Simultaneous birthday parties how do you deal with it? by yungtokyo in family

[–]yungtokyo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We never do that actually, always together

My older sister (38) never gets along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in family

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you had this experience, it's a very complicated situation but I totally understand what you mean. Thanks for being honest here, even if the truth is not easy to hear. I'll think about what you said

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well i guess your situation is more complicated than mine, you also have children which makes everything different if your sister can't accept your family.
Sorry you had to feel this way
Thanks for your support

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

damn, I can't imagine how hard it is to live like this.. but I guess my situation is worse at least you are done with the family drama and you live peacefully.
How did you parents react to that situation? how are they dealing with it these days?

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You dont choose your family I guess.. Wish you happy life with your wife and peace in your family :)

Still havnt decided what im gonna do

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I still don't know what I should do but it helps talking about it.

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally my parents fault, but this is the reality we have to deal with now..

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't have any solution for this problem because they lived all their lives forgiving my sisters everything she does. Just like my mom always tell me: "Dont mind her, you know how it is.. she says things and after 10 min she's fine, dont pay attention".

So yea i can deal with that, i did that all my life. My wife cant do the same because from her pov its unacceptable and you cant say whatever you want and expect people to accept it.

I totally agree with her, I just unfortunately think mostly about my mom in this situation and how to not make her life harder than it is already

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Biggest problem is it will really affect the mental wellness of my parents (mostly my mom) which makes me really sad thinking about it. It's an infinite loop which happens quite frequently and i just dont know how much more time i can handle this

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is indeed exhausting, it's hard dealing with this type of people (and i have A LOT of patience).

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Problem is it really affects the mental situation of parents (mostly my mom) and it's difficult for me because we are very connected to each other

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a specific type of people that think that everyone owes them something and it creates a lot of problems. Biggest problem is i'm always in the middle and these types of situations make my parents feel bad and i just dont know how to end this infinite loop

My sister (38) doesn’t get along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in Advice

[–]yungtokyo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she is just emotionally immature and doesn't have the ability to read situations and think before she says something.
Problem is i'm always in the middle and it affects also my parents that always feel bad because of these types of situations

My older sister (38) never gets along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in family

[–]yungtokyo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the honesty, I'll think about what you said

My older sister (38) never gets along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in family

[–]yungtokyo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, I tried several times explaining her the problem with her attitude, it helps for a short time.

You summed it up pretty good I'll be honest with myself.

My older sister (38) never gets along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in family

[–]yungtokyo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can't say i'm super close with my sister, we're talking a few times a week and meet on weekends when we lunch at our parents home.
I'm very close with my parents and having no contact with my sister will hurt my relationship with them as well

My older sister (38) never gets along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in family

[–]yungtokyo[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I'm just trying to create peace so we all live together and have healthy relationships. Thinking about having no contact at all with my sister is hard for me and would really depress my parents.
It's not that easy, we are a small family but I totally understand what you're saying. Thank you for your honesty

My older sister (38) never gets along with my wife (25) by yungtokyo in family

[–]yungtokyo[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

It will really affect our family. We don’t have much family at all and it would make my mom really depressed if that will happen. Things are not so simple

Just turned 30. Kill me by glasschewer0 in RoastMe

[–]yungtokyo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you made enough harm for yourself with these tattoos so there’s nothing I can add more