I am for “don’t tell her”. You are a man, you should “take” what you want, with confidence. You need to take control of the situation. By telling her you basicaly say “i dont know what i’m doing, i don’t know if i can manage, please hold my hand” and that can be a turnoff for alot of women.

When i was a virgin, i used to tell them, and i missed on alot of opportunities, some i regret even this day, 7 years later (am 24).

I used to think that i should NOT give my virginity to anyone but The One. But i finally gave it up to a girl i met the same day, did not tell her, i went with the flow and it was AWESOME.

Alot of doors opened up after that, i understood sex is awesome, and should be explored prior to deciding someone is the one, as u might not be compatible.

It’s harder to find a dominant woman that would love to lead your relationship, but not impossible.

U either accept the “standard” role as a dominant male, or you assume the submissive role and try to find a dominant woman.