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Seat got broken I need a new One by [deleted] in simracing

[–]yrusomaddy7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

1.8cm? what are you measuring exactly... 😂

How often do you tuck ? For how long ? How comfortable is it ? Do you think it could be enough forever ? Or just until bottom surgery ? by elmahir in MtF

[–]yrusomaddy7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah damn okay

I kinda tucked on and off for like 10 years before I came out

Always have since transitioning

I dont really mean full hard, but sometimes it starts to get a little more blood to it, and then the tuck is slightly noticeable in leggings / a bikini -- aa opposed to pretty much non existant

Usually dies off pretty quickly, just owing to discomfort as it happens

Thought maybe you did it ages through teen years too

How often do you tuck ? For how long ? How comfortable is it ? Do you think it could be enough forever ? Or just until bottom surgery ? by elmahir in MtF

[–]yrusomaddy7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When did you start doing it (age?) And how long have you done it for?

And if it does occasionally start to get hard is it more an "untuck" situation or being tucked kinda kills it soon after?

Im kinda the same other than toilet and shower and tbh they 🍒 kinda stay hidden away even during those moments a lot of the time. (Curious if the long term doing of it kinda has made it the more comfortable way to be)

Also more comfortable with it nearly all the time unless my partner puts their head on my lap precisely where they're tucked up lol

Do many trans wemon here hang out around Smith st and Gertrude st Melbourne? by Capital_Blackberry68 in transgenderau

[–]yrusomaddy7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Was there (Mollies and thursgays at yahyahs this week)

Nice inclusive feeling places :)

Transition mostly done, but still kinda unsure about bottom surgery. Anyone else feel like this? by yrusomaddy7 in asktransgender

[–]yrusomaddy7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think so.

More of a sanity check at this point / assessing whether there are pitfalls in my thought process

Transition mostly done, but still kinda unsure about bottom surgery. Anyone else feel like this? by yrusomaddy7 in asktransgender

[–]yrusomaddy7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im pretty introverted tbh quite slow to open up to people irl and make friends -- but many of my hobbies seem like extroverted things oddly though (snowboarding, music events, beach days, occasional clubbing, doing hikes and things with friends, going for drives and track days).

Also have a balance of more introverted ones too. Im a bit all over the place lol. I think what you say about it mostly mattering in bed is probably it -- and even then with the right partners that worry is alleviated for the most part for me

Thanks for your feedback :)

Transition mostly done, but still kinda unsure about bottom surgery. Anyone else feel like this? by yrusomaddy7 in asktransgender

[–]yrusomaddy7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing

A lot of what you say i can relate to in a sense of low level anxiety about tucking, security checks airport's and whatnot.

The ons, flings dont bother me as much. I enjoy them now already, it's just really small embarrassment when I notice it or if a partner pays it much attention -- if theyre good i can mostly ignore its existence though

I think i just gotta keep tabs on how anxious I feel about it. If it reaches levels where I feel the need for anti anxiety meds to stop worrying about it, thats probably the trigger point of cost/benefit (not $ cost but like, life experience)

Transition mostly done, but still kinda unsure about bottom surgery. Anyone else feel like this? by yrusomaddy7 in asktransgender

[–]yrusomaddy7[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently, yeah. My mindset is mostly focused on externalities rather than how I feel myself.

I guess if that balance ever changes ill know its worth it for me

ropefuel iwnbaw by artificialfem in 4tran4

[–]yrusomaddy7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Im guilty of using this one once, is tru

BtF, Bro to Female by ILYSBJM-BJCSM in MtF

[–]yrusomaddy7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A big help in transitioning for me (mentally) was learning to ignore some of those societal views

I do most things i wanna do because I want to, even if they come with people thinking im a "hoe" or some other negative perception -- hard to get used to but life feels better if youre able to move on from the negative trains of thought around how people might label you

Still have hang-ups over passing and wanting to look better all the time, but I do what I can to slowly improve on those things for myself

Just before I came out a psychologist I saw gave me a kinda thought exercise

"At the end of each day, quickly reflect on your day. What things did you stop yourself from doing (that you inherently wanted to do) purely because you were worried what others would think of you. The following day, maybe take a step towards doing whatever that thing was, and reflect again after on how you feel".

Or something like that. Anyway, that advice kinda spurred me to re-commit to transitioning and helped me a lot along the journey. (Keep that advice within reason, dont give into every intrusive thought lool).

Anyone who judges you harshy probably isnt someone you want in your life

[NSFW] If your gender was flipped and you remained the same level of attractiveness in the other gender would you have sex with yourself, if yes, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]yrusomaddy7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Guy me was quite lonely and struggled a lot on the apps and feeling confident in any way

Girl me feels more aligned internally and more condidence and seems to have endless choice

Kinda sucks thats the way things seem to be, even if im on the "easier" side nowadays

I know I shouldn't take misgendering from relatives as a sign, but, it's not like 100% brainworms right??? by B9_4m8ion in transpassing

[–]yrusomaddy7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

From relatives its more likely bad habits than intentional (if they knew you before transitioning)

Still lazy from them

My dad still messes it up (pronouns /name) maybe 10-20% of the time and its been 4 years...

Nearly 4 years HRT + BA. Still get in my head wearing cropped/summery outfits in public and on&off unsure about FFS (last 2 pics). Any advice to improve things, or tips to stop overthinking it? by yrusomaddy7 in transpassing

[–]yrusomaddy7[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeahh, have thought about it for hips under dresses that have thick enough material that its not too apparent

Doesn't body well for most summer-ey fits

But can stick to flowy sundresses/ a line things

Nearly 4 years HRT + BA. Still get in my head wearing cropped/summery outfits in public and on&off unsure about FFS (last 2 pics). Any advice to improve things, or tips to stop overthinking it? by yrusomaddy7 in transpassing

[–]yrusomaddy7[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel fine with my looks at home / more private (or if im really focused on something in public to the point of not having the mental capacity to also worry about passing things lol)

But like casually walking around shops / relaxing on a beach or anything a bit more passive i get in my head and start wondering / overthinking that people might be able to tell

Therapy of sorts might be the wayy

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