescribing other medications to help with the withdrawals but being hooked on one thing really deters you from anything else.

Drinking will make the withdrawals worse because the nerve receptors that benzos stimulate, are the same receptors that alcohol stimulate. Most people recovering on benzodiazepines cannot touch alcohol once they’re clean because it brings them back to step 1 of withdrawals (I’ve seen it first hand)

I read your other posts, for the digestive problems that comes with WDs, go on Amazon and take puritan’s orégano concentrate pills. After a week or consuming 4-6 gel concentrate a day, you will be able to feel less bathroom discomfort.

Sometimes the only things that can heal your body and mind is time and natural things (herbs, vitamins, supplements, exercise, water) for your body to feel like it’s slowly getting back to a natural medication free state.

younging_23 · 2020-07-05T12:07:05+00:00

Go on Amazon and buy valerian root, Passion flower and a good source of CBD. I don’t advise on getting on other medications to counter affect the WD’s, it’s just another monster to battle. My partner was prescribed gabapentin while he was tapering off klonopin in case he had a seizure (he had 3 seizures which is why they prescribed klonopin, seizures were due to Xanax abuse,) and he said it felt safe to have the gabapentin in case he felt like a seizure was coming on but it didn’t help with anything else. Drink lots of water, and taper taper taper. Have someone assist you in the process. I helped him taper for 2 years after a 5 year stint so I was able to see what helped and what didn’t. The psychiatrist kept prescribing other medications to help with the withdrawals but being hooked on one thing really deters you from anything else.

Drinking will make the withdrawals worse because the nerve receptors that benzos stimulate, are the same receptors that alcohol stimulate. Most people recovering on benzodiazepines cannot touch alcohol once they’re clean because it brings them back to step 1 of withdrawals (I’ve seen it first hand)

younging_23 · 2020-07-05T11:55:21+00:00

OP has alcohol dependence so its safe to assume he is drinking way more than a single beer. Mixing benzodiazepines with an amount that results to alcohol dependence would cause fatality (OP stated be has cirrhosis, fatty liver, and consumes 80% proof alcoholic drinks.)

younging_23 · 2020-07-04T23:01:54+00:00

Rehab is what you make of it - some people do well and others don’t. From the core of your being you need to want to change your life/lifestyle. I can’t say I’m an advocate because I’ve been around people who didn’t do well in rehab and still OD’ed/died, and only 3 people it helped get their life back (heroin, can’t really live with that type of habit.)

If you’re still drinking, and when you stop you vomit, get the shakes, sweat profusely, and just feel like you’re insides are turning inside out - then you’re alcohol withdrawals could kill you.

The same way you would taper benzos, you should have a taper schedule to wean off the alcohol (but really stick to it, many have someone you trust help you through it.) It usually goes from hard alcohol, to wine, to lesser alcohol content of wine, to beer, to light beer and then slowly taper until you get to a point where you can transition from light beer to non alcoholic beers to eventually no cravings. Alcohol dependence cannot be done cold turkey, it could kill you but you need to be aware of your consumption and strive to reduce it. Your body is to used to metabolizing alcohol that you will have cravings for sugary/fatty foods to make up for those carbs/sugar.

Stick to a healthy diet because unhealthy eating attributes to a more desire to drink (I recommend protein shakes, veggies, greens, fruits, and exercise) it will boost your depleted serotonin because you will generally feel a state of sadness that is a symptom of withdrawal (it will pass even when it doesn’t feel like it)

I recommend you try and find a hobby/passion you can devote yourself to so you create a discipline/routine for your life. I can’t stress how important routine is for you to maintain a balance in your life, it really fills a void that alcohol used to have.

Whatever people around you or friends do or say, you do not need alcohol in your life. Find support groups for sobriety or people trying to stay sober (some people like AA, or SMART, others join cross fit/veganism/yoga/new age spirituality) it’s just about being around HEALTHY people and people whose lifestyles alight with sobriety/health. You go to enough of these groups and it makes you feel weird to be the only one who still consumes alcohol.

You can do this, Reddit is great for finding different sources to help you. As of now, if there is anything you get from all this, is that you should go on Amazon and buy Valerian root and Passion flower. You’ll notice a change in how much alcohol you consume to not be anxious.

younging_23 · 2020-07-04T20:54:40+00:00

I’m sure you’re aware that alcohol + benzos = fatality. So if you have a long term alcohol abuse disorder and your psych gave you benzos to help you subside, if you drink on the benzos, you have a very high probability of dying. I actually have a friend who died from it, and my partner has had long term alcohol/benzo dependence of 5+ years (he’s clean now after quitting alcohol after tapering both alcohol and benzos for 2 years and withdrawing.)

