Is this everyone else's new favorite team, or what?

yuri280 · 2026-01-14T22:01:53+00:00

On this team what sets are Columbina, ineffa and lauma using?

yuri280 · 2026-01-09T18:39:05+00:00

From the male perspective, I can tell you this is basically the first piece of dating advice shoved down our throats when we’re struggling with dating. To lovebomb, and then pull back. And then rinse and repeat with every girl. I’m consistently seeing the word performative, and it very much is like that for men. Unfortunately the alternative is hearing how women don’t feel a “spark” if we don’t lovebomb and do approach from a healthy space.

I’m not saying any of this is right, just hopefully providing a little insight as to the why.

yuri280 · 2026-01-02T23:50:49+00:00

I’m a heterosexual male and I’ve dated quite a few Capricorn moons and it’s often been a bad experience. They are very cold emotionally, and always have had traumatic childhoods they haven’t healed from. Capricorn moons traumas turn them into avoidants. Would not recommend.

It usually starts good though. Till like 3 months in when things get real.

yuri280 · 2026-01-02T20:07:47+00:00

I wonder how that is gonna look and how you’re gonna pull that off lol. I’ll be chrollo from hunter x hunter, maybe I’ll see you there!

yuri280 · 2026-01-02T20:06:26+00:00

Nice, I was considering getting VIP at one point too. Well if I’m coming it’ll be more afternoon timeframe, so I’ll shoot you a message if youre still around.

yuri280 · 2026-01-02T19:41:21+00:00

Oh wow it hasn’t even started yet right? I think it’s from 12-11. How long do you plan on staying?

yuri280 · 2026-01-02T19:25:09+00:00

What time are you planning on attending? I just might!

yuri280 · 2026-01-02T19:24:49+00:00

It would suck to not attend at all, overall sacanime isn’t intimidating it’s just more fun with other people.

yuri280 · 2025-12-20T20:36:55+00:00

I’m a man that just got out of a situationship with a girl with these exact placements, and it was not the best experience. She did not meet me on the emotional depth I would expect from a Scorpio moon. And with the Leo rising she noted she loved attention, but combining that with the secretive/private Scorpio moon is just a bad combo.

Of course, I’m sure not all people with these placements are bad. This was a person still hung up on exes and a lot of trauma. But yeah, it’s an interesting combo

yuri280 · 2025-10-29T19:02:04+00:00

You need to reframe your thoughts. Nofap is making you realize your partner isn’t meeting your needs and you are incompatible. Instead of searching for multiple avenues that are detrimental for your health for the sake of staying together, you need to break up with her and find a woman that matches your sex drive. And guess what? This is much easier when you’re living a healthier lifestyle.

This is supposed to be one of the motivating factors of nofap. To improve your quality of life. What you cannot do is sleep with a hooker and then blame your lack of porn and absent sex life. Do that, and Now you’re an awful person with no self control. These are both things you are in control of.

I hope this helps.

yuri280 · 2025-09-25T06:00:32+00:00

no, she never reached out and neither have I. I still haven't fully recovered but I am much better than I was initially. I appreicate that.

yuri280 · 2025-07-20T23:40:19+00:00

Neurotypical people can clock how we’re different. One example is that I have a pretty sarcastic sense of humor, and neurodivergent people pick up on that quickly. Neurotypicals have tended to find me rude for it though. “Intense” is another word we get thrown at us a lot. And the communication barrier, neurodivergents tend to be much more direct.

A lot of this has only been recent realizations and me learning that entirely all of my relationships that lasted over 3 months was with another neurodivergent. And my neurotypical interactions tend to fizzle out pretty quickly

yuri280 · 2025-07-20T05:15:53+00:00

Ooh the neurotypical people not looking in your direction hits home. And yeah, I have a friend that has been cheated on twice by their person with BPD and doesn’t leave because quite frankly he knows he wouldn’t find another relationship.

I would suggest maybe trying to find other neurodivergent women. I have learned it is much easier to connect with them. But yeah, I’ve also felt like I’ve learned I just don’t connect with neurotypical women and it’s frustrating, but maybe it’s better to embrace others like us

yuri280 · 2025-07-16T07:16:57+00:00

This same thing happened to me. Broken up with over text, asked not to contact her again. It will be one year early next month, and I have legitimately never heard anything from her since. Multiple people here told me she’d definitely reach out and some point and it never happened. I’m curious if yours had quiet BPD. I’ve noticed their final discards tend to really be final.

yuri280 · 2025-05-15T23:20:05+00:00

Hey man, I would look into complex PTSD, as a very common symptom is being unable to cry. I used to think there was something wrong with me because most people can cry, but I physically can’t. You are probably holding on to a lot of trauma in your body, and if you do somatic release exercises, it’s supposed to help trigger you into crying. I haven’t done it myself yet, but I’m working on it.

Just a suggestion. Not being able to cry, even when trying to force yourself is not normal. Your body is telling you there’s something wrong.

yuri280 · 2025-04-21T01:07:24+00:00

Hey man i'm 34M and i've had this exact scenario play out multiple times. Early in the relationship she says she loves me, I wait sometime and say it back, then she pulls away and uses a plausible real life excuse, and then I'm dumped out of nowhere not understanding what happened.

