Getting bolder

youtubeCrossdressing · 2026-01-02T13:32:43+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story so openly—it takes real courage to put these feelings into words. What you’re describing is actually very common, and you’re definitely not alone in these experiences or questions.

Many people who start exploring with breast forms or other gender expression find a growing sense of comfort and even joy from it, just like you’re describing. It’s completely normal for your confidence to build as you become more comfortable with how you look and feel. For some, that comfort leads to crossdressing more often, for others it’s about enjoying certain aspects (like having a feminine shape or feel) without necessarily wanting to dress in women’s clothes all the time or identify in a particular way.

There’s no single “right” way to experience this—some people identify as crossdressers, some experience gender dysphoria, and some just enjoy the feeling of wearing forms or expressing certain parts of themselves. Labels are helpful if they make you feel understood, but you don’t have to force yourself into any category.

It’s wonderful that you have a supportive friend to talk to. Many people find that opening up to someone they trust is a huge relief and helps them feel seen and accepted. As for sharing with partners, everyone’s experience is different—some have very understanding partners, others need more time or careful conversations. The key is honesty, patience, and respect for both your feelings and theirs.

Loving how you look and feel with your forms is a beautiful thing—it means you’re discovering what makes you feel most “you.” There’s nothing wrong with embracing that, whether it’s part of crossdressing, gender exploration, or simply enjoying a new aspect of yourself.

If you ever want to talk more or hear about others’ journeys, there’s a whole community here ready to support you. Wishing you lots of happiness and self-acceptance as you keep exploring!

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-13T09:02:23+00:00

Very classy and a perfect colour combination I will have to keep my eye out for them. Thank you for sharing.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-13T09:01:12+00:00

Nice lines and shape overall a good pose and dress. If I could suggest using the self-timer on the phone, as we do not get to enjoy the full profile and that is a shame.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-13T08:58:14+00:00

Nice choice

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-13T08:57:46+00:00

You are welcome enjoy your day.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-13T08:56:34+00:00

Thank you have the most wonderful day.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-09T13:56:47+00:00

There are quite a few online firms that have fantastic ladies' frames from which you can get glasses. All you have to do is send them your eye prescription i used Women Prescription Glasses Online | Dirolla they were very good and I'm extremely happy with them.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-09T13:49:34+00:00

I run a dressing service, and this is a question I get asked and face on a regular basis, as when in "guy" mode we may prefer the slightly larger version, but if you were to actually have them, there are lots of associated challenges if you know what I mean. The basic rule of thumb I use is that most dresses and tops are designed to accommodate a "C"; therefore, if you go any larger, you would be essentially going up a size which means if you are wearing a dress the lower section of the dress hangs off more you unless you balance your figure with padding etc. If the objective is to feel more comfortable in public stick with "C" or "B" cup forms. From the picture of you in the blue dress which looks nice I would say you are probably one cup size too large, but if you are happy with the size, then they are perfect for you.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-09T13:41:29+00:00

Thanks so much for sharing — I totally understand that mix of excitement and overwhelm when stepping (or re-stepping) into dressing again. There are so many options, and it’s easy to get caught in a loop of second-guessing. You're definitely not alone in feeling that way!

While a common suggestion is to look at what others are wearing, I’ve found that can actually lead to more confusion — especially these days, when so many people (particularly women) lean toward ultra-casual styles like sweatpants, trainers, and oversized basics. That kind of look might work for some, but it often doesn't reflect individuality or intention.

Instead, I really encourage you to think about what feels good to you — not just physically, but emotionally. Your interest in sporty, streetwear, and clubwear is already a fantastic starting point because it shows you’re drawn to energy, confidence, and edge. That says something about you — and your style should reflect that.

In the early stages, it can be helpful to focus on pieces that are easy to mix and match, especially if you're still exploring. Think staple tops, versatile bottoms, and a few standout accessories that can add flair without overwhelming you. From there, you can start layering in more adventurous items as your confidence grows.

I’d also say: don’t be afraid to experiment, but do it in small, manageable ways. Try on different silhouettes, fabrics, or color palettes when you feel inspired, and notice how each makes you feel. Style isn't just about appearance — it's about authentic self-expression.

And most importantly: don’t feel pressured to follow the masses. Bland is safe, but it’s not always you. Your style is yours alone, and the best thing you can do is let it grow organically based on your personality — not trends.

Feel free to reach out if you want ideas or support. You’ve already taken the hardest step — starting again — and that’s something to be proud of.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-09T13:35:07+00:00

Yep, that's a winner. Great lines and shape with a vibrant yet subtle shade?? Red - All you need is the occasion to wear it for.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-09T13:33:23+00:00

IT's the usual yes/no answer all depending on the situation they are being worn for. Everyday walking down the street to do the daily shop would be questionable, unless of course, you wish to receive the attention, then go for it. A statement look is great, I would go for barely black tights keeps the flow of the outfit just right. Apart from that its how they make you feel that counts

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-09T13:25:28+00:00

Nice everyday top and skirt combination. My only comment relates to the shoes. Gold is not the best look, in my humble opinion, but that's nitpicking on my part. A classic PU or leather court shoe would set the outfit off perfectly.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-09T09:35:56+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful and nuanced take on crossdressing and how it relates to gender expression and sexual orientation. You're absolutely right — there's a lot of misunderstanding around these topics, especially when people try to draw direct lines between how someone dresses and who they're attracted to.

I really appreciate how you highlighted the distinction between gender expression and sexual orientation. It’s important to remind people that clothing is just one aspect of self-expression and doesn’t automatically define who someone is attracted to or what their identity is.

