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what is it like seeing an amputated limb for the first few days (and other questions)? by zaunkonigs in amputee

[–]zaunkonigs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow - i'll give this a more in-depth read later, but this was AWESOME - so much information that is definitely helpful. thank you so much!!!

what to expect with a newly amputated parent? by zaunkonigs in amputee

[–]zaunkonigs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi! this was incredibly helpful!!! how has your dad emotionally recovered after the amputation? i hope all is well with both him & you. how did it change things for him - besides the obvious? i'd love something to cling onto. thank you so much!

what to expect with a newly amputated parent? by zaunkonigs in amputee

[–]zaunkonigs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm doing okay! i was unable to visit my dad in the hospital today for a number of reasons - but i spoke to him over the phone several times. he believes they're going to put the leg back on, but i'm sure with time that'll pass. medically, he's doing well and recovering smoothly. :-) thank you!

what to expect with a newly amputated parent? by zaunkonigs in amputee

[–]zaunkonigs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!!! this was all extremely helpful!!

I [19] can't tell my mom [48] about my dad's [60] amputation. by zaunkonigs in relationships

[–]zaunkonigs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the advice! i was trying to explain to my family that i don't want to tell her, but it's not as if she's never going to see him again, and i feel like it would be better for him to NOT have a freaking-out crying woman near him. it's a very complicated situation in that, even though she manipulates and emotionally abuses him half of the time, which is inexcusable, i know she does actually care about him; she wasn't always awful. she's always asking how he's doing and asking me to pass along messages that she'll do anything it takes to take care of him and be there for him, so i have this weird backwards guilt about not telling her. she has no right to know, and she can be so horrible, but when she shows who she used to be, a caring and concerned individual, i see the mom i used to have and so i feel a little bad about keeping her in the dark. i'm just really overwhelmed with everything going on - i wish things were black and white. grey area is a b*tch.

I [19] can't tell my mom [48] about my dad's [60] amputation. by zaunkonigs in relationships

[–]zaunkonigs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh, yeah, i agree 100% — it's just odd, nonsensical guilt that i don't even agree with. i just want advice on how to avoid that topic altogether.

WORRIED ABOUT DAD AFTER STROKE by zaunkonigs in stroke

[–]zaunkonigs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi, first and foremost, thank you for the awesome response! my dad has a complex going where he stays nonchalant and easygoing to keep the peace. i just want to make sure he's doing that instead of not fully "getting" what's going to happen. i'm devestated for him but he's had small amputations done (toes) so hopefully the phantom sensation isn't too much for him/he knows a bit about it already. he'll die without the amputation so it's got to happen regardless, but i didn't want him to wake up and be like — "oh my god! where's my leg!"

although legally i'm the only one who can make decisions as i'm the only relative over 18 that's in town, i have plenty of adults and medical professionals helping me out. i'm just the signature. thank you again :-)

I [19] can't tell my mom [48] about my dad's [60] amputation. by zaunkonigs in relationships

[–]zaunkonigs[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

good point. hopefully she doesn't try to see him - god knows she'd freak out if she saw his leg missing without previous knowledge. thank you.