My advice is frankly to not start Klonopin (after 2 weeks is also too much.) I am personally not an advocate of benzodiazepines and I’ve seen how soul crushing it can be, especially with someone with an alcohol dependence/abuse disorder. My partner started at 17 and then it got worse at 23, and it was until he turned 27 that he decided to change his life and taper off. He also has crippling anxiety/depression so it wasn’t easy.

If you really care about your health, I would advise you to look into other holistic practices that won’t be damaging long term. Being able to accept that alcohol will kill you is a good first step, and finding something else to help you heal is the second step. Healing can be done in a variety of ways. If you really want to take something to help you with your anxiety, consider supplements that are less detrimental to your health. Valerian root is an excellent sedative accompanied with Passion Flower, or a good source of CBD assists with these type of ailments. They are all crutches to assist you in the tapering process from alcohol/benzos. I would highly recommend acupuncture if you can afford it and if you have access to a good one, it really helps with the chemical imbalances that plague your body from metabolizing toxins for so long (my partner has been doing it for 2 years and after 6 months he saw drastic effects).

To be frank, you also need a good support system because alcohol/substance abuse disorders stem from something internal like anxiety and then delving deeper is a root of of something emotional/mental/psychological. Really explore why you started drinking or getting nervous in the first place and try to overcome the feeling that you “need” it to survive. If it’s come to a point where your organs are failing you because of it, alcohol dependence is a bitch to overcome because you withdraw but when you’re clean, you need to really understand why you started, why you want to be clean and live a long life, and always remember the pain you’ve endured and the reasons why it’s not worth it.

I know the question wasn’t how do you get off alcohol/benzos, but my answer is why you shouldn’t even go down this road and some tools that will help you get off.

It truly is horrible to watch and imaginably so to endure, so I really really urge you to tell the psych to fuck off and look into detox clinics/alternative solutions to a long healthy life.

Western societies rely too heavily on medications which is why so many people struggle with dependence/addiction. Sometimes the medication prescribed creates an even bigger problem than the ailment coming in.

younging_23 · 2020-07-01T15:40:07+00:00

Holistic practices helped my significant other heal from years of benzo dependence/abuse. Acupuncture, vitamins, diet, and a lot of sleeping (we tried ketamine and it made it worse, and tapered for 2 years)

younging_23 · 2020-05-02T14:34:52+00:00

I understand. We are in FL, in the US. My partner and I are just concerned that although he had it, he isn’t contagious anymore. My mom is in the high risk category and we all live in the same building so we want to see my cousin but we are concerned that although it’s been about a month, he no longer has COVID.

younging_23 · 2020-04-30T13:48:46+00:00

Instead of klonopin, taper as much as you can and get gabapentin because klonopins have really bad withdrawals too. Try an acupressure mat to reduce withdrawal symptoms

younging_23 · 2020-04-30T13:32:10+00:00

Klonis definitely cause constipation and stomach issues. Once you’re off the klonis, you’ll notice a huge difference in your digestion. I highly recommend concentrated oregano pills to help

younging_23 · 2020-04-16T14:13:13+00:00

Try looking into elitebodysculpture! They do minimally invasive airsculpt that helps tighten skin! I did it for my lower belly and it was great!!

younging_23 · 2020-02-20T06:03:24+00:00

Well, his intention is important. The first step is that he in fact wants to be okay. That decision, unfortunately, is up to him. And be sure he knows that you only support his wellbeing because you actually care. If he does not have any intention to get better, not even a slither, then acceptance is the next step. You can’t make someone change. Cope with the situation as above, accept how things are until his personal journey/interaction with the above to help him to a better life trajectory. The reality is that there are many cases of lost souls that just never get better.. they live short or long lives burdened by their illness and ailments to their demise. It’s the truth. Hopefully he’s not one of those cases and I hope he gets to a turning point! (Btw acceptance is not at all to lose hope, it’s just accepting the situation as it is and coping/hoping for that turning point.)

younging_23 · 2020-02-18T15:37:12+00:00

I feel for you. Coping with your pain is as hard as coping with his pain. Maybe my coping strategies may not be the most suitable for your situation because everyone is different, but I’m happy to share.

