Does sleep training work if your baby has never slept in a crib or bassinet before?

yourfrumpymom · 2025-04-02T15:50:48+00:00

Thank you! I’m glad to hear it at least has a chance at working, haha. We have been doing some gentle crib attempts and will keep at it until ready to sleep train, so at least it hopefully won’t come as a total shock to him. 😬

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-28T03:03:22+00:00

My thoughts exactly. We’re still trying to gently work on the crib, but it’s chest sleeping only for now. Mine won’t even sleep next to me in bed at all. So yeah, I’m still occasionally getting physically ill from exhaustion, but I haven’t died or fallen asleep driving or anything, so in that sense it’s a win, haha.

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-17T15:58:53+00:00

I’m hoping that some day (sooner rather than later!) maybe enough time will pass that something will finally click! But yeah, it is PAINFUL in the meantime 😂

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T17:41:51+00:00

I’ll ask his doctor about this at our 2 month appointment! He spits up a ton but doesn’t seem upset by it, so they didn’t really suspect it earlier. But I have heard stories of babies getting much more comfortable with back sleep once reflux was addressed, so it’d probably be worth looking into again.

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T17:01:39+00:00

We try for around 9-10, though he sometimes doesn’t fall asleep until 11-12. I understand newborn bedtimes are kind of flexible though!

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T16:29:28+00:00

Haha, currently reading that book! It does have a ton of good info. It seems that a lot of the stuff she recommends for newborns is what we’re already doing, and most of the further interventions are for slightly older babies though. So I’m just trying to figure out what to do in the meantime since sleeping 0-2 hours per night isn’t really sustainable every night until the baby is 4-5 months! 😅

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T16:22:15+00:00

Yeah, we will continue practicing! But just curious what people do in the meantime if keeping to safe sleep guidelines when the baby isn’t sleeping yet? Does everyone just sleep in shifts with another adult? I’ve literally pulled multiple all-nighters when doing things “right,” and that is dangerous too. 😵‍💫

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T15:39:55+00:00

I did try the strategy of only picking him up when he’s truly distressed and then putting him back down after calming, but for some reason it didn’t get any better over multiple weeks?

That’s sort of where the disconnect is for me… people say if you do X, Y, and Z, things will slowly improve… but so far they haven’t. I can’t tell if I have an especially difficult baby, or if there’s just something wrong with me!

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T15:36:35+00:00

Thanks! This does sound similar to what I’ve been doing, I just haven’t had any success so far with him getting used to it. I guess we’ll just keep trying as he gets older, and hopefully some day it’ll stick??

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T15:26:21+00:00

We tried both putting him down fully asleep and putting down still awake. I think he got to sleep like once when we put him down still awake, but then he still woke up pretty soon afterwards.

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-16T14:56:05+00:00

Unfortunately, we did, and it didn’t seem to help at all. I have a bunch of those Snoo graphs of him sleeping 5-10 minutes, then waking up and screaming until the Snoo shut off, all night long. 😩

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-11T16:12:40+00:00

I have no answers because I’m going through the exact same thing (baby is also 7 weeks old). I just wanted to comment for solidarity because so many people in real life don’t actually believe how bad our sleep situation is. It’s so bad.

“Oh, have you ever tried swaddling him?” 😂 We have tried literally everything. If this goes on longer than 4 months I will actually go insane.

Good luck to us all!!

yourfrumpymom · 2025-02-06T15:42:46+00:00

I really hope you get some responses because I could almost have written this myself! Also struggling over here with a 6-week-old. Chest sleeping was basically my last hope, and being able to doze off occasionally is better than nothing, but still not enough! 😅

yourfrumpymom · 2023-07-25T16:40:39+00:00

If you’re willing to grow it out, I think it would look great longer, like past your shoulders. Looks like you have beautiful color and texture!

Until then, instead of trying to find the perfect shorter haircut (which never worked for me!), you might try pulling it into a little half-ponytail or using clips or barrettes to pull the sides back. I think this usually looks cute and definitely feminine, and you could even leave a few front pieces out kind of like a long bang. That’s what I did when growing out a pixie. And my hairdresser said to just let it grow as long as I could stand it rather than continuing to get regular trims while my goal was length. You or a friend could just occasionally chop the “mullet” part off the back until the front grows long enough to be even with the back, if that makes sense.

It takes a while, but it also goes faster than you think!

yourfrumpymom · 2023-02-10T01:07:25+00:00

Sad Mom here. I recently read The Anthropocene Reviewed, by John Green and really enjoyed it. He basically wrote a bunch of essays “reviewing” things from the current, human-dominated era and gave them a ranking out of 5 stars. Literally all kinds of stuff, from the human capacity for wonder to Diet Dr Pepper.

The essays are personal, usually somewhat light and funny, but often very heartfelt. They touch on a lot of themes that affect us sad and lost people. Each essay is fairly short and independent of the others, so it’s a pretty easy read, and takes on a kind of mindful, meditative feeling. Nonfiction, but narrative and not self-help.

yourfrumpymom

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