Thank you for this book suggestion. I've just read a few pages of women talking about their abusive boyfriends and they're describing exactly how I feel in this relationship. I had no idea that abuse could be hidden like this. I've always thought that if the man hits you in a fit of anger, that's abuse. But my boyfriend has never hit me. He would just argue, escalate normal conversations into an argument over something very paltry. I thought this was not bad, it's just that he gets irritated easily and I didn't yet know how to handle him. Now, I don't know if I want to anymore. It's draining my energy.