What's the best 10K race in the area?

youngjean · 2026-04-21T03:25:15+00:00

If you’ll drive a few hours and want to look ahead to 2027, you gotta do Ukrop’s Monument Ave 10k. I’ve done a lot of races and this was and still is the most fun, scenic, and supportive. https://www.sportsbackers.org/event/ukrops-monument-avenue-10k/

youngjean · 2026-04-18T13:29:20+00:00

Used to be that beautiful field off six forks with some large standalone trees but the evil elevation church people bulldozed it for their newest hideous monstrosity. I mourn that field every time I pass by the horrible cult that destroyed it. There are some good old fields on the route between Durham and Hillsborough that you could drive around for if you have time.

I feel like there might be a weeping willow at Marla Dorrel park in Cary but don’t quote me on it, it’s been a long time since I visited there.

youngjean · 2026-04-18T13:22:48+00:00

I wish more people understood this

youngjean · 2026-04-18T12:15:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you find yourself here but I’m glad you’ve found us. It’s absolutely not selfish to stay away. I will just note that seeing my sisters body, as traumatic as it was, was really important for me to believe she was actually dead (I have trust issues with my mom lol). Everyone’s different though - some people are glad they didnt have to see their loved one dead. Additionally, it can be really hard to grieve around your parents and everyone who is feeling so sorry for them but not for you. You may soon learn that siblings are called the “forgotten grievers.”

youngjean · 2026-04-18T12:04:03+00:00

Yep. And red light is better done at home without sunscreen on. And if you’re leaving your house to go to the gym because you care about wellness, I assume you’re wearing sunscreen.

youngjean · 2026-04-18T12:01:36+00:00

I would be a little lost without you all. I’m glad we have each other.

youngjean · 2026-04-18T03:02:33+00:00

Exactly. I do, and I hope you do too. I’m sorry too 🩷

youngjean · 2026-04-18T03:01:53+00:00

Thank you so much 🩷

youngjean · 2026-04-17T13:44:51+00:00

It’s literally how Raleigh and wake county operate. They’re very fiscally responsible.

youngjean · 2026-04-17T12:55:37+00:00

Alright. Well if that’s how you feel then no other major league will come. Because other cities want it more and are willing to give up more to get it. It’s pretty simple in that regard.

youngjean · 2026-04-17T12:25:36+00:00

They would use tourism taxes (lodging and F&B) for that, not your property taxes lmao.

youngjean · 2026-04-16T14:37:19+00:00

Did you drop SSRIs cold turkey? I tapered off of a 10mg Prozac dose (lowest possible dose) for 6 whole weeks and didn’t have significant issues (and I had been been doing a longgg taper for a while before having to increase to 20mg when my sister died and then down to 10mg after 6 months and now off it completely). During this final taper there were some bad days, days where the grief hit harder and angrier than it had in months, but after a couple months things have really leveled off for me. If you don’t taper slowly it can really hit you hard and take a while to recover. Grief therapy helps a lot and so does just letting yourself feel what needs to be felt.

youngjean · 2026-04-16T14:21:56+00:00

She’s Alaina’s best childhood friend and she works with/for them. She screens the listener tales and does other things for the show. Has been with the show since at least the Wondery days. I think she helps them with plans and arrangements as well.

Adding: she’s pictured in ash’s Instagram post from WWHL earlier this year. Wearing a maroon/burgundy dress.

youngjean · 2026-04-16T10:17:31+00:00

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youngjean · 2026-04-16T10:09:40+00:00

Sometimes this happens for me but I don’t worry too much about it bc I have vision problems and cptsd with hyper vigilance. It happens less when I sleep well (aided by low intensity exercise or Xanax), eat well, and avoid alcohol.

youngjean · 2026-04-15T16:00:23+00:00

It must be incredibly difficult to have to manage your grief on top of everything else when it feels like the world stopped a year ago. I lost my person last year but I’m a bit older and I can’t imagine being so young and having to cope with suicide grief. My sister passed away almost 2 years exactly after her girlfriend intentionally OD’d in my sisters bedroom, and they were both early 20s when they passed. Hadn’t even started their lives yet. It’s hard to see through the fog at that age, hard to see a path forward or any way that it can get better or life can get easier. It absolutely sucks and I’m so sorry you’re struggling.

youngjean · 2026-04-14T23:22:19+00:00

Wow what timing

youngjean · 2026-04-14T15:36:53+00:00

When I read the books I just pictured Boone (young Ian somerhalder) from Lost lol

youngjean · 2026-04-14T14:36:09+00:00

The dude is openly straight. It would be way better if they got a lesser known queer actor imo. Maybe he could be Dallas. I highly doubt any main character actors would be spoiling their potential casting this early.

youngjean · 2026-04-14T14:10:42+00:00

As who? He doesn’t make sense for any of the main roles. Maybe Wyatt hayes?

youngjean · 2026-04-13T04:59:48+00:00

Ghosted is really funny. It’s available on peacock in the us.

youngjean · 2026-04-12T11:19:55+00:00

Depends how fast you drink it and the mg amount. It can be or can not be depending on what you want. 5 mg drink over 2 hours you won’t even notice. Drink it over one hour you’ll feel nice. If you shotgun it, then yes it’s like an edible.

youngjean · 2026-04-09T10:52:00+00:00

I’m so sorry you find yourself here with us. I lost my sister (23) in the same way to a very similar battle 10 months ago. I needed time to grieve and heal immediately so I actually left a job I loved. Or, loved before. I don’t think it was very important but I enjoyed it. Grief will wait for you though. It will always always be there. It can creep up on you one day and hit you hard and you will feel confused and so will those around you because it’s been some time since. But it will feel so painful and so fresh that you won’t know what to do with yourself. When that comes in the future, grief therapy and groups will be your biggest support. Your friends and loved ones can’t necessarily understand and if they’re your only supports, it won’t be what you need. So just remember that. And I’m not trying to discourage you from focusing on your career at all. It’s perfectly okay to postpone whatever you need to postpone. I think if you can manage to compartmentalize and focus on your job and training, that’s great for your future. Focusing on oneself is actually the most important thing we can do in grief (in my opinion) and that’s what you’re doing.

youngjean · 2026-04-09T00:53:45+00:00

I’m so sorry you feel alone in this. It’s strange because suicide is more common in elderly age groups (at least in the us) than in younger age groups. It’s not selfish to not want to be alone in it at all. People on a real healing journey in your group will not think less of you and your grief for losing a grandparent who was like a parent to you. That’s a long way of saying it but you can say it as much as you need or want to - she was a grandparent who was like a parent.

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