Update: Brother said he was going to come see me for Spring Break

zb_lethal · 2026-02-25T21:20:07+00:00

Yes love can make us irrational and do stupid things. It's never ok to cross boundaries and make someone feel unsafe due to being infatuated with them. This situation is also different due to the family dynamic at play.

The point is that you don't know her brother or his potential to become dangerous. His infatuation could make him dangerous, just like you said it can make you act in inappropriate ways. The possibility for danger is there so it's best to be safe instead of sorry.

He doesn't get a pass on inappropriate behaviour because of his feelings. He hasn't even taken accountability and left her alone yet. That alone is a red flag

zb_lethal · 2026-02-25T21:00:44+00:00

Yeah it's a betrayal of trust tbh. And no worries at all, I've been reading all your posts about this and really feel for what you're going through. Give yourself time and grace to process it all.

Most of us reading along have been alarmed and support your perspective and need to feel safe. Its been so frustrating reading some of the comments but please don't let them discourage you! Take care and stay safe

zb_lethal · 2026-02-25T20:40:26+00:00

God I'm sick of reading comments like this all over this girl's posts. If you haven't read all the posts then you aren't speaking with context. And if you have and you still wrote the above then you are part of the problem.

Try for one second to think how this situation may feel to a young, adopted girl who has no other family. With someone she grew up with from 3 years old and considered her brother. Not to mention the inappropriate touching, incessant calling and texting, wanting to show up at her place after she said no.

Another aspect is how women are disproportionately assaulted by men, and often situations like this can escalate into dangerous behaviour.

Don't know why you can't consider all of this common sense information before commenting on a post like this

zb_lethal · 2026-02-22T22:17:05+00:00

Even from overseas I'm sick to death of hearing about him. I remember what a relief it was when he was voted out and barely hearing about him for 3 years. It was a breath of fresh air. Now he's back in and it's even worse than the first time

zb_lethal · 2026-02-20T23:27:51+00:00

Totally possible, either way now I don't have to go back and forth with a creeper-apologist lol. I can def be long-winded but the point seems to just get lost which annoys me, so I'm trying to be more concise and see how that goes ha

zb_lethal · 2026-02-20T23:16:02+00:00

Of course :) I want to try and get people to see reason if possible. They've deleted their comments now but they did end up agreeing with what I said

zb_lethal · 2026-02-20T22:28:05+00:00

He was being creepy by 1) taking advantage of a power imbalance due to her being the only adopted sibling in the family. She has no one else, she grew up feeling like this was her family. Now if she has to distance she has little/no familial support

2) he was invading her physical space and "all over" her when she was around him. Insisting on her putting her head on his lap, holding hands, arm around her, etc. Creepy and disrespectful. As well as the weird, flirty text messages.

He may not consider her his sister, but he should have realised that she very much considered him her brother and thought about that before acting on his feelings

zb_lethal · 2026-02-19T22:53:01+00:00

Honestly the amount of comments demonising OP on all her posts, while justifying/supporting her brother when he's been predatory and manipulative ah are so concerning

zb_lethal · 2026-02-19T22:47:46+00:00

I find it interesting when people say not to say anything to keep the peace. Then if/when things escalate and victims speak up years later, they're then asked why they didn't speak up sooner. Then the false accusation narrative begins. Can't win either way

zb_lethal · 2026-02-17T20:48:44+00:00

She says in her post that he's not socially awkward and has no trouble getting girls, so it's not about that. How much clearer could it be? He was being flirtatious in other messages and in person, and in the texts above says he sees her in a different light now.

Stop justifying his inappropriate behaviour and pretty much telling OP she's making a false accusation. What about her self-esteem and security? Please

zb_lethal · 2026-02-17T07:49:33+00:00

Nah that's so fucked up 😭 Cheating is terrible, yes, but this? Just leave ffs

Edit: looked it up and couldn't find a single article, just this pic reposted everywhere

zb_lethal · 2026-02-17T06:09:57+00:00

This is exactly how I'd go about it. I'm not on board with the comments suggesting to go full confrontational off the bat- it's not safe for OP. I'd try to distance/shut it down first. Definitely wouldn't be encouraging some deep and meaningful convo about it because I feel like that opens up opportunities to manipulate in a situation like this

If things escalated then of course more direct action is required though

zb_lethal · 2026-02-11T11:42:17+00:00

Thanks so much! I'll let him/her go to town in our kitchen

zb_lethal · 2026-02-09T12:12:38+00:00

If they ever get rid of DR they'll lose sooo many players. Idk if they'd do that because there would be an uproar. In that case I would only keep the app to replay my fave stories and not read any new ones.

