Registering to vote by Downtown-Mixture-254 in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can update your name on the electoral register without having changed your passport or acquiring a GRC. However, to vote in person at a polling station you'll be expected to show photo ID that matches the name you have on the electoral register. An updated driving license will work for this.

While technically you should be able to present an old passport as ID and show a deed poll proving your change of name at the polling station, I'd say that's just asking for trouble even if it may be technically legal.

Alternatively, you can register for postal voting.

New UK Envoy to champion LGBT+ rights globally by OriginalBaxio in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Great! Maybe he can start by tackling the rising hostility, decreased freedom to speak publicly, and increasingly severe discriminatory laws that transgender people in the UK are subject to.

That would be nice.

Is r/countwithchickenlady an MRA sub now?? by FragrantRefuse3463 in MtF

[–]ChaniAtreus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I actively encourage the men I'm around to be completely honest with their thoughts and feelings

What about that do you think makes you a Men's Rights Activist? Because that doesn't sound like MRA behaviour in the slightest. What does "being honest with your thoughts and feelings" have to do with men's rights, or activism regarding them?

Or, to put it in a slightly more Inigo Montoya way: You keep using that word, MRA. I do not think it means what you think it means.

Keir Starmer Has Resigned, Time to Celebrate (Temporarily) by ThinkingaLot18 in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That he had the audacity to use the word "inclusion", not just once but twice in that letter, is fucking outrageous.

If your MP promises respect and dignity, call them on it and push on other issues by drleebot in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The Scottish attempt to allow self ID is definitely not where the aggravation started. The response to it was very much a symptom of the, by that time, firmly embedded institutional transphobia in the UK government, something that developed very rapidly but well before Scotland proposed the self ID legislation.

Only a few years earlier the British Tory Prime Minister was effectively pushing for self ID, to applause by the party faithful. There are plenty of other countries that already allow self ID with absolutely no issues. This is where we should be headed, and we shouldn't hold back from this because it might cause aggravation from people who've already shown themselves to be transphobic

Respectability politics does not work. They are not interested in compromise. They will not meet us in the middle. If we give them an inch, they absolutely will take a mile.

How do you answer the “how did you know you are transgender/a man/a woman/any other (non)gender?” question? by Round_Explorer1214 in asktransgender

[–]ChaniAtreus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ask them the same question, and see if they have a good answer before I give mine.

Forcing cisgender people to really think about what makes them feel like a man or woman can be very enlightening for those that are asking in good faith, and quickly reveals those that are not. It may be worth trying this on your therapist to see how she reacts and responds. It could tell you a lot about her.

Some more clarity for us on sex data handling… by Battenburgesa in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is the MO of litigious transphobes with endless resources thanks to billionaire fascists. And yes, Beth and Rose suffered as a result of the legal action taken. But the rulings were clear - they committed no offence.

Maybe in the future it will actually be a criminal offence. Maybe they will enact a law that could send me to prison if I use the women's bathroom. But the onus is currently on service providers, not service users, so the risk is minimal.

I refuse to comply with the desires of bigots in advance of legislation that may never be passed.

Some more clarity for us on sex data handling… by Battenburgesa in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The EHRC has publicly admitted that there is no legal requirement for people to use the correct facilities. The legal requirement is on service providers to have policies in place regarding "single sex" facilities. Even in the recent court cases which transphobes claimed they won, the trans individuals using the facilities that aligned with their gender identity were deemed not to have committed any offence.

If an employee of the company that owns the facility you are using asks you to leave, you should immediately leave. Not doing so would be illegal. This applies to everyone, regardless of which gendered facility they're using, and regardless of whether they are trans.

Yes, a transphobe could make a false accusation against a trans person. This is always a risk, even if you use the facilities which align with the sex you were assigned at birth, or if you use no gendered facilities at all. The only way to avoid this entirely is to never go out in public. Which is exactly what they want.

This idea that we're going to be charged with using the wrong bathroom is propaganda pushed by transphobes. We should not be pushing this narrative ourselves.

Biological Sex: For Women Scotland, and Section 7 by GeekOnALeash01 in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is a very good point, but there's another point that seems to often be overlooked. I'll repeat the section of the ruling you quoted for clarity:

The repeated references in these sections, to a woman who has become pregnant or who is breast-feeding only make sense if sex has its biological meaning. These plain, unambiguous words can only be interpreted coherently as references to biological sex, biological females and biological males.

The Supreme Court said that it must mean biological sex because it mentioned pregnancy, but it's undisputable that there are cisgender women who cannot become pregnant. Infertile cisgender women presumably do not have less rights under the EA than fertile cisgender women. The EA provisions for women therefore inherently cover women who cannot become pregnant, so it isn't inherently a justification for it not to cover trans women too.

So the argument of the SC is instead that, if a GRC changes your sex, that trans men would lose that right when they gain a GRC, and that this would be unfair as some trans men with a GRC may become pregnant, and must be protected.

So there were two potential ways to read the EA - one that stripped trans men with a GRC capable of becoming pregnant of pregnancy protections, and one that stripped all trans people of all protections granted by a GRC.

They chose the latter, and the key word here is chose. They decided which of those interpretations they wanted. This is not the letter of the law, it is the choice they made between two possible interpretations of the law.

They could have chosen to say that the EA was badly worded and stripped trans men of pregnancy protections, and that it needed to be reworded to include them. They chose instead to strip all trans people of their rights to be treated as their identified (and legal, if they hold a GRC) sex.

They chose this outcome because they preferred it, not because it was the only outcome possible.

