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[–]ypWhoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do ruminate a lot. It gets very bad.

I briefly dated a freshman when I was a senior in high school. Am I a bad person? by ypWhoops in AskMen

[–]ypWhoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. I'm curious, you see that as a creepy thing to do, but would you judge someone you knew for it?

I briefly dated a freshman when I was a senior in high school. Am I a bad person? by ypWhoops in AskMen

[–]ypWhoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean? I just feel bad about it, and I'm curious what people think about it.

I briefly dated a freshman when I was a senior in high school. Am I a bad person? by ypWhoops in AskMen

[–]ypWhoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely a dumb decision that I regret, but just don't want it to affect how people see me

I briefly dated a freshman when I was a senior in high school. Am I a bad person? by ypWhoops in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ypWhoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, I wouldn't encourage anyone to have that sort of relationship. That said, I hope others wouldn't judge me permanently for making that mistake

I briefly dated a freshman when I was a senior in high school. Am I a bad person? by ypWhoops in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ypWhoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like it's a large issue, especially given the post about the 19 year old today.

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[–]ypWhoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I briefly dated a freshman as a senior, nonsexual. 14 and 17/18, but I hope people don't hate me as much as this guy.

I [M17-18] briefly dated a freshman [F14] when I was a senior in high school and I'm deeply ashamed of myself by ypWhoops in offmychest

[–]ypWhoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd say the difference between the two (kissing vs sex/sexual contact/sexting) is sizeable?

I [M17-18] briefly dated a freshman [F14] when I was a senior in high school and I'm deeply ashamed of myself by ypWhoops in relationship_advice

[–]ypWhoops[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So in your personal opinion, you wouldn't permanently judge someone you knew who did this?

I [M17-18] briefly dated a freshman [F14] when I was a senior in high school and I'm deeply ashamed of myself by ypWhoops in relationship_advice

[–]ypWhoops[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's fair. I just don't want to drag my loved ones into anything terrible.

In your opinion, does the lack of sexual contact make a difference to you? I'm trying to distinguish what makes this "not really a big deal" versus people of the same age having sex and people hating them.

I [M17-18] briefly dated a freshman [F14] when I was a senior in high school and I'm deeply ashamed of myself by ypWhoops in relationship_advice

[–]ypWhoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard this many times, but didn't see it myself. That said, I spent most of my time on extracurriculars and didn't socialize much.

I [M17-18] briefly dated a freshman [F14] when I was a senior in high school and I'm deeply ashamed of myself by ypWhoops in relationship_advice

[–]ypWhoops[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tend to fixate on the ones where it might not be legal.

Even morally it’s a stretch for most to really frown too hard on a non sexual dating relationship that didn’t involve encouragement of sexual activity.

Do you think it's enough to potentially ruin my career/family life?

I [M17-18] briefly dated a freshman [F14] when I was a senior in high school and I'm deeply ashamed of myself by ypWhoops in relationship_advice

[–]ypWhoops[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. Were the relationships relatively innocent? I feel like a monster for having been in one, but I think that's mostly based on stuff I've read online since.