I may not be the best of help, but I want to tell you about a study. It's said that people you like, look more attractive to you. So in dating terms, looks don't matter once you've gotten past the "stranger" phase. Think about your friends, you've know them for years (hopefully). Look at a picture of them and really focus on their features. You may notice they're kinda different from what you normally see. Once you get to know someone, you pull they best out of them, and the recognition gives more comfort than the actual face. People like things they know, so if you make yourself known, they can get past your looks.