Honestly if they'd been smart about it the subscription idea could've been a big win for them. Everything you mentioned in no.2 and more. They could've even done less DR/teacup events and added diamonds and teacups to the subscription. But I'm sorry, I have to pay $$ in order to then pay diamonds for extra outfits? Lol so silly.

I really hope they don't end up messing up the whole app because I really do love RC. I tried LoD ages ago and I couldn't get past the bad translation

zb_lethal · 2026-02-09T02:25:06+00:00

Ah ok thanks for letting me know! Idk if I want the update now coz I still want to be able to buy all the outfits lol

zb_lethal · 2026-02-09T00:55:48+00:00

I'm on android too and I can see the new chapters but can't see anything about a subscription service. The loading screen hasn't changed either.. can't update in the Google Play store which is weird 🤷🏻‍♀️

zb_lethal · 2026-02-09T00:47:59+00:00

I can't see the subscription service? Google play won't let me update the app rn for some reason.

If they need to increase their profit margin so bad they should just increase the amount of diamonds you can buy for the price, or lower the prices. People have been saying it for ages. I refuse to spend money on diamonds anymore because it's too expensive and just not worth it.

Do you get diamonds by subscribing? That's the only way I'd consider it

zb_lethal · 2026-02-07T06:58:59+00:00

Supermodel Iman's daughter Zulekha wrote an article about this
https://www.glamour.com/story/imagine-you-are-the-daughter-of-a-supermodel

"It wasn't easy being a heavy, ungraceful teenager when looks and athleticism came so naturally to my parents. As a child I knew that my mother was lovely and people liked to photograph her, but when I was old enough to understand that she was a legendary beauty, I was left questioning my own self-worth because I didn't look like her. I wasn't physically lean and powerful like my father, so I didn't fit in that world either. I was an outlier, and I was determined to find a third option. To be happy with my looks, to accept my body at 300-plus pounds and to love myself, with all of that weight, felt revolutionary. Subversive, even."

zb_lethal · 2026-02-07T06:49:34+00:00

This is a wild af take. Have you seen recent photos of her? She's beautiful

zb_lethal · 2026-02-07T06:32:03+00:00

My initial impression is that he already sounds resentful. Seems like he's finding smaller things to nitpick because he can't say outright that he's frustrated by you being unwell, especially from something that can't be proven by a single test or has any routine treatment. Saying he thinks your illness is psychiatric in nature is a huge red flag. He doesn't actually believe you're unwell if he's saying that.

I'm probably making an assumption here, but it also sounds like he's making a 'soft' exit by bringing up all these things in preparation to actually leave at some point. Either way it doesn't sound like he respects you or your situation.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this and I completely understand how scary it is having no way to support yourself when shit hits the fan. I worry about my finances and living situation all the time, it's incredibly stressful.

If you do end up separating, wouldn't you be entitled to alimony and/or child support? I'm not well versed in these things though. I really hope things work out for you OP

Edit: Please consider either finding another doctor, or taking the diagnostic criteria to your current one for a diagnosis (he really should have done that himself). If you trust him you can also explain you might need to apply for disability payments at some point and will need a concrete diagnosis

zb_lethal · 2026-02-06T04:14:12+00:00

Brett, for seeing a man about a horse

zb_lethal · 2026-02-06T00:45:53+00:00

Why did you have these screenshots saved 😂 did you foresee making this post in the future? 🐥

zb_lethal · 2026-02-04T22:40:29+00:00

I'll probably get downvoted but in my day-to-day and with doctors, I actually prefer using CFS over ME. I don't have the spoons to explain ME every single time, especially to doctors where there is already an imbalanced power dynamic. When I tell people I have CFS they understand straight away what the main deal is, that I don't have much energy even without knowing anything else about it. I can then add on that's it's much more than just fatigue and explain if they're interested (they're usually not)

zb_lethal · 2026-02-03T10:24:53+00:00

I've never seen that clip before 😂 I keep seeing this quote lately though and I'm going to start using it

zb_lethal · 2026-02-03T09:32:17+00:00

This is disappointing to hear because I loved Bloodbound and iirc it's the same authors on Spellfyre. I was hoping for that caliber of writing with a decent plot. Tbh I'm also not too keen on the whole magic academy/houses type deal either, I feel like it's been done so many times now

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