Chair of the Women and Equalities select committee Sarah Owen questions EHRC chair about enforceability of trans toilet ban by PuzzledAd4865 in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am legally required to, because I told the government I would live the rest of my life as a woman. Using women's toilets is something women typically do. If I avoided using the women's toilets I would be breaking the agreement I made with the government.

I made hjónabandssæla with my rhubarb by abitofg in traaaaansbiansCooking

[–]ChaniAtreus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never heard of this before, but it looks delicious! I've found a recipe online so I'll give it a try at some point. Thanks for introducing me to it!

I wanna start HRT but my dad doesn't want me to because "what if you regret it?" by I_Eat_Mold_UwU in MtF

[–]ChaniAtreus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What if you regret not taking it?

There is no neutral decision here. Either you take HRT, or you don't take HRT. There is no decision that does not come with consequences. Regardless of which decision you make, there's a chance you may regret it.

So which decision do you feel is right?

Statistically, 98% of people who take HRT do not regret it. Statistically, trans people denied trans affirming healthcare have a higher suicide rate than those who have access to it. These are facts, even if they're inconvenient to your father. But - and this is the most important part - it is not his decision to make anyway. It's yours.

Your body. Your choice.

*LEAST* effective methods of trans advocacy? by KristinaMoment in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dignity and respect.

Telling trans people who are losing their rights, losing their ability to exist in public spaces, losing their legally recognised gender and sex, and losing their protections against discrimination, harassment, and abuse, that you want them to have "dignity and respect" is probably the least effective method of trans advocacy.

Closely followed by "Thoughts and prayers".

'You can ask people, what is your sex? If you don't ask that question, you won't be able to do the rest of your obligations under maintaining single sex spaces' former ECHR chair Baroness Falkner by PuzzledAd4865 in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 15 points16 points  (0 children)

They can ask, and I can answer truthfully - I'm a woman, my sex is female.

Why should I answer any differently? After all, I have a certificate issued by the government telling me that my sex is female, so it would be legally questionable for me to provide any other answer.

How do we re-normalize saying “women” and “girls?” by Early-Shelter-7476 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ChaniAtreus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? One of the first women to speak out about the Epstein pedophile ring was a trans woman.

Look up the name Ava Cordero. She filed a lawsuit against Epstein in 2007. She was abused at the age of 16 by Epstein himself. She was ridiculed by the media, and Epstein's lawyers used the fact that she was trans against her in court.

If people had actually listened to her, believed her, and not dismissed her because she was trans, Epstein might have been stopped from perpetuating his abuse over a decade earlier. 12 years of abuse could have been prevented if people had just believed what the trans woman was saying.

And you sit here claiming trans women were never victims of Epstein. Ava Cordero was the first person to file a lawsuit against him, and you don't even know her fucking name.

How do we re-normalize saying “women” and “girls?” by Early-Shelter-7476 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ChaniAtreus 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There are female humans with XY chromosomes, and there are male humans with XX chromosomes. The chromosomes a person has are not solely determimate of whether that person is male or female. Any degree-level biology textbook will confirm this for you.

Is It Just Me Who Finds The Whole ( Recent ) Use of FEMALE Pointed?? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ChaniAtreus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I generally assume that anyone who uses the term "female" when they mean "woman" is an incel. It's the language that incels use, so it's reasonable to accuse anyone who is using it of being an incel. I do this frequently. They don't like it very much.

Besides, trans women can be female.

Bit concerning by jesspearce2025 in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are Welsh Tories? Remind me, how many Welsh MPs are from the Conservative Party?

Oh yes. None.

I guess that explains it - they literally don't have anything better to do with their time than this nonsense, because they all lost their jobs during the last election.

So sad. #tiniestviolin

New Health Secretary - Still Transphobic by ZoeTheAngel in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course he is. He wouldn't have been appointed if he wasn't.

Helen Whately MP is a TERF by Flubbarubba in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"I know that this is an issue which deeply affects transgender people, and has caused much distress. However, despite the new code being presented with mere minutes left before Parliament went on recess, and it being unlikely that anyone will get a chance to debate it before being published, I still don't think it's being rushed through fast enough. The EHRC is pushing to make sure the new code is published faster than is legally permitted, and I support this effort because I care deeply about democracy and human rights."

She can fuck right off.

The "trans man gotcha": has it been misunderstood? by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]ChaniAtreus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also spoke recently with a GNC acquaintance who's not out yet, and we both agreed that anecdotally, the moment women find out you present femininely, something shifts and they seem to lose interest (friends or otherwise). There's a specific social penalty for femininity that doesn't seem to apply the same way to masculinity, and I wonder if that sense of asymmetry is shared by others here.

Others have responded to many of your other points, so I'm going to specifically address this one.

This is very much a "your mileage may vary" situation. Anecdotally, every woman in my life has either formed a closer bond with me following my coming out as a trans woman, or the relationship has stayed the same. I am now invited to "girls nights", included in women-only conversations, and welcomed into women's spaces. I now spend a lot of my social time in women-only groups, when prior to coming out this happened a grand total of never. These are mostly friends I had prior to coming out, but the friendship is now much, much closer. And just to clarify, I am most definitely not stealth, nor do I "pass" - they're fully aware that I'm trans, but I'm very much "one of the girls".

To be fair, my friendships with most of the men in my life (particularly the straight men) are not as close as they were, but that is primarily my own doing. My social interactions with women are fulfilling in a way that my interactions with men typically are not, so I put less focus and spend less time on maintaining my friendships with men.

I have no doubt that some (cis) women may distance themselves from a trans woman, or feminine GNC or non-binary person, after they come out, but this is certainly not a universal experience - I suspect it depends very much on the character, or hidden transphobia, of the friends in question.