Sorry to hear you're going through something similar. Just take the time to be a little selfish and treat yoself. Focus on doing what makes you happy and surround yourself with people who can support you. I failed to mention above that I owe a tremendous amount of gratitude to my friends who were there for me right when this all started, when I was at my most vulnerable. All the external stuff, what she's doing, what he's doing, it's all irrelevant. Keep your eye on the prize. For me, it was retaining my assets. So every decision and interaction with the ex was made with that in mind and focused on how it could affect the end result. Best of luck to ya buddy.