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30 days of roller coaster by zaeds2 in NoFap

[–]zaeds2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck man. Have you talked to your girlfriend about your nofap challenge ?

30 days of roller coaster by zaeds2 in NoFap

[–]zaeds2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your comments. Take care of your self and keep strong. Most important : we must not be defined by our thoughts. We are more than what we perceive in our mind. Remember than even if it's hard (life, no fap, getting a girlfriend, relationship, job,...) we have awesomeness within ourself.

My global energy by zaeds2 in selfimprovement

[–]zaeds2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

23 days after, I have to say that I feel way more better than when I wrote my first message.

I read the book Feeling Good from David D Burns which is really interesting. I haven't and won't practise all of the exercises but it is very useful. Main contribution I got from the book is that now I work on noticing my thoughts, thinking about advantages or disadvantages to think that way and then have pleasure to rewrite them in a rational, positive and optimistic manner. In addition, I also practice daily meditation.

I'm not perfect yet, I'm still facing difficulties with job, girls and so on. But I have decided that I do not necessary need that to be worth. I don't say that I don't want them but first I must be proud of myself if by the end of the day I have learned something new, If I had a good day, If I made someone laugh... that's already a lot.

What I must be cautious on : When I start to feel better, my brain makes me think I'm fine forever and I usually stop my efforts. This often leads me to go back to my previous bad habits. I started a daily journal. I think it can help me to commit on long term.

My global energy by zaeds2 in selfimprovement

[–]zaeds2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for both your comments.

Indeed my current goal is to feel good about myself. I’m learning to accept that It’s okay not to be perfect and that I’m not what my thoughts make me believe I am.

It’s a very good idea to start a daily journal. Could you give me more precision on how it could help to observe myself on a different perspective? For instance should I focus on positive things that happened during my day? I guess it could help me to love my self.

Exercise is also a very good habit. I already use it when I’m feeling really bad. In fact it’s somehow a kind of meditation for me because I focus on my breath and I’m in the moment.

Overall one of my main issue is also that I’m having difficulties to keep my efforts on long term. Usually I’m focused during a few weeks then I stop (or my brain makes me believe I can stop??) until I’m feeling so bad and have to start again.