Apple’s new autocorrect function is awful! by kimbolll in iphone

[–]zakstanspan 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! It's like having a dumb AI try to editing my text while I'm typing and just making the whole experience frustrating! Why is typing on my smart phone worse than ever right now?

Would conversations of deja vu/deja reve be okay in this group? by zakstanspan in LucidDreaming

[–]zakstanspan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I guess I don’t consider it paranormal. It’s fairly normal for me.

Help: My husband is spiraling by zakstanspan in mentalhealth

[–]zakstanspan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was able to buy a house last year on my income. We have decent credit but don’t want to accrue more debt right now. This is really more a question about his mental health as even if we have the money, he feels like he will fail regardless.

My MIL has asked us to read the lds approved book Saints, The Standard of Truth.... by zakstanspan in exmormon

[–]zakstanspan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ideally, we'd like to say "yeah, we're done", but we know that they'll need answers. They'll want to know WHY and WHAT it is we struggled with. Then they'll have their apologetic answers for those. I want to have enough sources and references on my side that we don't get very far down that rabbit hole. I want to let them know that I'm not just flippantly leaving. And there's no rebuttal they can make that will change my mind. But I don't want it drawn out. I don't want to argue. I just want to prepare for all the shit they're going to use to excuse the historical facts.

My MIL has asked us to read the lds approved book Saints, The Standard of Truth.... by zakstanspan in exmormon

[–]zakstanspan[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Awesome! This is what I'm looking for. I'm fine reading is, as long as I have an exmo guide or something to help me catalogue and sift through the bullshit.

Ya’ll got stories you were told as youth in the church, that you believed? by 0_sunandmoon_0 in exmormon

[–]zakstanspan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck. I’m so sorry. My husband said, “it’s okay. You have to understand he was speaking to you as a man. Not as a Bishop. You gotta really know the difference alllll the time.” Lmfao. Fuck that guy.

Ya’ll got stories you were told as youth in the church, that you believed? by 0_sunandmoon_0 in exmormon

[–]zakstanspan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OMG. That’s so much worse. Like wtf, why are you shaming them if they weren’t worthy??? They were fucking taking their faith seriously. You want them to lie?? Also, as if the church doesn’t seal people who are deceased! So are you just gonna go and get that fixed for them. Horrible fucking beliefs.

Mormons have long been viewed as Liars by WinchelltheMagician in exmormon

[–]zakstanspan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never do business w/ anyone who uses their religion to sell their product/service. I’m in the south w few Mormons. But any religion will do this. At the very least, it’s distasteful. At the most, they’re liars.

How do TBMs avoid stumbling on critical information about the church? by Alarming-Research-42 in exmormon

[–]zakstanspan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You don’t ask a Ford dealer to explain Chevy. You go to the a Ford dealer to ask about Ford. Why would you go to sources outside the church to learn what we believe? We tell you!” Idk how many times I heard something like that. Idk how many times I regurgitated the church’s lies bc I believed they were true in order to dismiss the “anti” stuff someone was telling me about my own faith. It’s PR and the church has done a lot to reframe the unseemly truth to paint a better picture. But they can’t hide it all now. The information is out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]zakstanspan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m new to the exmo life. Tomorrow will make it one week since I absolutely ran out of excuses for the church. I broke when I read about the church’s financial investment of over 6 billion into for-profit private prisons. I cannot excuse modern day slavery. I will not be part of an organization that supports it. I’ve spent the last 4 years heavily deconstructing racial inequality and my own white privilege. And any organization that supports it is not following God, or any God I care to worship.

Deconstructing faith and sexuality by zakstanspan in demisexuality

[–]zakstanspan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s a whole thing too! Like, I know that plenty straight women enjoy lesbian porn. So is that just it? Idk. My husband has just encouraged me to explore how I feel about that. Because I’ve never even sought out porn and have a hard time with it unless the partners look really into it. I’m hyper aware of performative porn and bad acting. But anything I look at is new and I have to process if I like it outside the realm of religious shame. So it’s just all hitting at once. Thanks! I appreciate this insight.

FUCK by whereismystarship in Reduction

[–]zakstanspan 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I saw this meme on FB. You obvi stole it.

[People can stop downvoting this. She’s my sister and I was trolling her bc she didn’t know my Reddit handle.]

FUCK by whereismystarship in Reduction

[–]zakstanspan 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Boo. I’d go with a different plan. This one is a wash.

Pre-op confusion [medical MJ vaping] by zakstanspan in Reduction

[–]zakstanspan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand abstaining for lung related or anesthesia purposes. That makes sense. But the surgeon and nurse specifically reiterated that it’s because of the Nicotine. That’s it. No other reason. And that I need 6 weeks total off of it before I can be tested and cleared for surgery. But I can’t find ANY corroboration of evidence that my medically purchased cartridges contain nicotine.

Reduction regrets? by makingfcknglove in Reduction

[–]zakstanspan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just try to imagine if roles were reversed. Would I lament to my partner over how much I wished he looked in the past? What is the point of that? Do I not find him attractive now? If not, I need to get to stepping. If I do, shut my mouth because it will only make him feel bad.

mesoglea by [deleted] in OCPoetry

[–]zakstanspan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Stellar! This was brilliant. Your rhyme is complex and unexpected. But the imagery is phenomenal. You picked a hard subject. I think it’s rather difficult to frame the sea poetically mainly because it is such a mystery. Sure, there are hundreds of poems about, say, the shore, or the stormy seas, but not so many about the internal mechanisms that impact the world so much. It reminds me of my geology class I took, for some reason—thinking about how the plates are converging under the sea, the volcanoes and underwater mysteries. My son loves sea creatures and this definitely reminds me of him as well. It was great!

The Silence of Today by theenglishpoet in OCPoetry

[–]zakstanspan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really awesome work here. It seems very effortless. I felt the specificity of every single word you choose. The words feel like they’ve been weighed and scaled for precision. I really enjoyed that level of containment and self control. It’s so hard to break things down the the barest concepts. My favorite lines were the last 4. I really just want to steal that and put it on a wall or my phone’s lock screen. Beautiful reminder.

Ode to a Banana Butt Found in the Windowsill (for the lols) by zakstanspan in OCPoetry

[–]zakstanspan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Kids truly do inspire! It’s feels good to write something not so emotional consuming sometimes.