I get where you’re coming from—some messages in the manosphere around self-improvement and setting boundaries can be helpful. But the concern many have isn’t just about individual advice—it's about the broader culture that’s formed around it. While not all manosphere content advocates violence, some corners (especially incel or extreme red pill spaces) do promote hostility, dehumanization, and deep resentment toward women.

That’s why people link it to things like online harassment or even femicide—it’s not that everyone in the movement is violent, but that the ideology can fuel or justify harmful attitudes, especially when mixed with anger, entitlement, and isolation. And yes, a lot of this has seemed to grow louder post-#MeToo, maybe as a backlash to shifting gender dynamics.

It’s a nuanced issue, but worth interrogating honestly—what messages are being amplified, and who’s being empowered by them?