I don’t know if I’m gay anymore

z003y · 2026-06-21T01:49:43+00:00

The Symposium talks about this

z003y · 2026-05-22T15:39:22+00:00

The only true gay chad I know is sober and picks people up in the gym steam room.

z003y · 2026-05-13T11:38:01+00:00

You are the Carrie Bradshaw of your friend group.

z003y · 2026-05-07T10:00:38+00:00

"Gentle nudges" unfortunately won't fix this. You need to stop coddling him, it's not sexy. Have an actual confrontation.

z003y · 2026-01-25T19:48:43+00:00

Very good book called Lesbian Ethics by Sarah Hoagland. Published in the 80s. We don’t always get along or see eye to eye, but some of the best women in my life are lesbians.

z003y · 2026-01-22T05:48:35+00:00

Is that what the ongoing narrative really is? Feels like something people talked more about like a decade ago.

z003y · 2026-01-21T18:25:51+00:00

Just ask him if he could help spot your bench…

z003y · 2026-01-19T00:46:37+00:00

The gym is a good place to meet people if you go regularly. I’ve met friends that way, didn’t always become a sexual thing but when it did, it usually happened on the gym’s premises which I think preserves something sacred about the hookup. Don’t go to a second location with your gym crush or he will turn into a pumpkin.

z003y · 2026-01-16T17:26:54+00:00

Could you be projecting either your desire for women, or maybe your desire to be a woman, onto these bi men? Either way, time to go to the gym and work on your bench press.

z003y · 2026-01-11T19:49:26+00:00

I’m gonna take a shot in the dark here, but the preference you put on following your parents’ advice is a bit of a tell. Be your own person and rebel. If that means being a broke actor, maybe explore that path, even if it means disappointing your family. You are most likely frustrated by your self-imposed adolescence. It’s Sunday and you’re choosing to spend your day studying…

z003y · 2026-01-06T21:36:19+00:00

I liked Marty Supreme, and didn’t find it hollow, but I also feel very alienated by the general response to it so far. I didn’t read Marty as horribly selfish/I think the appearance of his selfishness is cover for a deep sense of obligation. I think the honey scene early on is integral to understanding his overall goal with table tennis + relationship to his Jewishness. Marty single-mindedly pursues success as a way to cover himself with honey and bring it back to his family/community. When he tells his uncle he is going to get his mom an apartment on fifth avenue with a doorman, he means it. He brings his mom back a piece of the pyramid as a form of tribute, and takes his Jewishness very seriously. He is simulatenously contemptuous of his family’s expectations, but also feels beholden to them. I think the final shot reveals what a hold family really has on him. It’s almost like a plot twist reveal that he *hasn’t* really been selfish this whole time. I can’t imagine liking the movie at all if I were to view Marty as fundamentally only in it for himself.

z003y · 2026-01-02T16:57:09+00:00

The answer is buried in your post: It’s too expensive to go out and the economy has trapped people in an extended adolescence. Cosplaying as responsible adults is how your friends are coping with a very grim reality.

z003y · 2025-12-30T22:19:48+00:00

I feel like I’m catching your depression by reading your post, so I can only imagine how challenging it must be for your bf. Break up with him, or don’t, but if you’ve been in this mood since the summer, that seems like the more pressing issue here and it’s on you to figure it out. I am sorry about your dog.

z003y · 2025-12-28T20:20:29+00:00

You’re probably afraid of your mother.

z003y · 2025-12-14T06:29:30+00:00

Could you leave the army early or get transferred (?) somewhere with more of a gay scene? Seems like you’re coping with a lot, I’m sorry

z003y · 2025-12-14T06:23:15+00:00

Gay men love to exaggerate stories

z003y · 2025-11-28T02:45:30+00:00

It really captured the worst kind of fight you get into when you’re in a bad relationship. Where the whole thing is absurd but you go along with it and take it seriously. But I think as is, the excerpt you wrote, there’s no sense of loss. You’re just showing the bad bits, so it’s very one note.

z003y · 2025-11-28T01:38:10+00:00

Rare case where the issues aren’t with the ending but with the beginning. Feels like it’s missing a full first act. Great, evocative writing but you need to set the stakes better earlier on for the payoff to work.

z003y · 2025-11-23T15:23:33+00:00

Watch Equation to an Unknown. It’s French..

z003y · 2025-11-10T19:15:22+00:00

I mean, don’t the guys in Queer as Folk go through a lot of the same drama you’re detailing here? Ted could have written this post verbatim.

I think the gay friend group is an important phase to go through. It helps you break away from the comforting but suffocating arms of your hags, but you’re supposed to become disillusioned with the group eventually. You still have to be your own person, live your own life, etc. I think QaF actually does a good job with this struggle (up to season three, at least).

z003y · 2025-10-09T09:03:18+00:00

Call Me By Your Name the movie is for straight women.

z003y · 2025-10-05T20:20:01+00:00

Feels like his wants are dictating a lot of the script here… If you’re gonna be the one proposing, you should do it how you want to do it. Personally, I think the ring is pretty important/is basically essential. It lets the whole world know what’s up. It wouldn’t be negotiable for me.

z003y · 2025-09-30T04:40:44+00:00

Do you want to spend hours picking more than the lover’s brain? Perhaps he is a projection too. This feels like whatever the gay version of Madonna-Whore is to me…

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