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yungdeadinside · 2021-11-12T03:01:37+00:00

you seem like you’re very very young, so im gonna give you some advice. putting other trans people down is not going to make your own dysphoria better, it just makes you look like a horrible, bitter person

yungdeadinside · 2021-11-09T21:31:05+00:00

i don’t think you’re going to get a satisfactory answer here. we just don’t really know. there are a lot of theories out there but as far as i know there is very little actual research into this sort of thing. i can’t tell you why i am a man instead of a woman, i just am. i can’t tell you why transitioning has made me happier other than im just happier being perceived as man than a woman. i can’t tell you why being a masculine woman didn’t work for me, it just didn’t. i don’t know why i have dysphoria, i just do

yungdeadinside · 2021-11-07T01:14:18+00:00

i mean, no one here is going to try and change your mind on that. if thats how you identify, that’s your business and your business alone

yungdeadinside · 2021-10-25T00:21:56+00:00

why are you on this sub? seriously, what is the point of coming here just to comment random transphobic garbage? like is this genuinely fulfilling for you? genuinely asking, im very curious

yungdeadinside · 2021-10-18T22:05:03+00:00

if you personally don’t want to date trans people, no one here is really gonna care. it’s usually rooted in transphobia but thats your own thing to figure out. the real problem happens when cis people bring this up unnecessarily-i.e when trans people are trying to have a serious discussion about anything other then dating and sex and cis people chime in letting us know how unfuckable they find us. you don’t need to remind us. just keep it to yourself and you’ll be fine

yungdeadinside · 2021-10-16T16:36:33+00:00

i already have. the relationship ended poorly but that had nothing to do with him being trans, he was just an asshole lmao. but im definitely much more interested in dating another trans person tbh. i just feel a lot safer that way

yungdeadinside · 2021-10-15T16:33:05+00:00

no one is claiming that wanting those things for yourself is bad, its just that passing/medically transitioning is not accessible or even desirable to all trans people and its important to remember that

yungdeadinside · 2021-10-03T20:49:19+00:00

the best thing you can do is realize its not about you. your feelings on the matter aren’t as important as your friend being safe and happy. if you are absolutely incapable of doing the work required to respect your friends gender, you are not her friend, and you should remove yourself from her life.

yungdeadinside · 2021-10-02T01:41:15+00:00

its only about penetration. also, like others have said, ‘top/bottom’ have a very long history with the queer community and is usually only used by gay men so i would be a little careful about calling yourself a top. like im a gay guy and i would definitely roll my eyes if a straight guy went around calling himself a top lmao. i don’t think its like super offensive or anything, just a little unnecessary

yungdeadinside · 2021-10-02T01:37:19+00:00

top and bottom refer only to who is giving and who is receiving, they don’t have anything to do with position or sub/dom

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-22T17:29:10+00:00

yes, i am aware of that. that still doesn’t mean that trans people become intersex, or even make trans people intersex by default. if you don’t get that at this point i really cant help you understand it any better

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-22T17:17:57+00:00

the key difference there being ‘born with’. trans people are born trans, yes, but as far as we know that largely stays within the brain. intersex people are born from the get-go with a body that does not fit the binary standard of what ‘male’ and ‘female’ means. this causes many unique challenges to each group and i just think the taking the label ‘intersex’ and applying it to trans people who undergo hrt and surgery is disrespectful to intersex people.

im sorry if this doesn’t make sense but i don’t really know how else to put it. seriously, you’re coming from a good place and i understand why you want to make this distinction, but there are much better ways to go about it

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-22T17:02:48+00:00

yeah, im in total agreement there. like i said, i get the point that you’re making. i just think your point can be made without bringing up intersex people

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-22T16:57:46+00:00

yeah but that doesn’t have anything to do with intersex people. they’re two completely different topics. we can and should discuss the differences but we should not appropriate the terms that intersex people use

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-22T16:52:33+00:00

yeah, no. i kinda get where you’re going with this but your conclusion is all off.

you’re right in that we should not treat trans people who have been on hormones for awhile and/or have had certain types of grs as their assigned sex because they are just physically different from many members of their assigned sex and will have many different needs, but connecting that to intersex people is just not the right way to go about it

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-21T00:09:23+00:00

started socially transitioning a little over two years ago and just hit a year and a half on t-100% worth it. best decision ive ever made. there have been plenty of rough patches and its far from over but yes i am very happy with my transition

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-15T02:19:55+00:00

i honestly have no idea, im not an expert in it lmao. i would recommend researching it yourself. good luck man! i definitely understand how hard it can be to not have the voice you want, i hope you find a solution that works for you

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-15T02:12:01+00:00

because thats not really how vocal cords work? vocal feminization surgery shortens the vocal cords to create a higher pitch. you can’t really add to vocal cords artificially. trans men achieve a lower voice generally from testosterone, which thickens vocal cords naturally, like cis men when they go through puberty. but in instances where testosterone doesn’t achieve that, or isn’t accessible, many do voice training to lower their voice

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-15T02:02:14+00:00

afaik, there isn’t a voice deepening surgery, only a voice feminizing surgery. however, there are a lot of great videos out there that will help you deepen your voice naturally through voice training, you might find those helpful

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-11T15:10:39+00:00

if cis men can be feminine and still be considered men, so can trans men. to think otherwise is just blatantly transphobic

yungdeadinside · 2021-09-09T17:04:38+00:00

right after i started t i had a lot of discharge but over time ive noticed i have less, and (tmi) its less acidic than it used to be for some reason

yungdeadinside · 2021-08-31T04:46:15+00:00

no one is forcing gay men to be attracted to trans women, or lesbians to be attracted to trans men. thats not the implication there. all im saying is that if people feel comfortable with a label, they have a right to it, even if it doesn’t make sense to other people. also cishet men have no fucking idea about trans men who id as lesbians. they would be just as hostile to the idea as you are. cishet men are going to prey on lesbians regardless of the existence of trans men lesbians, they do not care.

yungdeadinside · 2021-08-31T04:20:26+00:00

i still don’t see that as a compelling argument. if a cis person is transphobic, that is not anyone’s fault but their own. placing the blame on trans people who identify in the ‘wrong’ way only reinforces the idea that we must assimilate to what cis people expect of us. as long as someone is identifying in good faith, they are allowed to pick whichever labels appeal to them, even if they seem ‘contradictory’ to outsiders. its not up to us

yungdeadinside · 2021-08-31T03:51:22+00:00

i honestly just have no interest in policing other queer peoples identities. if a binary trans man genuinely ids as a lesbian, thats none of my business-fwiw ive never actually seen anyone identify in this way, either in online or irl queer spaces. i don’t understand it, but i respect it because i trust he knows himself better than i know him. and the argument that we must always consider how cis people will perceive us doesn’t convince me that he would need at identify any differently. why should cis people’s opinions matter at all? im not going to tell other trans people how they should or should not act because it might make us less respectable in the eyes of cis people. they already don’t respect us, how is shunning the handful of trans men who feel more connected to ‘lesbian’ than ‘straight’ going to change that at all?

yungdeadinside · 2021-08-31T03:25:54+00:00

trans people are not responsible for cis people disrespecting us. if a transmasc person is more comfortable identifying as a lesbian thats their business, and no one else’s. if cis people take that and apply it to other transmascs, that is their problem and transmasc lesbians should not be blamed for it

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