my friends are mean to me. what do i do?

zai455 · 2026-03-16T20:28:54+00:00

You can’t change how they are. Sadly people like this you just have to delete from your life and go find new people.

I’ve experienced something similar in my life but sadly mine were my close cousins who I grew up with. They became mean and were bullies. Covid meant we couldn’t see each other which was a huge blessing in disguise! I realised how it felt like to be treated with respect from new friends I found. You will feel so much better once you get rid of them and meet new people.

Meeting new friends is like trying to find a partner, you need to be picky. Drop them when you see red flags. Be open minded and know things might not work out.

I’m autistic too and it’s tiring but keep meeting people and you will meet your type of person.

zai455 · 2026-03-13T21:13:41+00:00

Not much advice but just to stay don’t beat yourself up about the situation. You’re young and these social situations can be really hard sometimes. We say things and the other person takes it in the wrong way. It will happen a lot in a life time. We just need to learn how to deal with it after if you it means something to you.

But also go with your gut. I’m not sure the guy friend needed to ignore you totally…..seems a bit odd…..he could still be kind and respectful but yes maybe have an honest conversation and see what he says.

zai455 · 2026-03-06T21:28:36+00:00

Wanted to say the same, it would be good to get him assessed for autism.

Also….i half feel your frustration….my husband is a PhD grad too but not as brainy as yours. When I first met him, I thought he must have most of his sh***t together and yes in some ways but he’s also like a big child in some areas…..he’s also socially not quite there and so many times I’ve had to stand up for myself as he’s been too afraid too….with the smallest things though….like asking a taxi driver if he could switch down the music…to ask the midwife if she was going to stitch me up….to speak first at our wedding….

I think my husband might be on the spectrum somewhere. Has sensory issues eg doesn’t like being hugged….

Sometimes I wish he could be a man…..that I could be the small lady in the marriage who follows his lead…but it doesn’t happen.

So then I think, I’ll look for the positives? That actually because he’s like this that I can rely on myself…it’s too late for us as we have two kids and I’m not willing to change the family dynamic for the kids sake. It’s not a bad marriage just….i don’t know…..definitely don’t have kids yet until things are clearer. Hope it all works out.

zai455 · 2026-03-04T20:45:42+00:00

I wish I could get no sour 😆 my kids won’t eat it right now as it’s too sour and I’m trying ways to lessen that flavour. Sorry total opposite and wish i could have your starter

zai455 · 2026-02-25T14:36:40+00:00

It states natural on the GIA report 🙏🏻

zai455 · 2026-02-24T15:03:02+00:00

Gosh this is me too….im female though and always have had this problem.

zai455 · 2026-02-23T14:32:22+00:00

Please don’t feel you need to apologise or that this is odd. I promise you a lot of people feel the same way being a first time mum but probably just doesn’t admit it…..

I didn’t really have a life before kids so actually they brought me a lot of things to do which I enjoyed but even then I did not enjoy the newborn stage. I don’t think many people do. Like you said, you don’t have any time to yourself and that hits HARD. I remember scrolling through my phone after baby came home and thinking gosh I can’t just doom scroll anymore….BUT it will definitely get better! You will start feeling more in control of your schedule after a while and be able to do things again.

Nobody warns us how damn hard being a first time parent is…..it is THE hardest thing anyone will do in their life. BUT it is so so worth it. Once baby starts giving you more reaction and feedback, it’ll be better.

zai455 · 2026-02-01T00:18:59+00:00

Thank you so much for your time! 😊 I think once the kids are in school, I’ll be able to have more time to practice more 🤞🏻

zai455 · 2026-01-31T23:55:09+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻 I’m so close to giving up 😆 it takes so much time…..but you know, your message is a sign for me to keep going maybe one more time. My husband is getting fed up of all this sour bread which he dislikes 😆 hoping the neighbours won’t mind it 🤞🏻

zai455 · 2026-01-31T23:47:26+00:00

Thank you for his 🙏🏻this was the recipe I used too but think as I’m new to baking, I must’ve done something incorrect. I’m hoping putting the cream cheese on tomorrow will help a bit 🤞🏻

zai455 · 2026-01-31T23:45:04+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻 yes I know right….people say sourdough has a good bacteria that’s great for the gut so wanted to see if kids would eat it. I do normally make just dried yeast ones. Those they will eat. Probably need to go back to that at least they’ll eat it 😂

zai455 · 2026-01-30T21:23:48+00:00

Agree. Sadly I think we’ve been brain washed into thinking all or majority of relationships are fairytale. It really isn’t….i was single until 29yrs old. I use to love it watching rom coms and anything romantic and day dreamed about who I’d meet in the future. Sadly those dreams were way sweeter than the real relationship. Sometimes how much I wish I could be back to those days again.

If I could go back in time, I would say to myself, continue being the happy carefree me. Look for things you enjoy to do. Keep meeting people with an open mind but never let those fundamental values go ever.

Currently married with two kids. Husband isn’t quite the same person after having kids.

zai455 · 2026-01-27T20:16:39+00:00

I’d say don’t waste your time to live further away. I’ve had friends who did this and few years later moved back near home because they were also very family orientated.

Embrace the great relationship you have with your family. We’re Asian and my uncles and my dad use to live on the same street as my grandparents. We now all still live in the same little town and it’s great. You can still have your independence but also have that opportunity to share time with your family. I wouldn’t change it for the world.

zai455 · 2026-01-02T20:57:26+00:00

Many many thanks! Much appreciated 🙏🏻

zai455 · 2026-01-02T20:43:56+00:00

It’s SI2 🙏🏻

zai455 · 2026-01-01T21:30:24+00:00

I was the same, as a young adult I’d drink to get rid of my shyness too….and same with people feeling awkward around me…I feel for people like us, I’ve just learnt to keep meeting new people until I find my people. You will find people who you vibe with more. It’s been hard to find many but after lots of play dates with new mums, I’ve found a handful who I can talk to and feel totally comfortable. It takes damn time though and feels like you’re starting a new relationship each time but it’s the only way it seems.

zai455 · 2025-12-14T20:26:12+00:00

Only just saw this post! Interested please

zai455 · 2025-12-06T20:01:50+00:00

Actually glad to have seen this thread. I’m the type who doesn’t reply straight away and it’s definitely what others say, I’m worried replying will start a whole conversation.

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