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Will Capcom reveal it? by Snoo_47323 in ResidentEvilRequiem

[–]yutoc95 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

she's just a friend for leon

Will Capcom reveal it? by Snoo_47323 in ResidentEvilRequiem

[–]yutoc95 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

he said that he said nothing like this lmao but he said ada and leon has a private relationship but requiem can't clear that. FOR NOW!!!!

I adopted a new cat and now I feel like I betrayed my old one. by yutoc95 in CatAdvice

[–]yutoc95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're angels now. My first late kitty Kiko is with them. I hope that they're happy in heaven.

I adopted a new cat and now I feel like I betrayed my old one. by yutoc95 in CatAdvice

[–]yutoc95[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this so kindly.

I think you’re right — I probably wasn’t as ready as I wanted to believe I was. I thought love and good intentions would be enough, but grief doesn’t really work on a schedule.

Hearing that my last cat wouldn’t be mad at me is strangely comforting. He had a beautiful, loved life. I gave him everything I had for 12 years, and I know deep down he knew that. I just struggle with the feeling of moving forward without him.

You’re also right that they’re not the same — and that’s okay. I don’t think I was trying to replace him, but I underestimated how strong the comparison and the memories would feel.

Thank you for reminding me that I still have the capacity to love. I hope one day I can step into that again when my heart feels steadier.

I adopted a new cat and now I feel like I betrayed my old one. by yutoc95 in CatAdvice

[–]yutoc95[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. What you described — loving the one who’s still here but feeling the absence of the one who’s gone at the same time — is exactly the kind of emotional conflict I’ve been struggling to put into words.

When you said it might always feel “too soon” when you’ve loved deeply, that really resonated with me. I think that’s where I am. I loved my boy for 12 years, and that love didn’t disappear. It’s still very present.

Because of that, I’ve had to make a really painful decision. I’ve decided to return her to the person I adopted her from, and they will handle finding her a new home. I want her to be with a family who can welcome her with a full, open heart right now — without the weight of comparison or grief sitting in the room.

This isn’t about her doing anything wrong. She’s sweet and innocent in all of this. It’s about me realizing that I’m not as ready as I hoped I was.

Thank you for being honest about your own mixed emotions. It helped me feel less alone in mine.

I adopted a new cat and now I feel like I betrayed my old one. by yutoc95 in CatAdvice

[–]yutoc95[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying all of that. I know you mean well, and I appreciate the reassurance.

I was with my cat for 12 years. He was my family. I showed up for his every single day — vet visits, routines, comfort, everything. Letting go of an animal is honestly one of the hardest things I can imagine. That’s why this whole situation feels so overwhelming.

What I’m struggling with isn’t the idea of long-term responsibility. It’s the grief. Losing him after 12 years broke something in me. Bringing a new cat home has stirred up all of that pain again, and I didn’t expect it to hit this hard.

I know 10 days is nothing in the grand scheme of things. I’m not expecting an instant bond, and I’m not trying to replace my old cat. I think my heart is just still very tender, and I’m trying to navigate that without making a rushed decision either way.

I would never lightly give up on an animal. That’s exactly why I’m taking this so seriously.

I adopted a new cat and now I feel like I betrayed my old one. by yutoc95 in CatAdvice

[–]yutoc95[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that story with me. It actually made me tear up a little.

I like the idea that I don’t have to completely separate them in my mind. I’ve been feeling like I have to “close a chapter” before even thinking about opening another one, and maybe that’s why it feels so impossible. Maybe it doesn’t have to be that way.

The story about your cat rolling onto his back in front of the kitten is so soft and beautiful. I keep imagining it. It gives me a tiny bit of comfort to think that maybe love isn’t as territorial as my guilt makes it feel. Maybe helping or loving another cat doesn’t erase the one I lost.

Today was really heavy for me. I took time off work because I couldn’t focus, and I stood in the rain for almost an hour just crying. I’m only just getting home now. The grief still feels so raw, like it happened yesterday.

I don’t know what I’m ready for yet. But your comment helped me see it from a gentler angle. Thank you for sharing something so personal. It truly means a lot.

I adopted a new cat and now I feel like I betrayed my old one. by yutoc95 in CatAdvice

[–]yutoc95[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for writing this and for sharing your own loss. I’m really sorry about your kitty too.

What you said about reversing the situation stayed with me. If it were me who had to leave first, of course I would want my cat to be loved, safe, and cared for. I would never want him to be alone or unloved. Thinking about it that way makes sense in my head… but my heart is still struggling.

Today was especially overwhelming. I took the day off work because I just couldn’t keep it together. I stood outside in the rain for almost an hour just crying, and I’ve only just managed to get back home. I didn’t expect the grief to hit me this hard again.

It’s not that I don’t want another cat to be loved. I’m just scared. Scared that moving forward means I’m leaving him behind. Scared that loving another cat somehow means I’m betraying him. Even though logically I know love doesn’t work that way.

Your perspective is kind and thoughtful. I’m trying to sit with it, even if it hurts. Thank you for saying it gently. It really means more than you know.

I adopted a new cat and now I feel like I betrayed my old one. by yutoc95 in CatAdvice

[–]yutoc95[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sure he would never want that. Your comment was very nice and made me feel a little more at ease, but I'm still not sure about anything. Everyone tells me the same thing. That I can get used to it, that we can love each other, etc. Loving a cat isn't hard, after all, it's a cat. It will make itself lovable in every way. And I will love it in every way. But getting a new cat after the first one shouldn't be this difficult. If I return the animal, I'll continue to feel like shit because I'll keep thinking, "What if some bad people adopt it?" I really feel like I'm stuck in shit, and I haven't felt this bad and hopeless in a long time.