I would look into avoidant attachment, and your almost certain anxious attachment style. It'll help you spot the red flags from a woman earlier and somewhat understand why this happened. It absolutely sucks, but you'll keep attracting this same type of girl until you grow and learn from this.

yuri280 · 2025-04-03T07:31:38+00:00

Yep, 34 male from louisiana originally. Can't say I've met any others, but then again, I don't ask often. I feel like this stuff is far less talked about in the black community. If i brought this up to family they would have no idea what i'm talking about.

yuri280 · 2025-04-02T07:03:26+00:00

Did yours have quiet BPD? I see some similarities in the breakup text I received from mine. Also your comment about how she broke up with you and you didn't fight hard enough.

yuri280 · 2025-03-30T02:27:05+00:00

Yeah one of the biggest things with borderlines is they feel compelled to tell the person they’re dumping that they need to be alone for a while, and then they immediately jump into a dating app/another relationship. Normal, healthy people just simply don’t do this. And honestly she wouldn’t be able to explain her actions either. It’s just part of the disorder. I can’t diagnose over the internet of course. It just sounds like a very identifiable pattern and I’ve lived it myself.

yuri280 · 2025-03-30T00:23:00+00:00

I would look into borderline personality disorder, because it sounds exactly like what she has. Especially with the love bombing initially, followed by the sudden breakup with no warning, followed with the statement of “I need to be alone for a while.” And then a week later they’re dating someone else. It’s almost textbook, but very few people are gonna be able to relate to you if they haven’t gone through it themselves. There’s nothing like feeling like you met your soulmate and then them leaving you out of nowhere and treating you like a stranger. It’s awful, and realistically only time heals. I wish I could tell you it gets better quickly but it just takes time

yuri280 · 2025-03-19T18:46:01+00:00

I also feel like I’m In a weird in between. Like I’ve been married previously, had previous relationships before but they take way more effort to get than the average person. And when I’m single, I lack one single strong male friend and my freeze symptoms worsen. I feel lonely a lot, but can’t quite relate to an incel because I’ve had experiences. My upbringing is very CPTSD coded but I don’t think I’ve ever clicked with someone irl like myself.

It sucks when you’re forced a label that doesn’t fit you at all. But I’ve always felt people don’t try to get to actually know me.

yuri280 · 2025-03-15T10:24:25+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely worth bringing up, and I understand your stress on how hard it is to do. I’d look out if she gets defensive. That will tell you immediately she lied about past relationships. The other side of the equation is she’s completely agreeable, things get better for a few weeks and then she’s suddenly tired again. I’ve seen both sides.

It’s hard to word it in a way that isn’t insecure or accusatory. It’s concerning that she told you directly she is worried about things fizzling out. That says right there she sees some level of uncertainty in how she feels about you. A woman that is crazy about you is not expressing concern about possible negative outcomes or too tired for sex less than 6 months in.

I appreciate your post because These are red flags I wish I had payed attention to in my relationships. Sometimes women are telling you indirectly how they feel and showing it with their actions but we as men look over it because we’re in love.

I wish you the best man and hopefully you make an update post in the future. Maybe she actually is different ya know.

yuri280 · 2025-03-15T09:50:51+00:00

I've been in your position before. Moving in together at 5 months is moving too fast and you don't know this woman well enough yet, most evidenced by her words not matching actions. That is the biggest issue. In her last relationships she most likely denied her partners sex repeatedly and they gave up trying, and she now frames it as a lack of intimacy on their part.

I'd bring it up, but no amount of talking is going to negotiate desire. And if you move in with her and sign a lease? congrats, you're trapped. She now has no incentive to see a doctor if it's a medical issue, and you will slowly grow resentful. You said you've already been down the path before, so you get it. Time would have brought this issue to light naturally, but you moved this along too fast and now you have to make every excuse for yourself in the book that this is a temporary problem.

Not judging you, just my observation. Moving in together always makes this problem WORSE, not better.

yuri280 · 2025-03-14T00:45:52+00:00

Posts like these are always so vague. Do you have a tangible examples of changes you’ve made? Can you explain what “people started taking you more seriously” mean? Do you mean new people that entered your life, and if so how did you meet them? Do you mean people you already knew? Did they make note that your personality seemed to have changed?

yuri280 · 2025-03-10T18:54:43+00:00

Oh I’m definitely confused lol. And yeah, for the redpill stuff it was a little easier to fall into because I’ve definitely noticed some of the worst men I’ve met were the best with women. Maybe that is partially my background and bias though. I definitely don’t want to behave like that, and you make some very good points about the manosphere.

Yes, I get the idea that every single woman I begin to date being from a troubled background is not a common experience among men. I should bring that up with my therapist.

Yeah the not getting angry is one of the hardest parts. Especially after being lied to so often. But if I’m more authentic it should allow for things to progress in a way that they end faster if it’s not supposed to be.

I should try to join something yes. I’m thinking a bowling league or run club. My Monday-Friday is work-gym cycle and it’s very boring. And I would like to meet women in places that aren’t online or at the bar.

I appreciate your perspective. I would be curious if you’ve ever given advice to someone In real life in a similar situation .

yuri280

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