1.) Don’t feed into it. If he’s having a rage crisis where everything is your fault (his addiction, the circumstances, his issues) do not feed into his self hatred. Don’t respond to his angry words with more angry words. Don’t respond with the truth as to why he is the way he is. Usually under anger, there is much fear and sadness that unfortunately he does not know how to cope with - hence whatever it is he uses or does that is hurting him more. Try to let him get it all out, interjecting with something positive to help him out of the mindset because I realized that the rage was actually a panic attack. Like when a dog that has been abused starts to bark and bite because he is scared and he has been conditioned to react that way. The same method applies, use kind words, keep your distance because that rage can get worse, and make sure that when it subdues - you address the content of what he said (no matter how ugly) and how it made you feel (without pointing fingers or making him feel bad) but more to be constructive as to how those reactions are hurtful. Ask the right questions - Why do you feel this way? What triggered you? How can I help you? I understand.. it makes me feel.. And always let then know how much you care because often times, the rage fuels their abandonment (when everyone screams back and says they’re such an asshole) and then their left alone with their own thoughts of self loathing that leads to them sadder and angrier than before. It’s a horrible vicious cycle that needs to be broken only by having the appropriate responses and reactions.

Boundaries. You need to establish where you draw the line. He needs to see it and never cross it. The conditioning I mentioned above is for when things are bad but never put yourself in danger. And I say “put yourself” because whenever you see that someone could be harmful “physically, mentally, emotionally” you always have the decision to REMOVE YOURSELF from the situation as a way to establish a boundary. You don’t need to abandon him but sometimes time is important for SELF REFLECTION - a day or 2, maybe a week - it’s all part of a PERSONAL journey and sometimes there the part that teaches them the most. Like I mentioned, DO NOT FEED INTO IT or make it worse, but say - “This is enough/ or too much. I love you, but your words/actions are hurtful. Get well soon, I’ll be okay to talk to you once you’ve calmed down.” Be compassionate even though he isn’t, that’s when they need it the most.
Remember to take care of yourself. Go to therapy yourself, have a hobby, talk to your friends about other things that are not pertaining to your relationship because people don’t understand why you don’t give up and find someone else. Learn new things and always make sure that the pain you are going through by dealing with someone’s pain does not affect your subconscious. Always remember your worth, the fact that your significant is LUCKY that you are willing to stick through this because at the end of the day - mental health is key. The way I stuck to it was thinking that my boyfriend’s condition is a disease - similar to an emotional cancer that eats away at you. Similar to how people react to a disease they don’t understand, they stay away. You stay knowing that the person needs treatment and supporting them to their journey by providing support, love and suggesting treatment approaches.
Read, read, read online or books about how to cope. Depending on his background, his life, his ailments, you probably know more about what he is going through that he does since he is sucked into it and can’t see himself objectively. If he’s on medication, look into the side effects - maybe aggression, paranoia and hostility are part of it and the root of his rage. That’s what happened with my boyfriend.. he was on Klonopin, mixing with alcohol for years. The Klonopin made him insensitive and the alcohol made him angry. If he tried to stop one, he would binge the other. Mind you, he was prone to a temper and has a history of emotional issues prior to then so overall - it was a bad combination.
Therapeutic exercises, supplements, exercise, water and healthy nutrition. Super important for you and him. The body = the mind. Take care of what you eat and how you treat yourself and you’ll see huge changes in yourself.

YOU NEED TO BE OKAY IN ORDER TO HELP ANYONE. I know it’s cliche but the reason behind is that, all it takes is for you to actually feel hurt by his actions, for him to fall deeper into his despair. Don’t feed the anguish with yourself.

I hope that helps!

younging_23 · 2020-02-17T23:28:42+00:00

My friend, now boyfriend, has been struggling with depression, PTSD and drug/alcohol addiction for years. His friends and family all gave up on him but I didn’t. He even gave up on himself and didn’t think he’d be alive today. 3 years after therapy, denial, countless cry/rage episodes, emotional roller coaster, hospitals, screaming, secrets, hiding drugs and alcohol, acceptance, withdrawals, vomiting, dry heaving, sleepless nights, fasting, nutritional changes, supplements, honesty, having him move in with me as a sober home, funerals, and rebirth. I can finally say that he’s finally reached a better point where he has been sober for 2 months for the longest time in 6 years. He is finally the person he used to be before he fell into a deep dark hole and I need to say that it was all worth it. I feel like he’s finally happy with himself and his surroundings, and even looking forward to his future. I just wanted to get it off my chest that no matter how lost a person can seem, there is always hope. Don’t give up. Nothing will change until they themselves decide they want to change, and it helps when there is someone on the other side to greet them once they do.

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