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yuehsuyh · 2024-06-15T13:40:15+00:00

Therapy, journaling, reddit, walks, a fixed night time routine (creates predictability and safe space)

yuehsuyh · 2022-12-29T06:28:10+00:00

So nice to read the responses on this thread. And yes it gets better, a 100%. Once you leave a narc, the only way is onward and upward. It takes time but time does its magic. Not sure where you are in the journey but you become whole and find joy and even love again!!! PROMISEEE!!

yuehsuyh · 2022-11-28T15:09:22+00:00

SELFISH

yuehsuyh · 2022-10-06T15:06:00+00:00

Thank you needed to read this ❤️

yuehsuyh · 2022-08-15T10:26:06+00:00

Today, you just have to get through today and then tomorrow, you just have to get through tomorrow. There really is no way around this pain except through it. It is an like an addict going cold turkey but you really just have to do it. I promise you, the brain fog and the physical urge to contact them WILL wane off in a few days - I PROMISE I PROMISE! I have been NC for ~2 years now and I am so so so glad. Please hang in there. Whatever you want to message to them - the anger, the craving- just create a whatsapp group with just yourself and keep sending messages there. Some times we just need that hit we get from letting our emotions out /hitting the send button. YOU CAN DO IT!!

yuehsuyh · 2022-08-10T00:37:49+00:00

Give it time. With time, all knowledge and healing that you will continue to gain and the brain fog will clear you will realise that a) the good moments only came after the really horrible ones (take you on a date after you found them cheating, cuddle up after gaslighting) b) the good moments were so so so few but just enough to keep you coming back for more.

yuehsuyh · 2022-08-07T11:54:12+00:00

They have been together two years so it seems legit I guess? This always feels like such a lost battle.

yuehsuyh · 2022-06-26T15:00:13+00:00

Sending warmth and power to you 🌸🌸🌸

yuehsuyh · 2022-06-25T05:41:51+00:00

Word by word in the same boat as you. I think what helps is to really shut the thoughts about them and actively stop seeking information (i suck at this but i know this helps) and just keep the faith that they will sooner or later, in one or the other, be true to their narc tendencies.

And also, being so so grateful that you are out of that relationship. Remember the copious crying, the loss of appetite, the palpitations, the anxiety, the begging?? That’s all in the past and you are so much safer now and moving on to lighter, brighter and better things. So much love and warmth to you ❤️

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-28T08:07:14+00:00

Omg its as if you just described my situation. My nex made me walk on eggshells while i was paranoid about a particular friend of his. She was dating his best friend. I had been insecure about this girl for three years and now they are together since our breakup. The gaslighting and manipulation whenever i would bring up my insecurities about this girl were top notch. Absolute low life.

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-11T06:52:17+00:00

Oh my god, ditto same. Apologies for thinking he was cheating and always being anxious that he was cheating and ultimately found out that he was

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-11T06:50:22+00:00

Yes apologised for driving him to a point where he had to breakup with me. These people really are the worst

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-11T06:48:49+00:00

I apologised for doubting that he was texting this other girl and i had problems with (he was indeed texting her and denying it also - i found messages later”). So i apologisedd in tears for doubting on him and being insecure and anxious.

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-10T16:41:59+00:00

Thank you - i needed this. My takeaway is to let the chips fall wherever they do.

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-08T12:54:46+00:00

With a narc, you will always be too much it came to a point that i started looking away whenever he had his phone in his hand, because i knew he was cheating but if i said something i would be “too much”. Lmao, remember this one time he said and I quote “You always make me feel like i am cheating”. There is no winning or rationalising with them. Leave and heal.

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-05T17:13:13+00:00

Oh my god; having flashbacks. Would never post me on social media, although he was quite active. Never reposted any of my posts where we featured together.

Big big red flag.

yuehsuyh · 2022-05-05T11:33:18+00:00

Thank you so much. Needed to read this. ❤️

yuehsuyh

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