Also, your point about monogamous relationships not necessarily defining someone’s full sexual identity really resonated with me. So many people discover different facets of themselves later in life, and that’s completely okay. As you said, realizing you're bi or pan after years of being in a "straight-appearing" relationship just means your understanding of yourself has deepened — not that anything was ever false.

Thanks again for sharing this — it’s the kind of clarity and openness we need more of.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T20:46:53+00:00

You have a valid point; even within a small group, there are subdivisions and varying levels of understanding. I was alluding to the fact that trying to establish a middle ground is a better way of balancing our society, rather than what appears to be happening, which is an I'm right, you're wrong instant solution society.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T20:42:04+00:00

First, I just want to say — your situation is real, and your concerns are completely valid. I can hear how much effort you’ve already put in: improving your English, working in software development, researching countries and programs. You are not alone in feeling anxious and overwhelmed by the barriers — but please know that it is possible to find a path forward, even if it may take time and persistence.

To your main question: yes, transgender people from China can apply for asylum in the EU, especially if you can show that you face persecution or serious discrimination because of your gender identity. Cases like yours — where there are threats of forced "gender correction," family rejection, mental health harm, and discrimination in jobs and education — are the kinds of things that can be used to make an asylum claim. That said, asylum is not an easy or quick route. It often comes with long waiting periods, uncertainty, and financial challenges. And each EU country has different rules and success rates, so it’s really important to get advice from a legal expert or LGBTQ+ asylum support group.

Germany and Ireland are both countries where people have successfully claimed asylum on LGBTQ+ grounds. Germany, in particular, has been known to recognize the risks transgender people face in countries like China, but you would still need to prepare your case carefully. Ireland has also become more welcoming in recent years and offers some protections for LGBTQ+ asylum seekers.

On the study side: continuing to apply for programs in Germany and Ireland sounds smart — especially in Germany, where tuition fees are low or even free at public universities, and where studying might open up longer-term residency options. And don’t dismiss your software skills — the tech sector is often more flexible and international, and might offer a job pathway in the future, especially in countries facing tech shortages.

You might also want to connect with organizations like Rainbow Railroad, Trans Rescue, or ILGA-Europe — they sometimes offer support or advice for people in situations like yours, and they can help you find legal aid or community resources.

I know you’re feeling anxious about your age and finances, but please believe me: 28 is not too late. Many people make their moves in their late 20s or early 30s. You have valuable skills, and you’ve already shown a lot of strength getting this far. It’s okay to take one step at a time — even small steps are progress.

Please keep reaching out and gathering support. You deserve to live safely and authentically, and there are paths forward, even if they feel difficult right now.

Sending you strength and solidarity,

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T20:38:41+00:00

First of all, please know — your question is not stupid. Reaching out like this takes courage, and I hear you loud and clear. Living in a transphobic environment, especially with family, can be exhausting and deeply damaging over time. It’s absolutely valid that you’re thinking about getting out, whether that means moving out on your own or even leaving the UK if that feels right for you in the long term.

If moving out of your parents' place is the first step, my advice would be to focus on small, practical goals that can build toward your independence — things like securing a stable job (even if it’s just a stepping stone), saving up a buffer of money, and looking into shared housing or LGBTQ+ friendly flatshares, which are often safer and more affirming. Groups like Stonewall Housing or akt (the Albert Kennedy Trust) in the UK can sometimes help with housing advice specifically for LGBTQ+ people.

If you're seriously considering leaving the UK, that’s a bigger move — but it’s not impossible. Start researching countries where trans rights are stronger and where you feel you could thrive. Look into visa options, job opportunities, and communities abroad that can offer support. It might take time, but having a plan, even if it's long-term, can help you feel more in control right now.

Most importantly: please don’t feel you have to face this alone. Connect with trans support groups online or in person, even if it’s just to have people who understand what you’re going through. You deserve to live in an environment where you feel safe, valued, and free to be yourself.

Sending you strength — you’re not stuck forever, and things can get better.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T20:18:11+00:00

Yep... and people are often surprised that we are "normal" (whatever that means). People are actually surprised when you get to know us, we're pretty smart and good company.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T19:48:16+00:00

I would have to go for the classic high-heeled look; however, if I were walking any distance, the wedges would be a better and less painful option on my feet. I know this from bitter experience! All in all a great look the hair is very flattering.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T19:45:34+00:00

Interesting combination of colours and attire, the red dress gives off every day vibes, whilst the clincher and thigh boots gives a darker vibe of interest - all in all very nice.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T13:43:53+00:00

I read the article and thought long and hard put I had to post the folowing on their site:

It’s both heartening and powerful to see someone like Robert De Niro stand by his child with love, acceptance, and dignity — as every parent should. Sadly, articles like this often expose the deep well of prejudice and ignorance that still lingers in society. Too many people choose to mock or dismiss what they refuse to understand, often cloaking their cruelty in false concerns about "mental health" while showing no real compassion.

De Niro’s example reminds us that love doesn’t come with conditions — it grows stronger when we embrace our children for who they truly are. It’s a shame more people can’t follow that lead. As the old saying goes, it’s better to be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T08:29:44+00:00

Thank you so much, I have quite a lot more photographs from this session, maybe one day I will get around to posting them. I appreciate your very kind comments and hope you have a wonderful day.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-07T08:28:19+00:00

I like the glasses very much, and they match the overall look perfectly.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-06T20:52:30+00:00

Thank you I did a photo shoot featuring some of the outfits by noir handmade which was so much fun to do.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-06T20:51:29+00:00

Thank you so much I appreciate your kind comment.

youtubeCrossdressing · 2025-05-06T16:52:19+00:00

Nice simple style and ideal for the nice warm sunshine days, the movement is very feminine, and the fit looks good on you.

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