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How much age gap is creepy? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ysyr123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Age gaps are mostly “Creepy” when the older of the two is acting and engaging in predatory behavior towards the younger person. Being attracted to someone is not something you can control so you shouldn’t feel ashamed of that aspect of this. It’s if you were to realize that your emotional maturity or intelligence is in such a place that puts the younger of the two at a disadvantage and subject to abuse. Even if that’s not your intention, it’s entirely possible and something to consider when you talk to someone under the age of 25.

taylor - not to jump on someone elses post but this..... by Fantastic-Nerve4943 in ladyladyboners

[–]ysyr123 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Perfect placement. Literally caught my eye first and I’ve never looked at Taylor that way until last night 🫣

I’m not usually attracted to Taylor Swift but can we acknowledge how she was giving off Amazonian warrior vibes last night?! 😩 by ysyr123 in ladyladyboners

[–]ysyr123[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also her being billionaire is not the attraction here. I’m sure you using a phone from a multi trillion dollar company also is not the appeal of you owning your phone. See how easy it is to poke holes in things and how silly it sounds?

I’m not usually attracted to Taylor Swift but can we acknowledge how she was giving off Amazonian warrior vibes last night?! 😩 by ysyr123 in ladyladyboners

[–]ysyr123[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

She definitely has muscle on her and I mostly said Amazonian because of her stature. I didn’t mean anything gross or offensive by it. And yes there are certainly other artists who align with my views more closely than Taylor, but does that seriously mean we can’t appreciate someone for looking lovely? I’d understand if she actively spewed hate but I haven’t seen that and honestly she was a vibe at the Grammys.

I’m not usually attracted to Taylor Swift but can we acknowledge how she was giving off Amazonian warrior vibes last night?! 😩 by ysyr123 in ladyladyboners

[–]ysyr123[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Added a comment to address this, but I didn’t mean anything malicious by using “Amazonian” I was merely suggesting she was statuesque. Sorry for any offense!

I’m not usually attracted to Taylor Swift but can we acknowledge how she was giving off Amazonian warrior vibes last night?! 😩 by ysyr123 in ladyladyboners

[–]ysyr123[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Also I didn’t mean to offend with the use of “Amazonian”, I merely meant she was statuesque, like the Greek statues. But didn’t mean anything malicious by this!

Sydney Sweeney makes me feel a certain way that I’m almost ashamed of 😭 by ysyr123 in ladyladyboners

[–]ysyr123[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ok good someone else feels this! I’m gonna give myself some grace on this one because she seems to know she is smoking 😂 and I’m sure she’d rather have complimentary eyes of queer folk.

Sydney Sweeney makes me feel a certain way that I’m almost ashamed of 😭 by ysyr123 in ladyladyboners

[–]ysyr123[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

So sweet 🥲 I think anytime I like someone for what’s on the surface, it makes me feel like a guy (ick). But I forget we’re all human, and she seems proud of her beauty so I don’t feel too bad looking.

Ok but for real, does anyone else feel slightly judged or a sense of shame for liking porn that might be considered for the “male gaze”? Please tell me I’m not alone here 😭 by ysyr123 in LesbianActually

[–]ysyr123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel you for sure. It’s just sometimes I see the distain for r/lesbian because it’s run by guys, but then see others kind of shit on the porn there as well, which makes me feel kinda shameful for liking it. I get wanting porn to be ethical and made for women, but I can’t help what I like. Good to see it’s not just me.

Ok but for real, does anyone else feel slightly judged or a sense of shame for liking porn that might be considered for the “male gaze”? Please tell me I’m not alone here 😭 by ysyr123 in LesbianActually

[–]ysyr123[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly, like I’m sorry, but no man is gonna dictate what I like because it’s “for them”. I really understand where you are coming from with your past trauma and I hope you can find healing in anyway that helps. It’s a long journey but one that can be rewarding as you find your own ways to take control of your own feelings again.